The adoptees may not and they may not feel safe sharing that with you. And the families who lost children so your family could gain matter too, at least to me.
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They are ALL ADULTS now. They can do whatever they wish. “Safety,” I doubt, is a concern. The family that was abusing one of our kids can kiss my black ass.
aug 24, 2025, 4:34 pm • 0 0 • view
My adoptive family abused me and they can rot in hell. I know not all adoptive families are like that but neither are all bio families like the one you describe. In any case adoption was neither designed nor intended to prevent child abuse. If you've got money you don't lose kids for any reason.
aug 24, 2025, 4:37 pm • 2 0 • view
I agree. Adoption is was not designed to prevent child abuse. In fact, I read daily where adoptees were left to the devices of the criminally negligent
aug 24, 2025, 4:48 pm • 1 0 • view
I’m not sure money has anything to do with it. There are certainly bad parents, with money, biological and adoptive who are bad at parenting.
aug 24, 2025, 4:47 pm • 0 0 • view
With infant adoption it has everything to do with it. People are paying $50K+ for newborns. That's the commodification I am referring to. Foster care is increasingly going that way with people seeking to foster babies and toddlers only, planning to adopt them.
aug 24, 2025, 4:49 pm • 1 1 • view
Oh I think the “industry,” is a shit show. Makes me wonder where the concentration camp, deported children and the Ukraine removed children will all end up in a world that failed to protect them.
aug 24, 2025, 4:54 pm • 1 0 • view
That's what happened in his first term. Thousands of children disappeared by Betsy DeVos.
aug 24, 2025, 5:07 pm • 1 1 • view
I can’t imagine the terror , or uncertainty 1 must feel to give up a child. I’m sure our adult adoptees will always have matters of concern their adopted moms have not heard. ( though each could’ve met their birth mothers. They chose not to do so) Having them in our family was definitely our gain.
aug 24, 2025, 4:31 pm • 0 0 • view
Y'all sound like a great family. Adoptees can experience pain and loss even when removal from their original family was absolutely necessary and they were placed in the best circumstances.
aug 24, 2025, 4:42 pm • 1 1 • view
Of course they can experience a range of emotions directly attributable to the adoption. I can only pray our adult adoptees feel like they can come to ANY of us, or find through us, any help, understanding or therapy they feel necessary. Course we are damn clannish…so there’s that
aug 24, 2025, 4:51 pm • 0 0 • view