Not accusing you of anything. I obviously have no idea how close you are to her, but I'd be curious to ask her why she feels compelled to vote that way if indeed her vote is private. Abused women are often afraid their partner will find things out that might make them angry. Perhaps that's why.

No, I think it’s just easier for her to be passive & follow his lead. She may vote Democrat for all I know (we barely discuss politics) but again, I have no idea.

Well, I hope she is safe. I sure wouldn't want to live that way. Take care of yourself and thanks for sharing!