Part of the problem is it is men who are doing things that women find somewhat attractive but men find extremely attractive. Often the left gets women interested in them by doing things that many men find repetitive but women find incredibly attractive.
Being a kind man who makes their life tea and buys flowers is a thing men hate. You need to get a woman by pumping iron and getting swole for… other men to complement. This is for some reason not gay. Who cares if you more attractive to men than women… it’s not gay.