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THE GREAT WHEREVER (forthcoming from Holt, summer ‘26); COMPANY, 2024 winner of the L.A.Times Book Prizes Award for First Fiction: https://www.graywolfpress.org/books/company. Mom, twin mom, lawyer, Silver Springer. She/her
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It’s not enough but it’s something. Pay up, thieves
It looks so beautiful!! Congrats!!
Oh yes! We just separated ours for the first time this year (pre-K) and it’s already so clearly a good decision (the school year started yesterday)
This is so interesting!! Two of my boys are twins so I get a lot of twin content in my algorithm including those twin conventions full of adult twins who apparently spend all their time together, planning their outfits for the annual twin convention. The spectrum is so wide
Bad Blood is in my top 3 of the series, and much has to do with GA’s face acting in the opening sequence
Season 5 is one of the best and it’s where I jumped in in real-time so I know you don’t need too much background
No!!!! Start with season 5 and it will come back to you. Ask me questions if you need any backstory
Ours too. September is a mottled mess on the calendar
These are people who don’t want to *avoidably* have to miss work (and lose money), and their clientele respects them enough to do something very easy for 30 minutes. It is practical and completely simple. We are a demographic who knows no one is coming to save us, and we behave accordingly.
As RFK spews bullshit and the world loses its mind, shoutout to my aesthetician, which (in Sept 2025) quietly continues requiring masks. 3 notes: (1) The staff is all Black women; (2) the clientele is (almost) all Black women; and (3) no one throws even a tiny bitch baby tantrum about the masks.
I love seeing the style sheets for other people’s books in progress because they’re like a little peek at the feel of the book itself, but absurdly devoid of context. You feel like you’re smelling the book but can’t see it, or something. Anyway, here’s mine
It is unbelievable over there! Addictively so
Ours has been harassed about this question so much that they’ve started putting out bulletins informing us they still have no info but will let us know
I loved my Boba, which looks a lot like the Mobi! I was pathologically unable to prioritize aesthetics
I’ve been a parent long enough to know that to celebrate too hard would be to court disaster, but: I sent all three kids to school today, with packed backpacks and cute outfits and huge smiles on their faces. They are so happy and excited and I managed not to lose my job all summer. We did it!
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You can’t trust or cooperate with someone prepared to sacrifice literally everything to spite you
Most terrible things that people do, I can still understand within the framework of putting themselves and their own babies first. When someone’s hatred of others vaults PAST that as a priority, they seem (to me) irredeemable. That’s where I think a lot of this country is at this point.
The depth of American selfishness needs to be studied. The first time in our lifetimes that we were asked to do something that might help our neighbors, a bunch of us decided to not only NOT do that but race in the opposite direction and kill their own children instead
It’s true (I was there!) but social media influencers today seem to be using it to mean a summer where the kids run free and you don’t overschedule them or hover around doing things for them. They have built a fantasy summer that’s relaxing for the parents
“It was amazing, I just went about my business and didn’t offer snacks and they didn’t ask to eat for like 5 straight hours”
The concept of a “90s summer” only works if the whole neighborhood is on the same page. If you were the only parent who gave your kid a 90s summer, then your kid actually had a 2025 summer but with the snacks, supervision, and labor provided by someone else
It was a new-to-me extension of the identity
Today on ig I saw a mom whose profile and multiple posts were like “#BoyMom 💙😊” I looked at a few of her photos and she very clearly has one boy and one girl, both under age 5
Unbelievable amounts of ignorance at work
Sufficient/necessary is a core element of logical reasoning and we are surrounded by people who don’t get it. They are quick to (falsely) believe they’ve scored a point in arguments when they haven’t. I think about that every time I see someone melting down about the phrase “Black lives matter.”
