He’s your son, not your sibling. Act like it.

Unforced error mum

There was a TV show here in the UK called Sun, Sex & Suspicious Parents. These are the vibes this is giving off. Fyi, it had Parents following their kids secretly on holiday watching what they got up to.

i was married twice; both were mommie's boys. neither mother could let go. i was in my 50s & still getting daily nasty calls from the queen of demons, telling me what to cook or not cook, etc. destroyed my long marriage. the emotional incest was repulsive. we;re divorced & i am alone. mommie is 101.

How is this poor young man going to find a mate with the whirr of mama wings over his head? Perhaps that is her intent.

You really don’t have to say anything, the look on his face say it all.

She should be ashamed. Moms sometimes do things without thinking it through. This is something that she should have given more thought to .

The mother is an uber narcissist. It’s all about her. My condolences go out to her son.

People ruin each other in unexpected ways, and everyone will rank those ways differently.

Its obviously fake

She’s a cool mom if she was invited. She’s a horrible mom if she just showed up.

Yes. And pretty clear NOT invited. That poor young man...cringe.

We’ve partied with our kids and their friends, but only when they invite us be there. We would never just show up uninvited.

I thought it was an Onion post at first. Poor kid.

Son looks disappointed…he’s def the more grown-up of the two

My mom, sister, and cousin went out with me once when I was a very young man, but they were invited.

And years later she wondered why her son distanced himself from her. SMH

Sounds like she's either using her kid for content or being creepily clingy. It would still be questionable even if he had agreed to it beforehand but surprising him like this is just cringy and sad.

First world problems.

As the mother of 3 adult sons, how does this make me feel? In a word: CRINGE. (The woman needs to have her head examined.)

I would change my number and move to a new country to get away from that level of codependent crazy.

Yikes! I’m all up for partying with my kids but there are certain boundaries you just don’t cross. I feel his embarrassment, the mum’s in the wrong here.

As a boy Mom three times over — Oh Mom. No.

Good grief Mom, uncool

Why? And just ewwww.

I don't even have to read it. Some mothers need to learn to let go. It's not always easy but damn. They are grown. Find your own friends and let them learn to be adults without you there

She’s going to be paying for a lot of therapy.

If everyone else in a club is 1/3rd your age, you don't belong in that club. Hope this helps.

😬

My sons would disown me if I did anything so stupid, and they’d be right to.

Nah, that's not a "cool mom" as someone replied. To surprise your son then make it all about you is just sad. A mother and son CAN go somewhere together and have fun if that's the plan. In this case it was not, and underscores that she needs to respect his boundaries.

TikTok mom pretty much says it all...🫤

Crashes, so shows up uninvited, but knowing. Yeah, not gonna spend time reading this. If you think that's okay, you need to grow the fuck up. People need space, and freedom, and the ability to choose what they do and who they do it with, and if my parent did that to me, I'd stop telling them things.

BUSTED! Now's the time to tell him to get a job. I mean, he obviously has the time.

Well, I haven't really thought my parents were "embarrassing" since I was about 17, and certainly not as late as college. That kid's a little old for it. It's not like she stormed in there and dragged him out by the ear. How insecure do you have to be to get upset by your Mom having fun with you?

Let the boy go, mum! FFS, hard to on your game with your ma cramping and impingeing on your style.

The sport boy moms hold on the tightest bc their whole would revolved around the boys’ needs and driving them around and some got confused about what their role is, imo.

I went to a gay nightclub last night with a few 40-50 year old mom friends. We’re cis-gendered. My cis-gendered, 21-year old son asked if he could come with me. I tried to talk him out of it. We had a great time. His 21-year old trans twin was home. Every parenting journey is different.

He asked you, that’s the difference

She needs mental help.

No. Just, no.

Sort of sad. She doesn’t have a life of her own?

My parents lived in another state and had no idea where I partied.

This is not cute or endearing, it's very cringe. One of the best ways to get your kids to cut you off is to disrespect their boundaries and disrespect them out in public, especially when they're adults. I go out with my adult child when my adult child invites me to, I don't impose myself.

Cringe... ergo the look on his face

Creepy…. I’m a mother to a 22 year old son. I refuse to be labelled with Creepy Karens like this. I’m humiliated for him. Break the trust and you will break the bond.

Let him go….🙄

No. I'm a boy mom, but you need to let go at some point and let your kid create their own life, separate from yours. That is the hardest part of parenting — letting go. You have to let go and let them do their thing--or they will resent you later on. Look at his face--he is NOT happy.

Hard No on this.

Cut the umbilical cord already!

Ugh

Tell me you don't know what boundaries are without telling me.

A hard no to Momma. Time to cut the umbilical cord and get some therapy😆

Yep! All the boy moms I know who can't let go--have their own personal issues with their own relationships that need to be dealt with.

