Focusing on masculinity at this moment in our time is abhorrent. Masculinity apologists need to get over themselves. A healthy masculinity is natural and easily achieved when the subject is not invested is hitting masculinity “achievement thresholds,” but instead invests in de-centering themself.

Point is there is not a both. There is humanity which you can choose to be a good or bad version of a human. Masculinity is just fashion choices any human can make.