Someone can be beautiful despite our scars, but the healing & strength are what is beautiful. Getting molested & terrorized since I was a hapless, defenseless infant in a country in which child-molestation is basically prescribed & demanded has destroyed & cursed me & violently prevented
me from productivity & artistic pursuits. Arbitrary forgiveness enables child-molestation, genocide, & other atrocity. The resolution not to forgive deliberate, remorseless abuse is often far more effective at resolving grief than forgiving & thus persistently endorsing unconscionable violations.
(According to the research of Dr. Jeanne Safer)