It's something that really gets looked over and I've straight up had coworkers tell me that it's impossible to rape a man because of said perceived willingness, or that if a man gets raped it's because he's "weak" from another coworker. Then as ace with low sex drive, it's been a real issue.
I'm ace, and I've been married to a girl and a guy, but with my ex-wife it was a clear case of emotional manipulation when she wanted to have sex, and I never really felt like it, didn't enjoy it. I'm still dealing with sex aversion from unwanted touching to try and arouse me and the guilt tripping.
Sounds familiar. I had a (fourteen-year, god help me) relationship like that.
I got married at 20 and had never even kissed someone before my wedding day, so I had no idea what I was getting into. We stayed together for 8 years and though we have a good relationship now, after we separated she went online saying I emotionally abused her by not having sex with her enough?
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that is not a thing
I think some people have exactly one conception of rape that involves violence and don't have any concept of more coercive scenarios.