I see men as people, and I view the person I’m dating as my partner. Not an object. That makes the idea of paying someone to teach me how to emotionally manipulate or abuse a man unappealing, even if it means I “win” him
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Well said!
aug 1, 2025, 7:41 pm • 1 0 • view
Truth.
aug 1, 2025, 9:10 pm • 1 0 • view
This is also what I’ve never understood about the PUA stuff from the other end
aug 1, 2025, 9:32 pm • 1 0 • view
Seeing men and women as "value" (e.g. high-value or low-value) is entirely an ugly transactionalism that infests the male viewpoint. Even before the manosphere I knew plenty of guys that only thought about their worth this gruesomely. Capitalism has really done a number on us. 😰
aug 1, 2025, 7:45 pm • 5 0 • view
I don't know if there will ever be any major inroads into the male psyche about all the non-transactional benefits of companionship - company, mutual assurance, simple validation, etc. etc. - but I think there are men out there that do understand such things even without easy language to articulate.
aug 1, 2025, 7:45 pm • 4 0 • view
There definitely are!
aug 1, 2025, 7:46 pm • 3 0 • view
Dozens of seasons of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette have turned dating into competing with your peers instead of getting to know someone.
aug 1, 2025, 7:45 pm • 0 0 • view
I think there's an implicit assumption you're making here that a progressive bro role model is like some politically correct pick-up artist, and I don't think that's right.
aug 1, 2025, 7:56 pm • 0 0 • view
The worst of it is is that every social and technological trend is teaching us to be worse at understanding each other, by offering ever-lower-friction forms of validation; and I think the uptake on these things is quite a bit higher among boys and young men than among girls and women.
aug 1, 2025, 7:43 pm • 1 0 • view