I don't understand the "boy mom" label. Yeah, I said that when my kid was little, but everyone I knew understood it way I meant it ... the unique challenges of raising humans who fling themselves off furniture, are generally kind of gross, and a unique brand of chaos-filled joy that boys carry.

Mothers are the surrogate frontal cortex for their boys until theirs comes in (between 16 and 24!) New science. Thank you for your efforts Goddess

Eh, that's just basic level "momming"... or, at least it should be 🤷🏻‍♀️

The label has turned into something different-like the above-mentioned situation. I don't know when it changed--but over the past few years, I have heard that term being used to talk about moms who can't let go. I consider the label more like you thinking of it. Social media says otherwise. 🤷‍♀️

There's even more than that. There's the massive increase in incestuous posting as well. 🤢

Man, that's weird. I'm over here groaning that mine is living with me through the last year of his bachelors and his masters lol. Its like son, I would die for you, but you are costing me a fortune on my grocery bill and have you ever considered spending even more time not home? 😂

As a mom of boy … no. Just no.

Is she #LaurenBoebert ?

No. Sad on so many levels.

Ha ha ha, it's not like she does it all the time

I think the mom has a few problems growing old.

As a mom of 2 males, & a mom who never did anything like that, I think it's hilarious. Our kids do things throughout their adolescence/teen years that annoy/humiliate/infuriate us as parents. A little pay back is too funny. (That may not have been her motive, but it would have been mine.)

Also, who's paying for the son to be at college & have spending money? Maybe she was just checking up on her investment/getting a little dividend.

The expression on his face in both of those photos is very reminiscent of this classic:

No, just no. Cool mom fail.

If the son has no problem with her presence, neither do I.

I would never humiliate my kids this way.

You're just not trying hard enough.

I’m more of a “look at his baby buns in the tub” Mom, than “I’m going to crash your party and get wasted in front of your friends” Mom. 🤣

Momzilla needs to lighten up .... cut the apron strings .... chill .... take a Valium

Awful

My mother showed up uninvited at my place on a Saturday morning after I left for college. I was sitting on the couch with a girl in my lap wearing nothing but my boxer shorts. There were beer cans and half-naked, passed-out college kids everywhere. She never showed up again without calling first.

Cord Cutting, is not just for your TV.

Creeping on your son is weird as Hell.

If you think it’s a good thing to watch ur child this closely, you arnt succeeding in your job as a parent.

Unfortunately, your kids probably don’t miss you as much as you missed them

Alot of yall probably didn't read the whole thing. While maybe embarrasing for the son that night he still loves her as do her other sons. Every family's unique. All that matters is the family's love for one another.

But he obviously did not like it

The definition of cringe. And her rebuttal video where she said everyone is obsessed with her was as tone deaf as her first video. Like girl YOU posted the controversial video for attention and thinking you're funny or cool, but are pressed when we all collectively said ew lmao

She's not doing him any favors with that behavior. And we wonder why men are looking for replacement moms instead of partners. 🤔

Mom needs to get a life of her own.

Who cares?!

Seems like a really out of place power move/meshed identity. He’s a young adult and she should come when she’s invited. Lacks respect. She will wonder why he doesn’t come around later in life.

…doesn’t come upstairs, possibly.

You mean like he’s still living at home then? Not sure I get what you intend with that comment.

Yes, it’s very hard for young people to find housing these days which is extra stressful when your mother lacks boundaries.

Yes. He is still dependent, even though he’s a young adult in college. She is doing damage to their relationship. Nobody likes feeling like a victim and if he has to avoid her to keep from feeling that in the future, he will. And she will wonder why

I feel bad for anyone this guy dates. (As someone who has been in relationships with men whose mothers smothered them, I speak from experience. So toxic!)

Ugh. I didn't go clubbing in college (no interest). If my mother had done that sort of helicopter parenting, though, i'd have left school and found a job as far away as I could get. :/ As a parent, I wouldn't do that to a child of mine.

If my mother joined me on a night out it would be one of the best of my life im sure. Sounds like most of yall just got shitty parents

Hmm where have I seen it en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Party_C...

Nope... Absolutely not.

At first I thought it was an Onion story

of course only supportive comments showed up on the later videos -- you can delete comments and some people who don't get why their behavior is problematic do just that to any negative ones.

I have only one child, a son. She is absolutely, positively, totally wrong, and should be ashamed of herself.

Not a parent, but all the nopes. I am close with my mom and shared a lot of my college life with her, but this is too far.

Grow up mom

Funny, she wants to to be left alone and doesn’t care what people think AFTER POSTING THIS BULLSHIT BAIT ON TIKTOK

Awful dipshit Karen. Speaking as a gay dude I would be FURIOUS if my mom showed up to a club I was at uninvited. Like “get a restraining order” furious.

