That’s lovely. I’m so glad you have such consistent support in GVD to help hold you through such rough months. We’ll do our best here too!
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It was so lovely! They don't reply to emails unless I ask them to (and I usually don't) and they don't usually say "I'm glad you emailed" when they do but the few times they have, it's been, like, *exactly* what I needed to hear in that moment. I'm not so crazy, they're too scared or mad etc
aug 28, 2025, 6:59 pm • 2 0 • view
*they're **not** too scared or mad! Yikes @ that missed word!
aug 28, 2025, 7:03 pm • 1 0 • view
Oh I love that you’ve had conversations around replying. I imagine that really eases anxiety around it. And YES, having it made clear that we’re not *too much* is just so important in the more vulnerable moments. I can totally relate.
aug 28, 2025, 7:08 pm • 1 0 • view
Yeah! We negotiated what contact would look like very early on in our work, back when we were only able meet 1x/wk (and so apparent that wasn't actually sufficient). I still tend to be ambivalent but knowing they're receptive to it certainly helps ease the anxiety that I'm "bad" for doing/needing it
aug 28, 2025, 7:15 pm • 1 0 • view
That’s beautiful. I do email my therapist if I need an extra session or if I just want to send her an article or something, but I am very prone to shame around ‘needing too much contact’ or being ‘unboundaried’ or whatever so I think it’s really cool you can do that even if ambivalent about it!
aug 28, 2025, 7:20 pm • 1 0 • view
Fears around being "unboundaried" is a major part of the ambivalence, yes! I do think that if we had been able to 2-3x/wk from the start, regular-ish contact btwn sessions wouldn't have felt so necessary. And I/we fell into a rhythm with it... actually, it feels very transitional object, haha
aug 28, 2025, 7:27 pm • 1 0 • view
It's also been curious to notice the different ways I use email– like, sending articles/upcoming workshops re mutual interests, post-session thoughts, threads to pin for future sessions, late-night panic attacks, etc- they all ~feel~ very different, with entirely different motivations/desires/needs
aug 28, 2025, 7:31 pm • 1 0 • view
Yep, I would find some safe enough to send and others I would lack the courage for. You’re showing us what can be done - both of you.
aug 28, 2025, 7:58 pm • 1 0 • view
Aww. Trust me, there are plenty I'm not brave enough to send either, and. This means a lot to me, thank you. 🥰
aug 28, 2025, 9:16 pm • 1 0 • view
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aug 28, 2025, 9:50 pm • 1 0 • view