Which is up to you. What forgetting things means may differ in our philosophies though! I don't forget, don't let these people back in to harm me, but I forget they exist to all intents and purposes. They cease to bother me. Yours sounds more taxing, more on the edge of vengeance.

I'm not saying my take is better, but as a former depressive ruminator I found adopting it a revelation!

I fully understand. I hope i didn't come across judgmental. I know it's not in me to forgive. I move on by cutting all contact with those who have did me wrong. Everyone is different and being able to find peace with yourself is what we all seek or should strive to.

No, no, not at all! I think of one particular person when I talk about this, someone who harmed me greatly, and I cut off all contact long ago, but for years they haunted me and impacted on my present. Now they don't. I took time to understand them.

Eventually I figured they didn't actually want to be that person, they were harmed terribly as a child, this carried on, I was hurt as a sort of factor of their abuse. I forgive them. I also want absolutely nothing to do with them! They're proper nuts!

Sorry to hear that, for all concerned.

Ach, it's life. Best to see what good you can extract from these situations, and I reckon my life is better for knowing them all told. I didn't mean for that to take such a serious turn!

Me neither but that's life. It's good to share unless you're a racist, a fascist or a coldplay fan.

Hehehe! Aye, that lot can fuck right off. There's a good argument that Coldplay fans are the worst of the lot... I'm sure.