A lot of TERFy women had to strangle their femininity at some point to make it in a ~man's world, and they're fucking angry about it but always at the wrong people.

I think there are a lot more queer and trans people who self repressed for literal fear of their lives than folks want to acknowledge, especially a lot of them, and they hate seeing people free to be open to their true selves when they feel decades/life committed to repressing themselves.

And there's a decent number of TERFs who all but admit that they resent that kids today have options that weren't even on their radar as kids

Oh yeah. There are a lot of people who built entire lives and acknowledging certain realities would bring that crashing down.