I taught logical reasoning for years, and in every class there were students who would never grasp the concept of sufficient vs. necessary. They would get that “All apples are fruits” does not mean “ONLY apples are fruits,” but not be able to apply that to *anything* else. They just couldn’t. (More)
I have a foot injury that I should probably be resting, but it’s the first week of nursery school, so 😃
Michelle Obama: kids should have healthier school lunches RFK Jr: maybe if we let the plague run wild we can build a master race Media: wow these are the same thing
Thank you, Jeannie!
I enjoyed doing this!! Thanks @amycolleen.bsky.social for spotlighting some of my work ❤️
Oh good!!
Is this good or bad? I hope people are also bringing food or chocolate if you want those things
Yeah and I also think people prefer blaming women for their own hardships versus offering suggestions or even feeling sympathy for them, lol 🙃
Also, we do plenty of days at home, they are just NOT relaxing
It leads to my feeling a little misunderstood by everyone around me because they seem to think I actually love running from activity to activity in a constant state of dishevelment and wouldn’t love to sit listening to music occasionally!
Yes we do limit screen time and yes that makes it somewhat self-inflicted, but these same well-meaning loved ones generally support those limits so it’s a little baffling
One frustrating communication breakdown I have often is when a loved one tells me I’m running around too much and should take a relaxing day at home. I share my home with a 7yo and two 4yos, the most relaxing day here is less relaxing than the wildest day at an amusement park!! Like…relax how
Boosting this for the Labor Day crowd! I did this one on a Sunday but will be aiming for Tuesdays generally, in case you’re thinking of subscribing. 😃 Love beehiiv as an alternative to SS by the way!
What in hell is going on
I also wonder whether they would somehow think it was a problem if a kid educated in a traditional school couldn’t read at grade level? Or do they think not learning to read at home is better than not learning to read at school
I’m not even saying you’re necessarily a bad homeschooler if your 8yo isn’t reading chapter books! I’m just saying that bragging about your performance in an area that is largely unregulated and where you can make it a long time before anyone notices you’ve failed at it is an oddly confident choice
I’ve seen this exact text replicated a ton of times in the social media wild now (same ages cited, same missed milestones) and…are homeschooling influencers aware that it’s like very possible to be *bad* at homeschooling?
That wasn’t mine but I agree with that too!
I agree, but what does that have to do with what I posted 😂
And STILL, the change in situation means I will get more than 0 writing done.
There will be the inevitable sick days. The days the school is closed for staff development. I will end the year with a PTO balance of 0. And there will also be days I have to spend work breaks calling around for appointments and cleaning spills etc. Parents are never actually off duty!
The newsletter has already gone out, but I have to clarify myself a little bit. In the post, I point out that soon I’ll be working during school hours and parenting during non-school hours. And as I know every parent knows (but some non-parents may not)—parenting continues during school hours!
I wrote about the start of the school year and what that means for my writing life: shanders-red-eye.beehiiv.com/p/back-to-li...
And I always end up sweating
I do take all three of my boys with me to the store often! It definitely takes 3 times as long though
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Oh yes!!
Wait which one is “the” TikTok pasta
Authors, you have a couple more days to add your contact info! (NB: You aren’t precluded from being part of the class if you don’t, but doing so will make it easier.) How amazing would it be if this made it even a little bit harder for them to shit on and destroy our work??
In a 3-under-3 house, the most valuable currency is solo time out running errands. Every minute is worth 100 back rubs, or 1 small ruby
Having 3 kids under 3 is wild, but the actual absurdities of the situation don’t really manifest until a few years later, when you find yourself (for example) begging them and their other parent for the privilege of stepping out solo for ~30 minutes to spend hundreds of dollars buying them all food
Trying to figure out a way to impress upon my students that using AI to skip course work in order to get a music degree is like ordering food at a restaurant and immediately throwing it out the window in order to get to pay the check
Noooo! That sucks I’m so sorry
Well said!!
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The same applies!!
The absolute hardest time of day
If my semicolons sound like ChatGPT—if anything I ever write sounds like ChatGPT—it’s because ChatGPT stole from me, not the other way around. Hope that clears things up
I hate this SO MUCH
He’s the opposite of a virgin in that!
