And the women who died at their husbands' hands? Or who were forced to give birth because they had no right to birth control? Or were raped and had no recourse because a man could not legally rape his wife? My point is that people experiences harm in many ways, not just towns being burned down.
Begging the exception, huh... More folks died due Racism across centuries.
Race is a relatively recent concept that grew out of the Transatlantic slave trade, so I'm not certain how that could possibly be true. Humans are 200k years old, and women have been property in any number of societies going back to our earliest recorded history.
That aside, it's not a competition. Racism fucks up lives. Sexism fucks up lives. Combined, they fuck up lives even more. I can name a long laundry lost of how racism fucks up lives, including my own. But you seem to think sexism has no legitimacy as a concept.