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The pedestrian you honked at on Powell St. Adoptee.
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The answer is always green bean casserole or cranberry sauce. ๐ Unsafe folks are not entitled to your truth. Unfortunately, adopters insist they are.
She confirmed bio daughter (who is younger than foster/adoptee daughter) relinquished firstborn in high school. Imagine choosing to relinquish when your mom, who you live with, is a foster parent to other kids? Something was seriously wrong in that home.
Did she confirm which daughter relinquished the baby? It wasn't clear to me if it was the foster daughter or the bio daughter. Both are a yikes and a critique of her character but for different reasons.
I think she's used to receiving praise for selfless acts of saviourism. Probably very surprised to find her usual shtick didn't land with adoptees. Adopting after the adoptee aged out of state funded care is very telling. ๐ฅ
"During which time, I may or may not have operated a state funded sleep away-camp of my own." ๐ฌ ๐ฎ ๐ฅ Like what???
Her story is so nuanced. "My daughter sent her daughter to 18 years of sleep-away camp. She came home with friends!" ๐ ๐ฅ
She being whom? Bio daughter, adopted daughter, or both?
Also, your "observe...without comment" reply made me laugh out loud hard. ๐ ๐คฃ ๐
As a progressive voter, these folks always surprise me. Like being blocked by "LGBTQ+ Ally ๐จ๐ฆ Grandmother" for speaking out against plenary adoption as human trafficking... what the heck? ๐ฅ
Did your biological daughter or foster (at the time, now adopted) daughter relinquish a baby in high school? ๐ฅ
Your daughter requested adoption as an adult. Infants & children can not consent. One happy adult does not negate the harm caused by the adoption system exploiting birth mothers, selling babies to the highest bidder, and erasing born identity through the altering of legal documents. ๐ฅ
Oops.. that should read QC for Quรฉbec not QB. ๐ฅ
I just watched episode one of The Rainmaker tv remake. It's so terribly dated despite being a 2025 release.
All that to say, gestational lies can be included on any birth certificate issued in Canada. ๐ฅ QB possibly excluded pending a better understanding of their "A Copy of an Act of Birth" option.
Nunavut has issued birth certificates since its inception in 1999. All NU certificates include parental info. Like NT, NU also offers the "Restricted Photocopy" option. Perhaps an indicator of increased rates of child trafficking in vulnerable communities? ๐ฅ
Northwest Territories uses the same terminology as BC, ON, AB, etc. but also offers a "Restricted Photocopy" of the original birth registration for a higher fee which will "only be issued if authorized by the Registrar General of Vital Statistics or on the order of a court". So that's yucky. ๐ฅ
Newfoundland and Labrador & New Brunswick use the short & long form terminology. While PEI calls the parental option a "detailed birth certificate." Yukon options are Individual & Parental. ๐ฅ
Alberta, Saskatchewan, Manitoba, Nova Scotia offer both too; SK & ND call the parental option the "Long Form Birth Certificate". All Quรฉbec birth certs include parental info, but QC also issues "A Copy of an Act of Birth": a civil status document concerning the birth of an adopted person...(???). ๐ฅ
Both BC & Ontario offer two types:"Birth Certificate with Parental Information Included" & "Individual Information Only Birth Certificate." Before 2008, BC's parental option was larger while the individual one was wallet size. Now, in BC, both are 12.5 cm x 17.5 cm & too big for a wallet. ๐ฅ
Yes! ๐ฅ
My favorite is the surprise of adopters when they fail to receive gold star praise for selfless saviourism when replying to an anti-adoption/anti-trafficking thread. ๐ฅ
So, there is no option to support "unwanted" children but to legally erase their identity through falsified birth records? Would this infant still be relinquished if the birth mother received the extremely high agency fees paid by Brown & Bongiovi? Absolutely not. #HumanTrafficking ๐ฅ
I just received this chef's kiss of accurate simplicity for speaking out against human trafficking. ๐ฅ
Adoption, esp infant adoption, is traumatic loss. Babies & children can not, & do not, consent to being removed from biological family. If adopters put children first, they'd keep families together. Instead, adopters spend $$$ removing new borns from mothers & falsifying birth records.4/4 ๐ฅ
Brown is a huge animal lover; operating an animal rescue on her Georgia farm. Animal advocates are adamant puppies stay with their mother for a minimum of 8 weeks. In my experience, any birth mother supported to stay with her baby for 8 weeks will not relinquish. Adoption agencies know this. 3/
Per the report, which is older than Millie Bobby Brown, the domestic infant supply is near zero. The only way this pair of barely legal adults is passing the "home study" is by paying extremely high fees to a private agency. 2/
From CDC adoption demand report, "โฆ nearly 1 million women were seeking to adopt children in 2002 (i.e., they were in demand for a child), whereas the domestic supply of infants relinquished at birth or within the first month of life and available to be adopted had become virtually nonexistent.โ 1/
If a consenting adult wishes to name you on their legal birth records, awesome... celebrate it. Children & infants are not old enough to consent to changing birth records. Brown (21) and Bongiovi (23) adopted a baby. Barely legal adults make choices for a child too young to consent. ๐ฅ
Me and everyone posting the ๐ฅ emoji on Bluesky.
