Heck, most of my aunts and uncles used their middle names instead of the first names on their birth certificates, as does my mother, and my grandfather used a nickname not related to his first or middle name. But a chosen name suddenly shouldn't be respected if it's chosen by a trans/NB person. 🙄
Which goes to the whole identity thing. They accept the cis nickname because they respect their identity, they reject the trans name change necause they reject the trans identity.
Yep.
It's what bugs my mind. But it also illustrates my point. It is a respect thing. Name is part of identity, but if that identity isn't respected then they'll use what name they *want* to identify you as. This is the same as nicknames being used over legal names, in my lifetime.
Which goes into the giving a person a nickname they don't like thing.
Yup. Diminutive nicknames for people who they see as children, parents doing it to reclaim power over their kids...
A name should be the first gift a parent gives their child, but for too many parents its the first bar in the cage they want their child in
My brother chooses to spell his name differently. I would have teachers intentionally transpose vowels in mine when they wanted to flex that authority over new students. I may not be trans, but I know the power in a name.