I use hair gel that you "break" after it has settled to style my curls after shower, do you think you could maybe clump them together? I use secret de loly if that helps

Yeah but do you know how much WORK it is to maintain that? (I do.) I get it tho we all want what we don't have. In the meantime there's always wigs I guess?

I share the fine haired jealousy. So many styles ive seen that look great, but if I grow my hair out, i get maybe a few hours before it looks a mess...