This is also a social problems for Fandoms. I've seen too many furry artists making huge posts on how and why they increment their prices and explaining their depression (guilty). Or making an announcement on the fact that they are late on their commission. Or airing their laundry in general (cont)
Looking back over the last 20+ years of being online, the biggest thing in relationships, and for yourself personally, is emotional intelligence. Understanding why you're feeling what you're feeling and how your actions have and will affect you and other people.
When you don't know how to deal with your emotions, you feel an urge to dump them onto other people to see if they know how to deal with them, or else it builds up inside you, getting more jumbled and hard to unravel. Just knowing you're sad because you didn't sleep well changes your whole view.
Yeah but I also see it as a social thing in the Fandom. Everyone overshares. It's how social interactions work. And if you don't have a stance you are called out for it. Popular people do it constantly shows it's not something unique to individuals, but how the Fandom communicates.
I think it might be a symptom of people who haven't had to develop a "professional" persona, separate from their personal. You have to draw a line between what you share with your inner circle of trusted friends and family, your burdens and opinions, and what you share with strangers.
We all know about that one furry that told us ALL about their relationship while the other part didn't. Or the countless polarizing witch hunting fights. I don't think it's healthy for our Fandom, and sometimes it's a sign of loneliness. But if we normalize it, we are part of the problem.
How do children become adults then if not allowed to occationally stumble socially and eat shit?
It's not about letting people be cringe or face consequences, it's an echo chamber of oversharing.
Then let them echo.
Awareness is not a gift. Let people live their colourful lives as inherently valid regardless of gracefulness. Let clumbsy people trip and fall. Let the socially inept fail to find companionship. You can't teach people to avoid the pitfalls that allowed you to grow.
You are saying this as if I had any power on what people do lol. I'm not campaigning against anything or anyone.
Then enjoy the awkward adolescent dances! They are endearing but no less significant to witness. The dance of becoming.
I'm not talking about general cringe but lol OK.
We're talking such high readings on the cringe-omiter than the integrity of the cosmos is in question? The moon warily watching as weird critters over-share online.
And I'm not talking about NEEDED callous of bad people who might put others in danger. OBVIOUSLY.
I think furries are cool. There are some that can be problematic, and I understand the hate for those ones. I don’t understand hate for furries who’ve done nothing but have a good time in THEIR fandom
Yeh furries are cool, inclusive, support their artists and usually just want to be fun and jolly. This is more like a Fandom dinamics observation