I should not be on the verge of tears with the stress of a job I am being made redundant from in 29 days at just before 08:30 on a Monday. I’m also not sure now if this is me being narcissistic or caring too much. Either way, it’s unpleasant.
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Oh no. This all sounds stressful and awful x
sep 1, 2025, 12:07 pm • 1 0 • view
Thanks. I’m beginning to switch off to it all now. I’ll just take each day one at a time.
sep 1, 2025, 12:17 pm • 1 0 • view
Hang on in there. Probably not a bad thing to be letting the stress out - if disconcerting first thing on a Monday morning. Hoping that something unexpected and good lies ahead for you 🤞
sep 1, 2025, 7:50 am • 3 0 • view
😔 Redundancy grief and loss can get to you before you’ve gone. Be gentle on yourself x
sep 1, 2025, 10:47 am • 4 0 • view
Maybe it’s uncertainty of the prospect of not doing what you’ve done for so many years? Be kind to yourself… take it steady and try not to say “I shouldn’t be…”. You are, and that’s for a reason. Sending massive hugs. 🤗
sep 1, 2025, 7:33 am • 5 0 • view
Thank you x
sep 1, 2025, 7:34 am • 1 0 • view
Always here x
sep 1, 2025, 7:35 am • 1 0 • view
Sounds horrible, hopefully these feelings will pass and the month will be over before you know it.
sep 1, 2025, 12:03 pm • 1 0 • view
Sounds horrid. You must remember that it is their loss and, in time, will be your gain x
sep 1, 2025, 10:25 am • 2 0 • view
Oh Piers, this is awful. The sooner you're out of there, the better. Should you not be able to get a note from the gp and go off sick? They're not needing you in 29 days so they can cope a bit earlier.
sep 1, 2025, 10:40 am • 0 0 • view
I probably could but I’m just going to work my time and then I’m gone. Something has happened this morning that is helping but it’s a two-edged thing. Four weeks will go in moments!
sep 1, 2025, 10:42 am • 2 0 • view
Just remember you owe them no loyalty; this is your professional pride speaking 💞
sep 1, 2025, 10:44 am • 1 0 • view
Sounds to me like a perfectly understandable reaction to what is happening to you. Be gentle with yourself, you are doing the very best you can under the circumstances … this period of time will soon be over then a new chapter begins.
sep 1, 2025, 11:35 am • 4 0 • view
I think it's pretty normal for that kind of situation. Don't stress yourself about being stressed. It's upsetting. Grab the situation, make it yours. Start looking for another job, if that's what you're doing. You'll find out eventually it was a blessing. It might take a bit of time though
sep 1, 2025, 7:37 am • 1 0 • view
Stress is awful though, Piers. I don’t think anyone would willingly put themselves through how it makes you feel. I hope you can step away for a bit if needed, it’s good you’re spotting it. I hope the day gets better.
sep 1, 2025, 7:57 am • 2 0 • view
Sounds like a normal reaction to me given the general stress it must be causing. Not nice. Take some deep breaths. You can do it.
sep 1, 2025, 7:39 am • 1 0 • view
Thank you x
sep 1, 2025, 7:41 am • 0 0 • view
If you need an ear give me a shout.
sep 1, 2025, 8:04 am • 2 0 • view
That's rubbish, mate. Cat and I are here if you need to talk it out and/or distracting.
sep 1, 2025, 8:57 am • 2 0 • view
You owe them nothing, my lovely. You can go sick with stress for the rest of your notice, you don’t have to take their rubbish when they haven’t stood by you.
sep 1, 2025, 7:34 am • 2 0 • view
They’ve actually been very good about it so I don’t feel that would be the right thing to do, especially as the situation causing the stress is one I may not be responsible for, but for which I am accountable.
sep 1, 2025, 7:41 am • 2 0 • view
Being “nice” doesn’t change facts. But if you are happy to take on the stress you don’t deserve, then I wish you well for the next month.
sep 1, 2025, 7:49 am • 2 0 • view
Sadly, that’s my job. If I were a minion I could just sit back and relax. I’m not and there is an expectation of work in this period. My feelings are my own, and I should be able to work around those. Let’s see.
sep 1, 2025, 8:03 am • 2 0 • view
Good luck, your loyalty is highly commendable. I have been taken for a fool due to mine enough times, now I realise no one has my back but me. I might seem harsh but you get tired of it.
sep 1, 2025, 8:20 am • 2 0 • view
That sounds grim. All you can control is the way you react. So, 7-11 breathing ( count to 7 deep breath in - count to 11 slow breath out) until your mind calms, a good cup of something nice and hot, and emergency cake/ cheese/ whatever for a dopamine hit. Hugs. X
sep 1, 2025, 8:22 am • 2 0 • view
Keep buggering on
sep 1, 2025, 7:53 am • 2 0 • view
Eh up me duck 🥺 It sounds like a normal reaction to the situation. This kind of thing rattles the old bones. As you say - an unpleasant feeling, but it might prove to be beneficial. The pressure cooker analogy 🤔 As other folk have said, we're here if you find it helpful to vent (no pun intended)
sep 1, 2025, 8:42 am • 3 0 • view
Hope you can muddle through the day Piers. Redundancy is a horrible thing to go through. Had it myself 2 years ago. Months of uncertainty, hoping someone would buy the retailer I worked for and then told we were closing. I ended up in tears some days and it's understandable you feel this way x
sep 1, 2025, 9:04 am • 2 0 • view
Oh PIERS! My poor pal. Maybe you’re grieving? and rightly so. It’s a big thing you’re going through. Hope you get through the next month ok. We’re all here for you if you need us - platitudes, jovial support and/or banter, whatever you need x
sep 1, 2025, 7:35 am • 6 0 • view
Thank you x
sep 1, 2025, 7:39 am • 1 0 • view
It sounds like a build up and release, and also because you do care. It’s not narcissistic, you are a professional,you care about your work ❤️❤️ It’s ok to be just how you are xx
sep 1, 2025, 7:42 am • 3 0 • view
Grief takes many forms. Coupled with uncertainty it’s no wonder you’re feeling this way. I hope you’re able to enjoy your remaining time there and embrace a new opportunity as it arises.
sep 1, 2025, 7:50 am • 2 0 • view