But this is the opposite of what she’s saying, she wants adults off, kids on!!
Wait did you all know The 40-Year-Old Virgin is 20 YEARS OLD THIS MONTH. That man has now been getting laid for a third of his life
Yes I recommend this story often. I just think that if you haven’t read it yet, you should
Do you need something satisfying to read that will take you away from this hellhole for about 3 perfect minutes? Here is my recommendation, courtesy of @danchaon.bsky.social and @wigleaf.bsky.social: wigleaf.com/201302him.htm
Ok but I can almost guarantee this will show up in your fiction someday, in some form
What’s the other one? Frozen?
Thank you!
I do have one tiny piece of good news today, which is that my second book is one step closer to becoming a book. Here’s a peek at the uncorrected bound proof 👀
Deeply unwell nation
However, my body is kind of falling apart, it tested our marriage, and I haven’t written a word (not counting revising) since May! So that’s how our summer went. SO MUCH LOVE to the kids’ teachers, whom they’re so excited to see this week and next. And praying to everything for their safety.
Our summer was a different sort of stressful, I realize, than the type a SAHM experiences. I do have a tip for working moms for whom this is an option: a temporary compressed work schedule. I did a 4-by-10 and actually worked faster and better (my metrics were up x2.5 times for July/August). +
I like to hope they mostly didn’t notice the wear and tear on us. I hope they remember every summer as the most fun summer of their lives, and that the fact that Wes and I were underwater is forgotten by everyone, including us. We did save money by not hiring a new sitter. +
One person finding fun things to do and fielding snack requests, one person trying to work, swap, repeat for 2.5 months. Day camp was wonderful in June and July, but over in August. Our kids are at super fun ages and they are friendly and have tons of friends, which brought lots of new fun! +
Today’s @thepom.bsky.social will resonate with a lot of people. We lost our part-time sitter at the beginning of the summer, so my husband and I got to have a summer with all of the joys @kristenmulrooney.bsky.social describes, and with two FT jobs packed in there, which meant alternating. +
What a dark day. What a dark time to be responsible for children.
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Hey, I have had some questions about who is allowed to file. Here is the class certification:
Greed, self-importance, unwilling to rest until all of us have to see one or both of their faces literally every day of our lives
Guys, do you think Travis was hoping to boost that American Eagle news, or bury it
If only shapeshifter romantasy were the core of our literary foundation, we would have realized that long ago
Not to center my own experience here but I have read hundreds, truly hundreds, of examples of that phrase being used across my decades of life, referring to humans, and this is the ONLY time I have ever even considered that it makes more sense applied to something with paws
Spreading this news! Authors, add your names!
Oh my god, I missed the context entirely and thought this meant something else, will delete. What a horrific situation
(Carolyn’s answer is great, btw, and includes the point that parents generally understand this and that’s why the early years are unique in their staggering loneliness 🙃)
But that last sentence is an issue—seeing way less of friends with young kids is an inevitability, even IF they can sometimes access childcare, and the only magical way around it is sucking up the kid-related annoyance. Which you are perfectly entitled to not want to do.
Our friends (childfree and childful alike) just give plenty of notice and bake it into the invitation: “Can you guys get childcare for some Saturday in mid-September so we can xyz?” It’s direct and we always WANT to say yes and no feelings are hurt.
It’s worth noting that they announced a strategic partnership with OpenAI earlier this year
Oh dear
It really does feel very much like they want the answer to be yes
Grown, rich (mostly) men, pretending to debate this question in earnest
(They entered a strategic partnership with OpenAI earlier this year)
Shucking and jiving
My children’s future has been compromised to the point where I owe them an apology for bringing them here, but I guess it could be seen as sad that an LLM can generate text imitating sadness if prompted to! I guess one could choose to be sad about that!!!!