Not my experience with our politicians. I think they do a solid job sounding normal in a traditional and social media environment filled with dorkass weirdos with mommy issues who are relentlessly hostile to them.
Not my experience with our politicians. I think they do a solid job sounding normal in a traditional and social media environment filled with dorkass weirdos with mommy issues who are relentlessly hostile to them.
You should talk to more Dems out in the wild. I'm a legal assistant in Phoenix. My hairdresser is a Dem too. So is my stepdaughter the bartender. None of us sound like Matt Yglesias and I am tired of him and his ilk projecting their weirdness onto the rest of us.
Most Democrats do. I know this because I listen to them and not the pundits and podcasters who tell Dems how to talk while sounding like every stereotype of us.
Yes, especially their sons. Something besides their own inattentiveness and red pill internet shit filling that void has to be to blame.
I don't regret saying it at all. Do you think Jonathan Haidt has a good relationship with his kids?
I have not stopped laughing at this for months. It's high time I shared it here in a bloop. Ya gotta say it out loud sometime.
I mean hey, it's "soft POWER" not "soft sharing". This is Amurika dammit!
"the US's cultural and familial connections" Wut? Do they know what adoption actually is?
Eww Megan McArdle
I mean, some people are suggesting inceldom is evolution weeding lesser men out of the gene p.... Evo Bros: No! Not like that!
But have you even tried revenge?
And a statement of authority. They can put family on the street over anything they disapprove of but you are not allowed to do it to them.
In this case it protects us from being infected by their views. Surely you've seen all the people who have gone down the pipeline from normal to MAGA based on whom they were listening to.
It began in 2007 with Gardasil.
They're thinking Tommy Hilfiger
This time of year in Phoenix my husband, who's doing a masters program, bikes to the rec center and showers there. The shower is a necessity.
People I know who bike commute to work or school where there are dress codes. They manage it but it's a hassle.
You can walk in the clothing and accessories you intend to be wearing at your destination most of the time. Not always the case with cycling.
While they can lie to us with impunity.
And I have seen doctors suggest that fathers over 40 be considered "geriatric".
Why don't you switch up your media sources? Dems just won a special state lege election in an Iowa district Trump won by 20, without your "messaging" help.
You go to the camps first. Show us the way!
Okay but we've got to get over things like "genuine" and "authentic" because they waste our time with arbitrary theater criticism of our leadership instead of the PR. No one on the other side cares that Mike Johnson sounds like a dweeb the way we do about how Jeffries sounds.
No I do not misunderstand it all. I am not aware of any liberal opposition to the private infant adoption industry. Liberals adopt infants too. Anyway this is an Adoptees of Bluesky conversation. 🥚
Abortion bans, except that girls and women don't matter to you.
And this is why I have zero patience with the argument the MSM is irrelevant and doesn't influence anyone. They absolutely influence prominent people and political leaders and it matters a lot.
Oh they did successfully change the public narrative from "abortion bans kill women" to "young men are lonely and the birth rate is too low" by 2024. Because the Matts and Ezras are irrelevant when it comes to the former and they couldn't handle the lack of attention.
Because Carter stopped the open bar at WH events before him.
Seriously I regret every minute I spent believing journalists were all ethical people who cared about democracy and a free press.
In my case one of those men got to adopt me and then got full custody in the divorce.
I agree but you also love adoption. Difference is you pretend not to understand it requires unplanned pregnancies and people lacking means to keep the babies. Anti-choicers are at least honest about that. And my post was for adopted people, not you.
Somehow they could explain nuclear war back in my day and school shootings now but they somehow can't explain why Aunt Rachel is now Uncle Ron. GMAFB
I keep circling back to the fact she adopted from the state of Georgia, where abortion is banned. The "adoption is a parenting choice, not a pregnancy one" formulation is pretty meaningless in those places.
DOGE fires a bunch of fed'l workers and people wonder why no one's maintaining the restrooms.
Me five minutes ago: I'm not going to read the Prince Andrew biography, so I'll just read this article about it Me after reading these two paragraphs: LMAO GOOD GOD
The Golden Sons of those type of families are almost always a public menace.
Yeah, the news industry does a bad job around this. It exemplifies the problem with journalism in general, with the lack of background diversity in the journalists. Some are adoptees (usually from infancy) but very few have experienced foster care.
And, paradoxically, condescending.
If it's true I'm whooping some people's asses in my future incarnation lol.
That's what happened in his first term. Thousands of children disappeared by Betsy DeVos.
With infant adoption it has everything to do with it. People are paying $50K+ for newborns. That's the commodification I am referring to. Foster care is increasingly going that way with people seeking to foster babies and toddlers only, planning to adopt them.
Y'all sound like a great family. Adoptees can experience pain and loss even when removal from their original family was absolutely necessary and they were placed in the best circumstances.
My adoptive family abused me and they can rot in hell. I know not all adoptive families are like that but neither are all bio families like the one you describe. In any case adoption was neither designed nor intended to prevent child abuse. If you've got money you don't lose kids for any reason.
The adoptees may not and they may not feel safe sharing that with you. And the families who lost children so your family could gain matter too, at least to me.
That's true and also most liberals want more adoption, which requires unplanned pregnancies and poor mothers unable to care for them. The forced birthers are honest about it while pro-choice people pretend that isn't so.
This got some engagement and I am just going to point out the 🥚in a post means it's an Adoptee Bluesky conversation. Many of us are pre-Roe born from what's called the Baby Scoop Era, which is coming back, and many liberals either don't care or are celebrating that aspect of abortion bans.
I was pro-choice before you were born. Because of what happened to my unmarried mother in 1968.
Has your family put up children for adoption? If you've not experienced the loss through it you only know the gain.
I'm talking about adoption here.
