I sometimes wonder if growing up homeschooled in my particular context put me in this position of being "ill equipped" to make the connections I need, but I'd be curious if this is something more common 🤔
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I think, having moved a lot as an adult, a good amount of it is repetition? I think great friendships consist of muscle memory, at least partially—regularity brings comfort, comfort allows for intimacy.
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I dunno, Jedd! You're cool as hell. I'm sorry we don't live in Cincy, because I'm sure we'd be neighbor friends
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Our old next door neighbors spontaneously brought us cookies when they learned our dog had cancer. They say familiarity breeds contempt, but i think the people who say that are assholes.
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Thank you 😊 I feel the same way!
sep 3, 2025, 2:25 pm • 1 0 • view
That makes sense, I guess the difficulty I've had is that familiarity doesn't seem to entail intimacy? Like, I have this group of friends locally with whom I've grown familiar and have built some forms of intimacy with,
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but I've realized recently that there are some forms of intimacy (e g. play, mind, creativity) that just don't seem as available with them. I guess this means I just need to talk to people lol
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I think it's a numbers game! You just have to try until you find your people for each need, imo
sep 3, 2025, 2:32 pm • 1 0 • view
Sigh, numbers games are designed for the extroverts lol
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