If he wanted to hang out w/mom all day/every day, he'd still live in her basement. Take up a hobby that doesn't include ensuring your kid has no friends of their own. You want to cling to him? Knit him something to wear.

People wonder why young men are having difficulty with school, dating, work, and life in general. One part of the reason is the mommies.

Big nope, it's a great way to create lasting damage and distrust... Also, that 2nd pic, he looks like Neil from the Young Ones... 😂

she is your son, not your boyfriend. boy moms are creepy and i forever stand by that.

I know! Big incest energy....😧

Kid's look says it all. He's obviously thrilled that mom came out to party.

Unintended consequences of the digital age. Boundaries have not been established yet. Change is difficult.

I watch these videos all the time, George!

I think it's hilarious. Of course, I'd be embarrassed if my mom did this. But if it's a one-off surprise and not a common thing, it's a prank. He will tell this story for the rest of his life

Creepy is the only thought that comes to mind.

A real NO-NO

I bet a lot of college girls wish college boys operated under the fear their moms might show up at clubs and parties. Doesn't sound like the worst thing to me.

Yes, absolutely! This would make a lot of women feel safer. I’m a man but I think I’m correct in this one. But, we can act like our parents, spouses, partners are there without them actually being there.

Maybe just a big sign that says "we invited some moms" :-)

27% of college women are the victims of rape or attempted rape

Nothing. No thoughts.

It's not something I would do. I wouldn't have appreciated it if my own parents did it to me soooooo .................

God, he looks miserable. He's been waiting his whole life to get away, and he just realized there is no place far enough.

I feel sorry for that young man

If the son was in on it then people need to let them be and keep their unwanted opinions to themselves. If he wasn't and she crashed his plans that'd be some serious boundary crossing, however.

Boundaries…?

Take out a restraining order against her. Preventing her from coming within a set Distance or trying to contact you in anyway for any reason.

Looked staged to me.

LAME

Hard no.

Wow, she's full on creeping her son. Hope he moves to the other side of the world so he can have his own life.

Geez, let the kid have his fun. What a self centered buzz kill.

He's talking to a girl and moms pops up like "Heyyyy son" Funny but not funny

May as well walk in on him during sex

Just look at his face. He's going to have to fake his own death, poor kid!

Can be funny in a "one time" ... ... can also turn out worse.

Who fucking cares?

She needs to grow up and stop living vicariously through her son.

A hard NO on that one! Look at her son - he couldn't look more miserable if he tried and rightfully so.

She did it to draw attention to her and perhaps her son was aware of what she planned to do.

You’re not their friend. You’re their parent. Showing up uninvited is embarrassing.

Boy mom and girl dad are immediately a red flag that you have no personality and are probably some religious nut job. Prove me wrong.

I have one son and 5 grandsons and have never ever thought about doing something as fucking stupid as this. WTF!

Don’t care. Healthcare is being stripped from millions, the trans community is being attacked left and right and Nazis are in charge. Clickbait stories don’t interest me.

And yet you commented. Ignore it if you truly don’t care.

Haha the clickbait is the fucking article. Good try gurl!

Are for reals dissin’ on me or play dissin’? Love the eye makeup, btw. Seriously, it’s pretty effin’ cool.

Shouldn't have done it.

Ridiculous. How is he supposed to score any phone numbers with Mom at his side?

Her son is certainly enchanted to have her there, that’s for certain 🙄. Mom needs to be banned from social media, and her son needs to do the banning.

“Boundaries are important.” This. 👆

I was interested until I saw those teeth.

If you love your kid and want them to trust you. Don‘t do that.

This ↓ but hey, that’s just one guy not bothering any girls that night

Maybe… stop by buy a round and depart

I’ve done that, but I was invited to the party. I showed up, bought their first legal drink on their 21st birthday. Left some cash for a second drink & then headed out to do something with my friends. I had my own plans.

At my daughter’s college, they do a sign night for their 21st. Her friend had us waiting on the route with a drink for her. We brought extras for her friends. After, we left and the kids went on their way.

She's nuts.

That kid had to be so embarrassed.

I think that's sad. She's his mother, not his buddy.

Been there.

Cut the cord woman, for the love of God 🤦🏻

I would have been devastated. It was bad enough she hopped to the door in bunny slippers when my date arrived at age 17. But Mom remained my best friend, confident, and mentor; the date...I can't even remember his name.

I think it should not have been published and she should not get the attention she seeks.

Absolutely not. I have a 29 year old and an almost 17 year old, and I would never. I have literally said to my sons that I am not their friend, I am their parent. It gives off an energy of controlling parenting. It’s also toxic.

No lady. Just no. It’s not about you.

