You know, being a side doesn’t make you any less of a player. Side sexual acts are not like side dishes or simply ‘foreplay’. For some of us, this is the main course and that’s totally fine (I love oral/manual stim not much into fucking). Being a top or bottom doesn’t make you better than others.
Being fixated on anal feels almost dated to me tbh
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I think a couch kiss/ jerk sounds hot as fuck.
👏 👏 exactly! I like all the things and it’s so person/vibe dependent for me so identifying definitively as one position feels very limiting. maybe I only wanna make out and jerk off. maybe I just wanna suck dick. or maybe I wanna get fucked. I always feel like a liar when I have to check one box🤣
I agree! I find myself more interested in jerk off sessions and mutual edging. I really like the equality of it. Whenever I'm at a group event too my goal is to always touch as many penises as possible. I dont really want to be inside anyone or have someone inside me.
Yeah, I would love to be part of a group like this! This sounds like a dream
I feel like its hard to find sometimes. I was part of a pretty big orgy back in February and guys kept wanting me to fuck them. Which is flattering sure, but I kept going soft because it wasn't what I wanted to do there and telling people no turns me off. I just wanted to touch and stroke dicks lol.
I think this would be why establishing the tone of the party beforehand would be cool. Like - this is a bate sesh and nothing else. Yeah topping and bottoming is a dish I will occasionally sample but it’s rarely something I order myself.
Oh! I see what you're saying! It would be nice if everyone came with the same expectations. It would for sure be less anxious and easier to navigate.
Yeah, sort of like the rules for rain city jacks (I honestly wish we had a club like that in Vancouver. I know they did try to start one.)
I actually have not heard of rain city jacks. Is that in Seattle? I never go to Seattle, its such a long way compared to Vancouver.
Yes, that is in Seattle. (I never go either). I just know they were trying to start a Vancouver city Jack’s and it didn’t last very long here unfortunately
That's a shame! You should just start your own monthly event. I would come up for it! 😁
Ha my apartment isn’t a great space for that and I have a cat that doesn’t like people. Would be great if we could just rent the pump jack for an afternoon one day or something
Oh thats a shame it didn't work out! I've had good luck at F212 on Davie, there can be some really hungry bottoms there sometimes though lol. I do wish the glory hole area was busier there.
I’ve always been way more into dick than actual ass. Always thought I was weird & not gay enough. Wish that term would have been around years ago.