Yeah, there's a really great bit in The Will To Change where bell hooks talks about telling her boyfriend to open up, but then rejecting him when he did because she didn't actually want to do the work that it created.
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But also, when men -- or anyone -- talk about their feelings in an impulsive way, it can do harm to themselves and others, e.g. treating people as therapists who aren't, or just outright nastiness. I'm very clear with my partner that I share my thoughts at my pace, after processing them.
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