Dating non-monogamously can be tricky no matter what -- lots of people aren't into it, which is fine -- but I remember what the app experience used to be like even just pre-pandemic, and it's kind of astounding how much worse it is now. And I think a lot of that is down to the apps themselves!
Is Feeld still the only place for poly folks to date? (I don’t count the nightmare that is FetLife as a dating site.) I haven’t had a dating app on my phone since 2019 and cannot imagine how bad they are now.
Hinge, Bumble and Tinder have all — to varying degrees — made it possible to list/filter for it, but Feeld is the only one explicitly for it and also the only one that doesn’t rely on swiping to see a full potential range of matches
I would absolutely love to see an(anonymized, obviously) Ashley Madison-style leak of Match's servers, just to get a sense of what the actual engagement numbers and data looks like, because it feels like they're trying to cover for the fact that folks are abandoning their products in droves
Honestly do not know how people realistically date anymore
OKC was a totally useful app when I was using it 2018-2020, give or take. It was super easy to meet people there! Now on the rare occasions I even remember to look at it, it's like a ghost town with what are clearly a bunch of abandoned profiles.
Do any of us have entrepreneurial sense, because I feel like there's an opening for someone to make a very obvious website
It would be *so easy* to make a dating app that works, but (a) you have to have a critical mass of people using it, and (b) a truly useful app probably wouldn't make much money bc the fees the main ones charge for functionality are a big part of the problem
What if I told you that we could drive both usership and ad revenue by supplementing the app with notably quirky personality quizzes
honestly just re-creating 2018 OKC would be a public service
OK this thread made me curious so I just took a look at OKC and unbelievably they have made changes to the desktop interface design to make it EVEN LESS USABLE
I’m telling you, if either of us was anything other than an ineffectual and effete creative type, we’d be sitting on a goldmine
“What if we took away everything that made OKC good, and added everything that makes Tinder bad?”
and then made it even worse
My wife and I met on OKC back in 2011. Back then the service was good and the concept of the quizzes were a good way to find matches.
I met my husband on there back in 2012 and it was a really fun place to meet people. It sucks that it’s degraded into something unusable
I gave up on apps around 2013 because they were so bad THEN, I have no idea how they could get even worse!
They've gotten noticeably worse since 2019, and they weren't great then, either
I'm more than a little convinced that the fabled loneliness crisis in America is a result of the collapse of usable dating apps
One last thing: I was reminded of this funny interaction I had with OkCupid back in 2021