Point of this is transphobia can be more than just words. And plenty of people can say the right things and cause harm, sometimes immensely so. What I find comforting to know is that bullies almost always are some of the weakest people you will ever meet. Their self-esteem is bottom of the barrel.
Bullies can look like quite successful people as well. They can do their best to surround themselves with people who tell them how great they are. Yet inside? They often feel hollow. Empty. Typically because of awful trauma they’ve been through. And they got through by being aggressive.
Make yourself big. Bark the loudest. People see themselves as the hero in their story. They can see their difficult life, and how hard they worked to get what they earned. Then someone comes along who has talent or skills that threaten the bully’s place somehow—true or no—destroy them.
If they could actually feel worth from their accomplishments they could perhaps see others as people to collaborate with… and instead. They only see potential enemies. That need to be defeated. I hope everyone in this world heals. Finds their worth. We all have worth. We are not our worst days.
We all have a chance to start fresh on any given day and make new choices. To leave behind actions you regret. Start taking new ones. That can be incredibly difficult. I do believe it’s possible. And have seen it. Will always wish this for everyone. Peace.