Yeah I mean I’m a bit conflicted but the eating experience seems cool
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Yeah I mean I’m a bit conflicted but the eating experience seems cool
I wanna try Tiffany plates lol
I think the exploitation angle is important, IOW we can’t think of it primarily in terms of punishment for nonconformity. But yes there is actually IMO a “double-deviance” quality and this is pretty plain in how people talk about us
I hope for that too
It is people interacting with you in earnest, wanting to have a conversation for the sake of growth, not infighting, bc hopefully one day we will actually have concrete theory in this area
So this is to say that, no I obviously don't perceive you this way, but much like how I let discussions of transmisogyny challenge me and allow me to broaden my understanding, even when they make me uncomfortable, I at the very least hope that when you are encountering this-
The term antitransmasculinity is so recent in it's acceptance as a term that even just months ago there was discourse on what terms we should use, and it's still not a unanimous term, lots of people use different ones but are discussing the same form of bigotry
The thing about antitransmasc theory is that it is extremely new, and a lot of people in the process of dissecting it, even transmasculine people, will face discomfort bc we don't have a strong and unanimous framing for what is and isn't antitransmasc.
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There’s a point at which compulsion into a normative identity stops being the goal, and instead the goal becomes making you as vulnerable to exploitation as possible. Analysis of norms and discipline needs to pay special attention to this line.
We should understand instead that cis society is particularly ready to exploit trans girls and women who are the most easily motivated to cooperate with male-female relations. And that whatever advantages of acceptance come from this also come with special vulnerabilities.
We shouldn’t think that cis society “gives us transness” out of the goodness of the heart or that the romanticism is similar to a parent having a favorite child.
IMO this is probably why so many cultures can have a romanticism about transhet women and girls that resembles the “women are great” vibes that can show up even in intensely misogynistic regimes. Exploitation can come loaded with a perverse attachment.
This is how compulsory cisness shows up for us via its flipside, as the alienation embedded in transness as a social condition, in a way that’s not about conformity or nonconformity but the value placed on our sexual utility.
And this is WHILE we’re complying with heterosexual norms. Trans women who do our best to succeed within male-female dynamics are still immensely and often disproportionately vulnerable to transphobic violence and this isn’t a minor detail. It’s a unique relation to the sexual economy.
I also feel that it’s relatively common to downplay the pervasive violence and exploitation against transhet women that is outright homophobic in character and function, using the same processes that anti-queer violence otherwise.
It’s much more of a situation of dialectics, because transhet people—arguably women most of all—are much less subject to compulsory cisness than almost anyone else and so the relation to heterosexuality is more pronounced by contrast.
As part of this I think many people greatly misinterpret the different treatment of transhets as a reward from cis society, as if they know transsexuals really want to live as our genders and they like transhets more so they concede it to us as a gift.
I don’t think compulsory heterosexuality makes sense as a concept unless we understand that it’s specifically compulsory cisheterosexuality. Compulsory cisness is not less powerful or fundamental, nor can we understand it as separate from sexuality.
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I am bothered when people think I’m anti-transmasc because I’d never want to give that impression, and it’s not really for me to say whether I am ever guilty of it. But if I ever am, it’s not because of any hatred for men lol
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This is true! I feel like it should be easy to see that!!
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Nor do I aspire to be one
I love finding out people have put me on “misandrist” lists because it’s just so ironic Like I’m sorry every actual misandrist can see I’m not even close to being one lol
It is really awkward that the time in which I am more decisively and openly describing myself as a transsexual is also the time in which the term is resurging but with some controversy lol
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I know a number of transhet women who work in tech or do online web design type stuff and a number of trans lesbians who like drag, fashion, etc. Lots who aren't exactly in either "camp." It's not hard to find variation
Oh yeah I know what you mean then, like I was talking about last week, this gets drawn on as a stereotype a lot in a way that's really aggressively flattened. Most queer people like media and creativity IME and that can feed into the "trans girl coder" thing too
mhm, this is the same with me.
Once again I ask—how on earth was I ever supposed to live as a man? lol
But this almost never happens when I present unambiguously as female. For years I felt like I must be really clocky and it seems more like "when you present as non-binary people are gonna read you as non-binary"
I was talking about my transition history with my therapist today and it became even clearer that most of experiences with being "clocky" were essentially when I was presenting as male or not attempting to present as anything.
I definitely always got typed as a fag when presenting as male, and find more unambiguous femme presentation gets me much more "stably" gendered, so I for sure think that seems to be a common way to interpret gender ambiguity
okay so this is exactly the kind of thing I was wondering about and it tracks IMO
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Maybe an example? I wonder if what many trans women may feel is a "clocky voice" may actually just be pretty normal for more butch-leaning or "masc of center" queer women. I think of stuff like studies that have shown bi women have more masc-leaning speech patterns than straight women.
Butch trans women definitely have a unique burden and vulnerabilities to stigma, but I wonder too if cis and trans butches notice any particular differences with how they tend to run into those kinds of things. I assume the similarities are much easier to see.
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Oh my gosh I can't believe that was 11 years ago
the thing that always baffles me about the bubblesky™️ discourse is that it just makes me feel so sad for the kind of person who has only ever seen social media as a place you must extract tangible value from--political clout, or clicks for your hot takes, or idek what they're doing. I like people.
It is probably a bit similar to that because it's very possible that my psychotic experiences and symptoms have influenced my vision of the story lol
This is part of why she insists on "interacting with existence despite not existing myself," because of her confidence that the candidate for surviving fourth-stage pyresis will become precognitively clear to her as the Big Blaze comes nearer to the event horizon.
The multi-goddess universe state is the only one she believes provides a long-term chance of universe stability. Failing that, the best outcome is to persist in a 0-goddess state and simply foretell who might become Lord Blazer and kill them.
