I know a lot of people who are choosing to have kids or not, and I know nobody who has decided not to have them at all because of costs.
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Old dad here, we waited until it was fiscally viable, and it was (still is!) still difficult!!
sep 2, 2025, 5:31 pm • 1 0 • view
Dads can do that. Less of an option for women.
sep 2, 2025, 7:49 pm • 0 0 • view
it was a contributing factor in my wife and i deciding not to try to have kids though not the most important one
sep 2, 2025, 4:07 pm • 3 0 • view
like the incentive to get past "we don't really see ourselves as parents" was super not there
sep 2, 2025, 4:09 pm • 5 0 • view
That's fair, although I think that was pretty clearly the main issue, that's not a thing to necessarily "get past"
sep 2, 2025, 4:10 pm • 4 0 • view
I am occasionally wistful about it, I think we would have had awesome kids, but she would have been taking the primary physical risk and again holy shit the economics are terrible
sep 2, 2025, 4:12 pm • 3 0 • view
*the entire significant physical risk
sep 2, 2025, 4:14 pm • 2 0 • view
Any serious pro-family policy should also involve a Manhattan Project for artificial wombs/making pregnancy safer
sep 2, 2025, 4:22 pm • 5 0 • view
They probably don’t talk about it. In MA, if you have no family to help with childcare, a lot of people can’t afford even one daycare slot.
sep 2, 2025, 7:48 pm • 1 0 • view
More than men taking 6 months off, which they should, you also need school coverage until 5 pm and should probably have both parents of young kids work 80% so that, on at least 2 days, there is a parent who does not need to miss work to go to a pediatrician etc.
sep 2, 2025, 7:48 pm • 1 0 • view
OTOH, I know many people who have smaller families than they'd ideally like because of costs.
sep 2, 2025, 4:01 pm • 17 0 • view