You are right. In times of tragedy, which will draw the MOST readership from those that choose to not recognize transgender people, those of us who do should stop caring about gendering them correctly? That is stupid and frankly an excuse. It validates the ignorant. Be that person if you wish.
Is that better? I was easing into it so it didn’t immediately alienate. Many of us talk a big game about loving and respecting transgender people (and other marginalized groups), but are quick to excuse our own missteps when the shit hits the fan. There… that’s what I wanted to say. I feel better.