8/Mostly the work to end these cycles is (🤞hopefully) enabling my children to be free from this shameful pain, set healthy boundaries & never have to shoulder the weight of someone else’s wrong-doing. #abuse #alcholism #cyclebreaker #healing #Mormon #trauma PS my grandpa wasn’t my only abuser 😥💔.
Can I own my discomfort in replying? I don't know how to express the outrage I feel, yet it's your pain, not mine. I am so sorry for it all, and I'm amazed at you and others for talking about it, helping to break the chain. I admire your strength.
Absolutely own your discomfort. I keep wanting to delete my post. Then I receive validating comments like yours. Thank you for speaking out! I’m sorry for all of it. I am grateful for your outrage. I was conditioned to keep my outrage on the down low. As a result my outrage came out sideways!
I’m so sorry, Beth. What a courageous thing to confront the pain and weight of it all. I know from experience that shedding the burden of secrets and breaking the cycles of trauma are so much work, but so worth it.
Hug right back to you, my friend. I’m still second guessing this entire post. Thank you for your kind words and empathy. Shedding the burden & breaking the cycles is so much work. As you point out, it is also worth it.
I never dealt with SA, but physical and emotional abuse were mainstays growing up. Perhaps even worse were the lies and secrets that poisoned every relationship. I swore to do everything in my power to not replicate that with my kids. Obvsly, the trauma clouds everything, but we mitigate as we can.
And I thank you for sharing.
I thank you for showing up & helping me feel more grounded in these uncomfortable truths. Meaning, I believe you see me as more than just my secrets. Thank you, my friend.
realizing there were other victims is a triggering experience 💔 i’m so sorry you were abused by a person that should’ve cherished & protected you! i’m proud of you for growing up to be the person that little Beth needed & i know for a fact that your post has made others feel less alone 🫶
I love you, Beth. ❤️ You are brave and strong. You're a fighter. A survivor. I'm so sorry you had to be.
Oh Kemi, I love you and am grateful for our authentic and safe friendship. ❤️ Your words stopped me in my tracks. I’m so sorry for all of us who have to fight through this things.
Ohhhh how I want to hug tiny Beth (& grown Beth), to protect her when no one did. Their generation caused ours so much pain, trauma and damage. I’m so so so sorry for this pain!
Hey friend. You always say the absolutely perfect thing. Your words hit hard and in such a comforting way. I often want to hug tiny Beth and all the under age children who’ve suffered the atrocities that were imposed onto them. Thank you for your love and care! ❤️