Ghost is also the originator of the goddess-state conundrum hypothesis of neo-goddess theory, in which the number of goddesses existing in a universe determines that universe's eventual fate. 0 goddesses is bad; 1 and only 1 is much worse.
The seer with the longest history of high accuracy is Ghost, a person who can only be contacted via the arcane internet and who claims not to exist (hence her identification as a "ghost"). She claims to be able to identify who will become Lord Blazer when the event horizon approaches.
If someone can survive the fourth stage, then the hypothesis is that they will BECOME Lord Blazer, and his existence will become fully real in the physical universe, which will also be the moment that universe ends by collapsing into him—a cosmic event called "the Big Blaze."
Or better said, WILL be real. He remains an imaginary being until a blazer can reach the fourth stage of pyresis, or the mutation process induced by the red seraph drug. The outcome of the fourth stage for every recorded pyretic mutant has been death—but they tell of a theoretical alternate outcome.
In a modern era in which people with ESP are relatively common and there's a great deal of evidence that their powers are real—particularly seers who have prognosticated events like the dragon junkyard and the rising use of red seraph—this second clue is the only thing suggesting he is real
Lord Blazer, the apocalypse god-slash-mass delusion, is the shared vision of every blazer that reaches a sufficient point in the mutation process to begin hearing his voice. There are only two reasons we even know he exists: 1) Blazers all eventually see him 2) The seers warn of his coming
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The curse of anti-war writers is that to criticize war you have to depict war well and to do that you have to show the ways that the state uses kinship (brotherhood) and eroticization (war is sexy) to sell war to young people. Inevitably, people miss the criticism and just want to fuck the Gundam.
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I was perceived and brutalized as an "effeminate boy" until I was an adult, when everyone just assumed I was a gay man. Then I came out as a trans woman, and suddenly everyone was REAL invested in my masculinity. 🙄 them: ugh you're such a girl! me: okay. [transitions] them: wait no not like that
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I’m so sorry to hear you went through that
I lived it. I literally had a mental breakdown at 10 years old because of it. My father started beating me when I was 1 years old. My mother would blame me for provoking him somehow. It made even less sense to me when I was little. I ended up in care being beaten by adults for fun while they laughed
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Trans girls are the most likely gender minority group to drop out or be expelled from grade school, to be harassed at school, to be disowned by family, the list goes on.
Of course they mean cis girls, but this tracks pretty easily. Research has also shown that feminine and GNC AMAB trans people are the most vulnerable group of queer kids to polyvictimization in child and teen years.
I want to stress this—the research I’m talking about didn’t just show that the feminine boys were reacted to more negatively than masculine boys, but more than girls, too. Feminine and masculine girls.
.. they were the ones setting the trials. Before I knew it puberty had defaced me into this truth. It's all a scam and I didn't need to sacrifice any of my effeminacy to live till here but I already have. So now I have to claw back my stolen childhood with painted nails and waxed skin. If I knew..
.. paradoxically exposed more developed boys to LESS trials of "manhood" than us sissy boys. WE had to constantly prove our masculinity while the ones who had deep voices or went through puberty quicker or sporty or healthier or were just more psychologically "manly" were left alone. Most times..
.. people were deeply invested in policing a sickly small girlyboy into "being a man". I hate the expectation of being a "man". The bullying only stopped cuz I went through the wrong puberty super late cuz of my illness and now I look like a "man" so I must be one right? Fuck off. I realised this..
.. And this isn't a western phenomenon. It has happened to me in west africa where I'm roughly from and it has happened to me in the global north too. I was targeted precisely because I was effeminate. From mostly boys but surprisingly girls too & my family members, close and distant. All these...
The most bullying, social pain and ostracism i faced were because I was effeminate. I call it transmisogyny now cuz I know I'm trans, had I been cis I'd be just another bullied cis black boy. I have a chronic illness and I remember being forced to do horrible things because I "acted like a girl"...
I've been bullied since I was 5 about this sort of shit and I feel it in my bones lmao.
Ooof this
I think it’s less common these days
Funnily enough I don't think I'd ever have found my gender queerness if my bigoted parents weren't so suffocatingly critical of my effeminacy. Sibce hitting puberty (everything was chill before), I've being criticized for my mannerisms, voice, walk, the way I sit, the way I speak and more...
I think what I’m coming to understand that a significant part of what made transition so scary for me was trauma itself—because it actually greatly simplified a lot about my everyday life. I get harassed way less often now.
This thread is heartbreakingly relatable. My CPTSD—which has made me vulnerable to further abuse, psychosis, and severe depression—largely began with anti-effeminate violence and harassment.
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Violence became less being beaten up and degraded daily to the point that I had to hide from mobs of violent boys and adults itching to abuse, less intense but so much more inescapable in a way. I escaped the previous abuse, trauma and all, I'm still clutching for my employability as a trans person.
As I became young adult and transitioned most abuse towards me, barring random street bigot outbursts (which I had in my femboy phases too), became overwhelmingly institutional and mechanical. "Adults in the room" treating like a freak and with 0 respect, threatening my employment and medical access
Most intense violence that gave me CPTSD and crippled me socially and mentally for life was not the violence I dealt with as I transitioned (which had its own share of humiliation and abuse), but the violence I lived through as very effeminate boy and teenager (eg when I identified femboy-adjacent)
Being tormented for effeminacy as a young child set my gender identity discovery back decades
Yeah I suspect this is true
I was bullied relentlessly, but instead of any intervention against the bullies, I was blamed for being too sensitive
Exactly this.
yeah it's a lot isn't it
🧵 on the overlap between anti-effeminacy, misogyny and trans misogyny
A small tangential corroboration: during one of countless blood draws in my son’s first week of life, a NICU nurse told my 2lb 10oz baby to toughen up.