“Brianna Wu follower”

I have horrendous adhd. I also know how to concisely answer a question with the realization that pertinence is pertinent, and the professional helping me does not need to know everything that led up to that moment, starting when I was 5 and pushed my sister Edith down the stairs and blamed the dog.

I share this experience so much. I feel like fighting that urge and learning to get really iron-clad with the answer is a key masking skill that fuckton a of us learn (and then being that straightforward ALSO gets called a symptom?)

In my working life I’ve learned to try to find an analogy whenever I want to get into The Details.

My mother was absolutely brutal and nasty about cutting to the chase when I tried to tell her a story my entire life, so thank God that at least taught me to be goddamn concise and not waste other people's time with a lot of crap that only matters to my feelings.

I have a friend who refuses to do that, and there are times when I just won't answer the phone when she calls, because I don't have 3 hours to listen to a year's worth of build up to the actual reason why she's calling.

Yeah. When my wife tells me anecdotes it’s fine because a) she’s my godamn wife, we do it to each other and that’s different from anyone else doing it and b) we talk enough that “as of the last 2 hours” backstory is about as far back as it goes, but for anyone else? Nope!

This is entirely different if we’re sitting around a fire pit catching up or w/e, of course.

The fire pit is for long stories — so long as they're entertaining! (What kills me is the people who just can't leave ANYTHING out and nest their damn digressions.)

My friends have the magic ability to either generate tea or to spin it from straw, which is kinda magical in it’s own way (Downside is mostly it‘a just “hot tea gets dumped into their lap on the reg”)

Sure; i tell my friends longer versions, as well. Just not people I'm asking for help. And if my friends are busy, I cut to the chase. I don't want to be the person no one wants to talk to. 😬

And that last bit is probably a massive concern for a fuckton of us (which maybe explains some of the defensive “that’s ableism” responses?)

That may be, but suck it up. That's definitely an us-problem, not a them-problem.

Aaaand there it is

*morphs into Carly Simon* You walked into the thread like you were walking into the spot Your avatar strategically dipped below one eye Your reply it was all for naught You had one eye in the mirror as you watched yourself gavotte

And all the posters dreamed that they'd be first blocker They'd be your blocker, and.... You're so lame, you probably think this post is about you You're so lame, I'll bet you think this post is about you Don't you? Don't you?

Yeah... They're correlated with experiential avoidance, which is available to basically everyone all the time.