It’s hard to express this without sounding at best MRA adjacent but there’s definitely a strain of the culture that demonizes men in general and I wonder if that ends up leading to “men are suspect, men who love men doubly so”
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What is troubling about it is it doesn't allow people to develop antibodies to abusive behavior from people who aren't men. Like, I don't want to talk shit here but lesbians have statistically worse DV rates than cops
aug 23, 2025, 1:36 pm • 1 0 • view
oh yeah, for sure. and the amount of it that comes from *us* in the form of internalized homophobia has always been bad, but it's REALLY bad among LGBTs under 30ish. I've been worried about it for a while, and I really do believe that social media is what's driving it.
aug 23, 2025, 1:27 pm • 3 0 • view
and yeah, not go get MRA adjacent myself, but trying to engage in any dialogue on this topic is just fuckin cursed, my GOD. you literally can't even begin to talk about it without somebody coming into your mentions and accusing you of being toxic and coercive and abusive. it's genuinely a *problem*.
aug 23, 2025, 1:30 pm • 3 0 • view
I literally had three younger male employees tell me at my old job that men aren't supposed to talk about relationships & sex in an exclusively male-coded way because it's inherently problematic/dangerous, and I was dear god, wtf have you guys been reading online that has put this in your heads??
aug 23, 2025, 1:33 pm • 6 0 • view
What is an exclusively male coded way to talk about that?
aug 23, 2025, 1:54 pm • 0 0 • view
The straight lady therapy speak has invaded the culture and it's not good. They want gay men to be cute little toys for their little fun family until they get a man of their own. The stories from so many gay men who did so are just...ooph. It can be very isolating.
aug 23, 2025, 1:50 pm • 3 0 • view