Not being what, adopter and bio relative? What sucks for us besides YOU?
You believe she did, right?
Oof. She didn't think your bio granddaughter would do well in your family! Anyway welcome to being a BIO relative, with all the assumptions and stereotypes that entails. Did you know people assume your house is a meth lab?
None of it is about psychology or fitness to parent. It's always about social position.
She'll blame the bios for that, guarantee it.
It's odd this adoptee journalist hadn't found the Baby Scoop history while searching for her mother. I hope she finds other adult adoptees bc one straight-talking judge's words may not be so healing in the long-term & 'Judge Judy' might have a history of complicity in those unethical adoptions. 🥚
Oh, and she would be describing the child as her granddaughter if she was bio.
Assuming it's the adoptee because someone like her would likely press a bio daughter in HS to get an abortion over giving away a grandchild or being a teen mom.
As is her relinquishing a child while in FC. Wonder if there were "living expenses" involved in that.
Yep, I can see why the girl "chose" relinquishment and it breaks my heart for her. I also doubt the now-adult adoptee spends much time with them. Generally, bio families tend to overstate the relationships they have with returning adoptees. A card twice a year is "she's part of the family now!" 🥚
I'm just gobsmacked she's admitting all this. You're an AP and you aren't embarrassed that your family wasn't good enough to raise your grandchild in? It's just more proof adoption has fuck all to do with child safety.
Made the choice to nope out on your family. I am def willing to believe the child actually got a better life in this particular case!
Ty!
I'm just going to observe that your daughter chose relinquishment to another family for her baby instead of your family, without further comment.
Good question.
I would take your adoptive daughter's word on that but I will never take yours, adopter.
I'd rather deal with "you could have been aborted!" people than pro-choice NPR liberals. At least the former are honest about seeing us as commodities and not giving AF what happens to us in adoption. The latter are the same but smarmy disingenuous hypocrites about it. 🥚
How many heinous adoptions are acceptable to you? If your grandchild said she had the misfortune of being in one would your response be to remind her that not all adoptions are like that? Do you think that would be helpful to her?
I want everyone to have sex ed, contraception, safe legal abortion, and support to parent if they choose birth. That's what prevented me from creating a "throwaway" child and my own mother should have had them. And one adoption horror story is too many. What are you doing to stop it?
Never forget that James Dobson interviewed Ted Bundy just before his execution to peddle the idea that Bundy was a victim of a liberal society that prioritized pornography access over Christian values. I don’t buy the argument that Dobson was duped by Bundy
The singer Bobby Darin grew up believing the woman who was actually his mother was his sister. It's said to have devastated him when he learned the truth.
Did he do the shower thing with the adopted son? Bet my paycheck on it he did.
One of the reasons why my NYT critiques are often systemic is because NYT is an editor driven institution and at minimum unless things have changed every story is seen by at least 2 editors. For bigger stories it can be half a dozen. /1
Funny how only the adoptee is told to never contact the mother but no one else is. Not the adoption agency people, not her parents or other relatives who pressured her to relinquish, not even the father of the baby if they remain in a relationship. Only the adoptee "opens wounds". 🥚
Why are the media promoting this? The boxes were sold as a way to prevent infanticide-by-abandonment not a drive thru adoption relinquishment service.
Yes, and also families are comprised of bio and non-related people. If I were a rando who married into my bio family I'd be a member in good standing. As a bio adopted out I am a nonentity.
Isn't she supposed to be blonde?
They're saying 'sartorial' in USA Today but Democrats are smug elitists for not trying to sound like cavemen.
Dems could stop it by boycotting all you corporate media hacks into the fucking ground because you are the problem.
When I was younger I would listen to Rush or Hannity, and joke that I was “keeping an eye on the opposition.” I would find myself yelling at the radio in the car so I stopped bc it was bad for me. MMFA took that idea, and did it at scale, and broke the brains of some really talented journalists.
Many people conflate us wanting to know our bios with blindly worshiping them. Prob because that's how they expect us to view our adopters instead. The idea we can have complicated feelings/experiences with family escapes them.
And what the hell, I'm hungry so, a pizza 🥚 Do I get an A, teacher? #familytree #adopteebluesky 4/4
Anyway here's my Found Family Tree, circa 1978. Family can be whatever you want! 🥚 1/
The child is not the one who found that family, Becky.
Wait, there's a fucking cake and Emmylou's ear on this thing? Also, she approaches Mama "tentatively" about it, carefully managing Mama's emotions. And then lets Mama direct her project. Like a good little adoptee.
And what class is the family tree assignment in, science? If so what do your neighbors have to do with your genes?
Teach your adopted child to rely on the kindness of strangers early because that's all they're going to have in life.
"Just do your adoptive family" Yeah, I thought it was about genetics, not legal documents.
Noting the difference with Montana.
Mic drop. 🎤💥
And Hillary before that. Dem leaders do substantive things while NYTers can basically bs their way through their jobs, which is how Republicans operate so they like them better. Mommy making them do homework vs Daddy letting them play video games.
They like the cultural stuff too, as evidenced by their editorial staff.
I think they have long considered Republicans the rightful owners of the country and since they don't believe in democracy neither does NYT.
We need to talk about Charles Lane because he was born in 1905 and died in 2007 and he played old men, like he did in Arsenic and Old Lace in 1944, the entire time. #tcmparty
Except when you think more "respectable" people deserve their children more.
This IS my best life and future! I like my choice to tell adoption promoters to piss up ropes.
My intention and focus is on telling ignoramuses about adoption to bug off rn. I find it very healing. So bug off!
They're adjusting now! The baby "supply" has collapsed. Most prospective adopters abandon the process when they see the pricetag and wait times.
Also media reporting feelings over fact to help the GOP.
