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e (they/them) @certificates.bsky.social

"give men advice how to get laid" treat people you're sexually interested in like human beings, cultivate self confidence and genuine interest in things, and put some effort into conveying that in social scenarios. you don't need to trick people into sex. "no, like real advice"

aug 1, 2025, 3:42 pm • 108 1

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Dalassa @dalassa.bsky.social

My basic advice is always to find a hobby that’s done in mixed gender groups. It’s not to pick up women, it’s to learn how to treat women as people rather than mysterious beings.

aug 1, 2025, 4:18 pm • 63 1 • view
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Dr. Sheila Addison @drsaddison.bsky.social

I tell men to find a hobby that mostly women do. I keep trying to convince my widower father to go take a basic knitting or crocheting class at the yarn store. He'd have 20 "girlfriends" of all ages overnight. (to be clear: they'd be friends, not necessarily romances. but he'd be less lonely.)

aug 2, 2025, 8:18 pm • 1 0 • view
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Nick Garcia @nwgarcia.bsky.social

I took ballroom dance for a semester in college. I was one of 3 men. Did I learn a new skill that made me more confident, and helped me tolerate being a little vulnerable and socially uncomfortable? Yes. Did I get to move in rhythm with 20 different women for an hour each week? Also, yes.

aug 1, 2025, 4:36 pm • 50 0 • view
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TubaPeter.com @tubapeter.bsky.social

Ballroom dancing is dope.

aug 1, 2025, 5:42 pm • 9 0 • view
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elena @typoaspraxis.bsky.social

Did you learn how to whisk?!

aug 1, 2025, 8:23 pm • 0 0 • view
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Nick Garcia @nwgarcia.bsky.social

That might have been a 2nd semester thing!

aug 1, 2025, 11:30 pm • 1 0 • view
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Antinea⚧️ @antinousb.bsky.social

no no no, u need to build a brand/personality on getting laid and provide a complex explanation y they haven't gotten laid in the past. like if u dont have entire personalities based around the topic, what are men supposed to copy?

aug 1, 2025, 5:06 pm • 0 0 • view
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strafio.bsky.social @strafio.bsky.social

That's pretty much what the article says. It makes the point there's an opportunity to offer a more positive alternative to the PUA crowd.

aug 2, 2025, 12:14 am • 0 0 • view