Well my frame of reference is my SIL who goes to her 26 yr old son’s apartment every weekend to clean and cook meals for him. He finally moved out in January but still isn’t really on his own. And we blame the patriarchy. 🤦‍♀️

Helicopter parent. There’s a lot of them these days.

Shades of Vikki G from RHOC showing up at her son’s fraternity for a kegger

Not okay. My spawn is 21. I did my job raising him right, and now I let him go and live his life while praying that I taught him well enough to minimise his fuck ups and be there as a safety net when they inevitably happen. I have no desire to vicariously (and weirdly) recapture my young adulthood.

My mom would never had done this. She had respect for her kids

Really sick I think. What IS their relationship?

Eew.

I think the kid's face says everything that needs to be said.

If it's not hurting anyone, then it's none of my business. Some parents have great relationships with their kids and can embarrass them and little without it being traumatizing. Better than parents turning a blind eye to what their kids are up to.

Cut the apron strings. You can love your mom but this is way too much. Let him grow up and be his own man. If you have raised him right you will not lose him. Smothering any child always has a bad outcome. Either they distance themselves as far as they can or the become entitled beyond repair.

OMG, cut the apron strings already. If the intention was to mortify a young man, she succeeded.

My daughter would kill me if I did this while she was in college.

I suppose I'm a boy mom😂 but this would never ever even enter my mind to do. Let your kid live their own life. Be excited they have a social life. His friends will joke about it for years and he will never forget it. Mom fail.

I sense a cliche porno movie in the making.

My mom was a lot of fun. Intelligent and quick-witted. Having her there made any event better.

Time to get some friends.

If she's paying the bill and his grades are suffering... Perhaps this is a good 'crash' along with a lesson.

my ex wife would do something like this. maybe she already has.

"Weird as fruck controlling mother is a nightmare" is mostly my take.

This one deserves a fee.

She wants to bang his friends.

I embarrass my sons enough as it is, so I wouldn't do that. His Mama needs a new hobby.

@ivehaditpodcast.bsky.social only in Trump's America 🤣

I can’t blame this one on Trump no matter how much I can’t stand that horrible piece of shit. Parents have been this stupid for a long time.

I hear ya. If you listen to the podcast, they blame everything on Trump's America (literally everything, and it's hilarious 😂)

Sure, but so much of our collective bad behavior is worsened by him. Fucking hate everything about him.

When I was in college and my mom visited, she went to parties with us. She was fun. At halftime of the football games, when we could leave and come back, she did shots with me and my friends at the bar. Some parents are just fun to be around. Honestly, my 21 yo is more mature than me!

But, did you ask? This mom showed up and the son is not enjoying it. I have gone out with my kids, but I wouldn’t show up uninvited

My mom was invited. I get it that she showed up uninvited. But she could have thought he would be ok with it.

And that’s when you ask because it was obviously not ok

Idk. My daughter’s in college and her friends love me. Her one friend, who I want to adopt 🤣, wants me to go out with them for his 21st bday. 🤷🏼‍♀️

But you’re invited! That’s the difference

True.

I mean....I wouldn't recommend it! Don't crash unless your child invites you to. Important to not know everything about your children unless they willingly offer it.

She's a Real Housewives wanna-be. A thirsty, middle-age, narcissistic woman seeks attention from college age boys by using her son as cover.

Cut the umbilical cord & the crap, Mom.

My son would disown me.... If I didn't disown myself first. Ugh.

She needs to get her own life!

Oy! Parents! At least she didn't show up at the apartment when he was in the middle of sex with the SO. (True story)

No. Just no.

Ooo...the apron strings are far too tight. How can this young man develop appropriate self image and independence? Swap it. If a 'girl dad' showed up at his college aged daughter's club night, would it be framed as 'crashing' a party or as an abusive parent intimidating their adult child?

Look at his face. That answers your question. Also a good argument for kids going to college well away from their parents. Idk what possessed her. I would never ever have done that to my son

What when my eldest son was in college I NEVER would have considered doing this to him. That we share a close relationship and one of the REASONS for that is I know what the fucking boundaries are.

*That when...

That's a no. She needs to let that boy live his own life.

There to scare of any women cause she’s the only one who can have him.

Season 1 of White Lotus

I'm embarrassed for both of them for very different reasons. That's a hard no.

Mom's like this need therapy and their kids need restraining orders.

.... my thoughts? I can't be bothered with some mom and her son.

Did she steal the 😖 awful idea from watching Vicky on #RealHousewivesOfOrangeCounty 🤣

Creepy. Helicopter mom from hell.

In french, we now have a (non official) composite word for this kind of adult : "adulescent". It's like "teenadult", an adult stucked in her/his adolescence.

I have a toddler and I already know I’m going to have a hard time letting go, but I don’t ever see myself doing this, but I do hope to be invited so…