A big part of the story of "How did we get here?" is that, for years, quite a lot of men, both powerful and not, pounded the table demanding "meritocracy" because they imagined they'd be at the top of it, and then discovered that, to their horror, that actual meritocracy doesn't privilege them.
You have to change culture in such a way that blunts the psychological pressure for boys and men to societally need success in the first place. This is fairly accurate, but it isn't the full story Men aren't mad out of nowhere. It's a culture that demands their success as a prerequisite for worth
I don't think it's about saying, "You don't need to be successful." It's about acknowledging that "success" needn't look like what a lot of men are being told are the only sorts of "success" that matter, or are worthy for men to pursue.
There's more or less what I mean It isn't nap all day; it can be stay at home Dad, "menial" job that runs things- trash, grocery, assembly, etc keep society going Spreadsheets actually don't much Men need to hear "successful" high paying work isn't everything Keeping up with the dishes is, too