And in exchange for their "good works" ? I was a ward of the state of California from 1 1/2 to the day I ran away at 16, 19 homes in that short time. I will state this: The "good Christians" who considered it their "duty" were the absolute worst. I have had my fill of God's love...it leaves scars.
I'm truly sorry for your poor start at life. I was emotionally abused by my birth mother. I was lucky to find mentors that helped me build strength from disparity. I'm sorry you weren't as lucky.
I fixed my problem by understanding this...it doesn't matter what they say..it matters what they did and continue to do and lie about. Some people need a carrot and stick. Good people don't.