This friend of mine has to work for racists. She’s like a white person whisperer. She has zero animosity or resentment for racists. She just accepts them as they are. This is how she survived I guess? But their reasoning doesn’t change? She has universal love for all. They stay just as racist.
Bc their lordling status isn't being challenged. We're all raised in these hierarchies & marginalized folk have to deal w/ not setting us off in the day to day. "Fiscal conservatives" see themselves as practical, beneficent lordlings - still bigots but they're not the directly violent 1's, you see.
For sure when you look from a distance you think ‘how do you wallow in the lies like that…you must know…’ But when you get close you see the whole mental architecture that they use to uphold it and it’s very chilling. The emotional capacities are so stunted. Inner humanity has been damaged. Scary.
Yes, but it's also all of us. Our society taught us & it's very easy to forget & pull rank w/ those who are marginalized to your lordling status. Bc we see it as our worthiness as individuals rather than a cultural rep that's handed to us. To give it up takes conscious effort. RW'ers are too scared.
It’s true. You have to examine situations and even your own mind all the time to see ways that you are playing into it and reproducing it— and figure out methods to disrupt it. It’s very insidious. But many cultural systems have NO TOOLS for this. They’re designed to prevent that. Disheartening.