For some, sure. For me, I’ve always found friends take more energy than they give. A lot of work, not worth the effort to me. But if you aren’t ok with it, it will change with time

It’s not that bad, honestly.

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Hey if you figure this one out let the rest of us know

I keep telling myself I’m going to do something about it. I keep psyching myself out.

Start small. Decide to talk to someone every day, even just "hello" when you're walking. If you have an interest, look at how to fulfill it. I love playing bridge, but didn't for years until I got in with seniors when I was 40. Look at volunteer possibilities. Good luck. Loneliness kills.

GREAT advice, and oh so true.

I don't really know why, but I had a period where I didn't really talk to anyone besides my husband and kids, and I sort of forgot how to do that. So I made myself do it. If you're sitting at home waiting for phone to ring, (so to speak) it's likely someone else is too.

I feel that. The older you get, the harder it is to make friends. My wife has a great friend group of people she made friends with in high school (lucky). All the people I went to high school I would never want to continue being friends with.

Between having a kid, a wife, a career, and household chores…it’s super hard to find time to actually be a good friend to others so I often don’t try to make new friends because I don’t trust myself to be able to give enough to the friendship.

You get it! It’s not just wanting to make friends but to have deeper meaningful lasting connections and knowing that takes time and energy to build to last and I don’t just want to be a friend I want to be a good friend to people.

Yes, exactly! I don’t find a lot of meaning in those surface connections. Some people like that but I want to know another person fully and for them to really know me. I’d rather have that one great friend to add into my life than 5-10 surface friends.