Upon learning of my polyamory, saying things like “I’d want you all to myself” or “I’d give you all the love you’d want you wouldn’t need anyone else” isn’t quite the serve you think it is…
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"Oh that's selfish" or "I wish I was poly so I can sleep with anyone." Ew. I took the time and energy to learn the preferences and personalities of my wife, husband and partner. I went to my partner's wedding. They came to mine. Hubs was best man for me. We actually hang out and love each other. Duh
jun 25, 2025, 2:13 am • 2 0 • view
It's hard to explain to them that I'm just not about monogamy. Like, it's just not what my brain and heart want.
jun 24, 2025, 3:10 pm • 9 0 • view
oh, you’re polyamorous? if we were together i’d lock you up in my basement and never let you out 🥰😘
jun 24, 2025, 3:21 pm • 15 0 • view
Like, what is this, a Brontë novel? Why is their response always "oh, you found something that works for you? Well, if you were with me it would be all toxic possession all the time!"
jun 24, 2025, 4:00 pm • 8 0 • view
I’ve seen a lot of Jane Eyre movies; none true to the book enough to show the scene where Mr Rochester does gypsy drag and no one recognizes him because no one looked past outfits in those days.
jun 25, 2025, 1:43 pm • 0 0 • view
lol! You selfish boy! 😊😉 That’s what’s so fun about being poly. Everyone gets to share in the experience.
jun 24, 2025, 3:55 pm • 2 0 • view
😂🤣
jun 24, 2025, 3:22 pm • 7 0 • view
People who think they can I ercome someone else's natural inclinations are so wild to me. #TeamPoly
jun 24, 2025, 3:31 pm • 3 0 • view
“I love monogamy for you. Especially if you can find even one person who’ll put up with your bullshit. K tnx notnx bye”
jun 24, 2025, 2:39 pm • 5 0 • view
jun 24, 2025, 2:49 pm • 1 0 • view
Equal partnership poly is fine for people with free time and disposable income. I either want to start or join a coven that works and plays together and separate but mostly together. I’m comfortable alone; not happy alone.
jun 25, 2025, 1:52 pm • 0 0 • view
Literally happened in Florence when telling a local about my open relationship. It's not endearing.
jul 16, 2025, 6:23 am • 5 0 • view
FACTS.
jun 24, 2025, 1:04 pm • 2 0 • view
The audacity. Even saying that to a non-poly person is a huuuge red flag. Nope nope nope.
jun 24, 2025, 1:06 pm • 10 0 • view
Right?! Like: if sexual exclusivity works best for someone, fair. Couching it in terms of emotional possessiveness is grody. Reminds me of that woman in S. Carolina who drowned her own kids so she could spend more time with her boyfriend. The capacity to care about more than one person isn't a flaw.
jun 24, 2025, 1:28 pm • 8 0 • view
That's some Tales From The Crypt level of messed up right there. Heckin' yikes!
jun 24, 2025, 3:54 pm • 0 0 • view
Hahahahaha. Preach buddy.
jun 24, 2025, 1:10 pm • 4 0 • view
I’ve gotten “it’s a shame I’ll have to deal with your husband” and at that point why even bother talking to me lmao
jun 24, 2025, 1:19 pm • 26 0 • view
Uuuugh! And the disrespect of “oh you deserve so much better than that” Like you really think this is a winning arguement?
jun 24, 2025, 1:21 pm • 13 0 • view
I think it stems from people seeing others as challenges to be won and objects to be molded to their desire, rather than human beings to potentially build platonic and romantic relationships with. Really has the same energy to me as straight dudes claiming they can “convert” lesbians.
jun 24, 2025, 1:45 pm • 15 0 • view
"Spaghetti's straight until it gets wet" has the same energy, imo.
jun 24, 2025, 3:48 pm • 1 0 • view
Or someone saying they can turn any top into a bottom. Or shaming a professed top or bottom because they aren’t vers. Please. When did we stop letting people be who they are and what they enjoy. 🤨
jun 25, 2025, 12:59 am • 1 0 • view
You hit the nail on the head on both counts! It’s very similar to that energy!
jun 24, 2025, 1:54 pm • 9 0 • view
Ohhh fuck no. WTF That is straight up fucking rude. I would have blocked immediately.
