I've deduced that NT's speak in lies. And they expect everyone else to also be liars. But the more words you use, the MORE of a liar, the bad kind, you are.
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I think we take the concept of "lies" quite literally, whereas allists have negative connotations for the concept, as opposed to various types of mistruthin' that are acceptable and even necessary, and therefore officially "not lies" even though they're statements contrary to fact. Intent matters.
aug 27, 2025, 2:49 pm • 14 1 • view
I read something that posited that the whole purpose of developing language is to facilitate lying. A cave-dweller doesn't need language to describe events as they are; they can just point. Im sure it's a just-so story, but it is interesting to think about.
aug 28, 2025, 1:37 am • 0 0 • view
i think lies have a specific intent behind them. NT ppl usually have a common cultural understanding of what is an actual lie and what is simply said because that is how things are done. declining offered valuables on the first offer is the first thing that comes to mind.
aug 27, 2025, 11:44 pm • 1 0 • view
I remember my mom screaming at me about lying to her because I answered her question but it wasn’t the whole answer, therefore it was lying by omission or a white lie. Messed with me so much. I could not figure out when a lie was to save friendships or when it was me being a terrible person.
aug 28, 2025, 5:06 am • 0 0 • view
So I gave up trying to navigate that. Now I do mental gymnastics to figure out how to tell the truth without sounding like a dick. The worst is telling someone their ugly baby is cute.
aug 28, 2025, 5:06 am • 0 0 • view
Personally, I wouldn't go so far as to call it lies. But I have found the second part to be true. The more I try to explain, the worse it is. I've learned to just shut up if a brief explanation doesn't clear things up. It might to hurt leave things misunderstood, but less than what would follow.
aug 27, 2025, 1:06 pm • 1 2 • view