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Buzz Foster @buzzfoster.bsky.social

The best way I can describe it is that their lives are now a series of unchangeable events across time; recorded and unrecorded actions that happened in a singular way. Interaction isn't possible. They existed, but no longer do. And the emotions I feel are for the memories, not the person.

aug 30, 2025, 2:02 pm • 5 0

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Buzz Foster @buzzfoster.bsky.social

I do grieve, but for the living. When my ex left me in 2003 and losing my foster daughter in 2015 both triggered about four years of deep grief I thought would never end or improve. From observing my husband in '15-'16, that's about 4x longer than "normal".

aug 30, 2025, 2:05 pm • 3 0 • view