jun 24, 2025, 1:25 pm • 8 0 • view
Yea this was someone I knew IRL, emphasis on past tense 🥰
jun 24, 2025, 2:35 pm • 4 0 • view
Sounds like a threat and you never know when the other's going to step up and tell you to try.
jun 24, 2025, 3:52 pm • 0 0 • view
Why do I get some serious Misery vibes when people say that stuff?
jun 24, 2025, 3:34 pm • 7 0 • view
OMG YES! That's it exactly!
jun 24, 2025, 3:42 pm • 1 0 • view
What also is a killer; we meet someone and think there is chemistry among all three of us, and then Michael or I gets a text from the third privately not on our group chat and they say “I really am attracted to you more so than the other…”. Ugh.
jun 24, 2025, 3:57 pm • 0 0 • view
I don’t hook up with couples who only play together; feels like an audition for a group I don’t care for.
jun 25, 2025, 1:39 pm • 1 0 • view
Saying I have, or am, a "side chick" or "player" is also not as clever as people think.🙄 Why do people have to be gross?
jun 24, 2025, 3:41 pm • 0 0 • view
Yeah, it sucks. Had a few shitty comments myself. But I see them as a big red flag of "Oh you want to own me, not be in a partnership, cool"
jun 25, 2025, 12:35 pm • 3 0 • view
Big oof.
jun 24, 2025, 1:49 pm • 2 0 • view
Yeah it's never "would love to hang with them too" or "that's great, tell me about them" or even "let's give you a wild story to tell them next time 😈 "
jun 27, 2025, 5:44 pm • 1 0 • view
You know what they say, “the mor the better!” sometimes I need some alone time and if you want some together time, at least you have your other partner to satisfy you. Everyone is happy at the end of the day and it could be healthier than a monogamous relationship
jun 24, 2025, 2:49 pm • 2 0 • view
Not sure I would classify one as “healthier” than the other. Its what works for those involved. Monogamy is what works for me. I’ve tried an open situation a few times. Just created too many problems in the relationship on both sides.
jun 25, 2025, 12:53 am • 1 0 • view
That’s why I said it could be happier. Communication is key and I feel like in a poly relationship you are forced to communicate your needs more than a monogamous relationship. That’s why i said it can be healthier in that regard! It could also get alot messier tho 😜
jun 25, 2025, 1:15 am • 0 0 • view
Agree communication is key but is important in either one. I know I have the capacity to care for more than one but its the intimacy, trust and love, for me, I only want to devote to one person.
jun 25, 2025, 1:21 am • 1 0 • view
Agreed!
jun 25, 2025, 3:13 am • 0 0 • view
It's always been a bit cringe. But imagining it being said to me is a huge nope.
jun 24, 2025, 1:51 pm • 2 0 • view
I've got like ... 25-35 minutes of love available, and then you'd be free to get back to your normal routine ;)
jun 24, 2025, 1:29 pm • 3 0 • view
It’s like “Thanks for doing the work of vetting you for me! I can already see you don’t listen! An important part of this complete breakfast!”
jun 24, 2025, 1:32 pm • 2 0 • view
🤣🤣🤣. So many monogamous people want to make you join their team
jun 24, 2025, 1:18 pm • 12 0 • view
Gods, yeah, possessiveness has become such a turn off for me. Like, if you want to express your affection for me, tell me how you'll shut me out to your friends and partners 🥵🤤
jun 25, 2025, 5:27 pm • 1 0 • view
In fact, for me, it is a red flag to stay the fuck away from them.
jun 24, 2025, 5:39 pm • 1 0 • view
People need to learn to think before they speak… I have had some very rude shit said to me unintentionally when I tell them I am poly.
jun 25, 2025, 12:32 pm • 3 0 • view
If they’re rude I’m very matter of fact when I tell them so. And I return the exact energy I am given with regards to it!
jun 25, 2025, 1:33 pm • 2 0 • view
As you should. I turn very British in those situations “was that the intent of that of that statement?” Or something to that affect.
jun 25, 2025, 1:38 pm • 1 0 • view
Ooooo yes I like that one!
jun 25, 2025, 1:44 pm • 2 0 • view
Or the alternative: “They don’t mind you cheating?” “Leave some for the rest of us!” “Oh, that’s too much for me.”
jun 24, 2025, 4:40 pm • 2 0 • view
Perfectly said
jun 24, 2025, 1:24 pm • 1 0 • view