I have found "what ifs" or "should haves" never really helped me. Only a recognition that things happened the way they did and instead of beating myself up, I train myself to focus that on a forward movement and the promise that when a similar thing happens again, I will make a different decision.
Yeah, I agree. I think sometimes that was out of regret, but sometimes just out of curiosity. I think you go through certain events and meet certain people based on your series of larger choices, and I just wonder what the alternate would have been. But…less now, as I am in the life I want.
Absolutely. Good or bad, we meet the people we have to meet, and often the "bad" relationships are the ones that bring us the furthest.
I agree. All of it is growth.