Mom asked me to be nice to my sister after she passed a few months before she died. The best I could promise was I'd be polite to her, she didn't deserve nice.

My favorite detail is that she tried to guilt me into not taking payment for being a trustee for the estate... because you know... I was doing it out of my love for mom. Me: 😶

I had to use that as a bargaining chip with my sister to stop her from challenging every step I took as executor of my mom's very modest estate. I suspect she was also the reason it was very modest.

I actually said ok to it because it was easier and I also knew she had no idea of the value of the household items she said I could have that I wanted purely for sentimental value and figured it would be an easier give. (See also: playing the long game...)

Because she treated mom poorly and was so greedy afterwards, I'm making sure that anything I have when I die I wont be coming to her or her family, but will mostly go to nonprofits. And I'll likely have a larger estate than mom. One of us is better at gaming shit out than the other. /end

Doing EXACTLY the same. Our wills were updated make sure she never gets a dime. If there is any money left over, it goes to the dolphins. 🐬

Families can sometimes be the worst and you have every right to cut shitty people out of your life. Carry on, and congrats on the upcoming wedding! 🥰

Thank you kindly :)

I’m so sorry. I have two daughters, so it always breaks my heart a bit to hear of sisters not getting along. I hope someday soon she apologizes sincerely 😢

Thanks... I am not sure she is that person, though.

I’m sorry. That’s hard. 🫂

Thank you... but sadly she's always been a jerk.

I’m in the same position. I asked my mom not to ask me to take care of her.

Yeah, I doubt I'll be keeping in touch with either sister after mum is gone. They'll swoop in and start ravaging the house to take all the stuff they want I'm sure. Then I'll probably never hear from them again. Fine with me. They've done nothing to help with mum, at all.

🫂

It's why I kept wanting mom to spend her money on herself vs. leaving what she did...