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Materialist Gnostic @walmsley.bsky.social

I think another thing that's going on is that while dating apps probably haven't reduced the number of people in relationships they probably *have* resulted in single-ness being distributed differently and this is making people a little weird

aug 2, 2025, 12:57 am • 52 0

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To wit or not to wit? @towit12.bsky.social

They have absolutely reduced the number of people in relationships

aug 2, 2025, 4:53 am • 0 0 • view
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Christopher @selectstarman.bsky.social

www.aeaweb.org/articles?id=...

Online dating apps have transformed the dating market, yet their broader effects remain unclear. We study Tinder’s impact on college students using its initial marketing focus on Greek organizations for identification. We show that the full-scale launch of Tinder led to a sharp, persistent increase in sexual activity, but with little corresponding impact on the formation of long-term relationships or relationship quality. Dating outcome inequality, especially among men, rose, alongside rates of sexual assault and STDs. However, despite these changes, Tinder’s introduction did not worsen students’ mental health, on average, and may have even led to improvements for female students.
aug 2, 2025, 2:13 am • 6 0 • view
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Cameron @cameroncorduroy.bsky.social

imo the main thing that makes dating apps so corrosive is that they make all the hypothetical rejections into real ones before Tinder you had no idea how many women weren't interested in you unless you actually hit on one and got shot down but now you know there's hundreds of women saying no

aug 2, 2025, 4:23 am • 17 0 • view
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Cameron @cameroncorduroy.bsky.social

now of course a dating app "no" and a real life "no" are different things blah blah blah but i think that's the main thing driving everyone insane if nothing else the information age has taught us that "more information" is not always good for the brain

aug 2, 2025, 4:23 am • 12 0 • view
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Materialist Gnostic @walmsley.bsky.social

interestingly this is probably playing out in the opposite way a lot of incel types say, dating apps pretty clearly move the limiter away from "social confidence to approach people in public" and that just has to advantage socially awkward people on margin

aug 2, 2025, 12:57 am • 42 0 • view
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Mike Yass @mikeyass.bsky.social

the problem is that for normal looking people with reasonable expectations you could always do better and this in where the internet dating metagame is now, leads to total apathy

aug 2, 2025, 1:02 am • 18 1 • view
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Mike Yass @mikeyass.bsky.social

This was 100pct true during the days of early tinder though

aug 2, 2025, 1:02 am • 7 0 • view
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Mike Yass @mikeyass.bsky.social

now it’s just “oh wow this guy is way nerdier than I realized…” I need some normie hobbies

aug 2, 2025, 1:21 am • 5 0 • view
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Christopher @selectstarman.bsky.social

"I'm scared to talk to the girl at the bar" -> self-loathing over inaction "No responses on the Apps" -> loathing women or the taller guy

aug 2, 2025, 2:16 am • 8 0 • view
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ADA-compliant skull pile @reallyliketrains.bsky.social

yeah

aug 2, 2025, 4:20 am • 0 0 • view