Human trafficking isn't bettering the community. While you may know many adopters, you may not have sufficient trust with their adoptees for said adoptees to share their honest experiences. ๐ฅ
Love them enough to relinquish your child to their care? Celebrities can support children without changing legal birth records to list themselves as parents to someone else's child. ๐ฅ
The information is wealthy celebrities Brown (age 21) and Bongiovi (age 23) adopted a baby. Adoption is the practice of changing the baby's legal birth records; issuing a new birth certificate with the adopters (Brown & Bongiovi) listed as parents. ๐ฅ
I just heard, "When procuring an object, the source doesn't matter."
Brent, that hits hard. Full erasure of adoptee identity to suit adopters. Yikes.
Blocked for speaking out against human trafficking! I regret I didn't screenshot the exchange. #AdoptionIsTrauma #AbolishAdoption #adopteesky ๐ฅ
Extracted? The point of the article is that Brown and Bongiovi adopted an infant. Adoption is human trafficking. ๐ฅ #AdoptionIsTrauma #AbolishAdoption #adopteesky
What's bigger than speaking out against human trafficking? ๐ฅ
Brown runs an animal rescue on her farm in Georgia. It is not surprising that someone using the language of adoption with pets (which is degrading/dehumanizing to human adoptees) moves on to human trafficking. ๐ฅ
Her stylist did her dirty with this look. Perhaps the stylist knew Millie was/is a human trafficker and enacted a little revenge?
The photo caused me to do a double take too, I thought it was Pamela Anderson (who's gorgeous at 58), not a kid born 2004.
"For me, like, I don't see having your own child as really any different in adopting," Brown said. "I feel like ... my home is full of love for anyone or anything." Spoken like a human trafficker. Offensive on so many levels. ๐ฅ
This is 100% how I feel.
๐ฅ"Today, I'm doing for myself what my adoptive parents didn't do for me. I'm allowing myself to grieve my adoptee losses, whatever that looks like for me." ~~Pamela Karanova Listen to #adopteevoices
Ugh.
Multiple fonts crosses the line. Hard no.
PSA unplug hotel alarm clocks on arrival! No one wants to be awakened earlier than necessary. Ever.
I would encourage you to frame this differently. Poverty is a systemic issue, not a personal failure. What is it when we take children from people who suffer from systemic oppression and poverty? When society first creates the problem and then punishes people for not being able to overcome it?
% signifies "out of one hundred" and is placed directly after a number without a space (e.g., 50%).
the Star Tribune just called me and told me they would not be publishing the obituary I wrote for my father as it is โunfair to himโ and โin poor tasteโ so here it is and fuck the strib โ๐ป
Most churches, like most schools, run on the unpaid labor of womenโฆ
Oh, quite right.
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people dismiss adoptees like me as โangryโ because the belief that #adoption does selfless good in the world is dogma. it therefore leaves no room for the idea that what produces the anger is knowledge.
With CBC now having called all ridings it's time for the land-vs-people-vote animation.
Yet another fact-checked lie by Poilievre (he also lied about 200,000 affordable homes built under his govt; it was 4,000). The percentage of peopleโs income that are taxes has remained unchanged since 2016:
Canโt believe between the federal government and Harvard Iโm rooting for Harvard
Think I might start using this prefix to explain my feelings as an #adoptee. penfamilia Almost but never quite #adopteesky ๐ฅ
Elbows up, Canada.
I am sorry for your loss and all the emotional minefield that is adoption.
๐ฅ Adoptees, what are your opinions on therapists or councilors who are also adoptive parents? For me, it's an immediate no. Am I unreasonable? Am I limiting my options or keeping myself safe? My goal is to find an adoptee-safe therapist.
I hate all of it. ๐ฅ๐ #AbolishAdoption #AdoptionIsTrauma
If a social worker didn't believe birth mother's account of race/ethnicity, how could a CHILD trust anything? Was infant me ALONE with this hateful person? Why would an a-parent share their baby was to victim of hate speech? โญfor not being a bigot, but so hurtful to not see me in the story. ๐ฅ#adopt
#Adoption is an emotional minefield. One moment feeling empathy for a fellow adoptee, the next moment in my feels about a stranger's antisemitism at my hand-over and it's lasting impact of othering and invisibility in my relationship with my a-parents. ๐ฅ
I hadn't heard it in a while; a-mom telling it in '23 caught me off guard. I told my spouse, next time I will tell a-mom, to stop, I never want to hear it again. Spouse rec. asking questions, "why do you tell this story?" Or some teachable moment nonsense that again centers her. Just no. ๐ฅ
Are you asking about the J-baby incident? Yeah, it happened. My a-parents were so tone-deaf to how othering & hurtful this might be to me (an olive skin tone adoptee in 70s-80s white suburbia) they told it as part of their savior narrative. Last time I heard the story was 2023. 49 years later. ๐ฅ
My heart breaks for infant you at the airport hand-off between strangers. ๐ Take care tomorrow. ๐ฅ
Absolutely. My pickup story always centered my a-parents, what they were doing when the call came & how the social worker gave the option of not taking me because Mediterranean skin might mean "Jew." Of course, a-parents embraced this addition to the savior narrative and took me anyway. ๐ฅ
My family never specified "A day" or gotcha day. The chronology was vague - birth, severence, 30ish days in foster care, pickup by A-parents from some gov office. The idea of little me alone with nameless strangers made me really uncomfortable as a kid (still does). ๐ฅ
so given a choice between stopping or letting people drink poo the united states supreme court is on record on the โdrink pooโ side
A kept journalist writing for a kept audience. "I discovered... mistakes happened โ with unimaginable consequences. " That child-loss is accepted as every parent's worst nightmare contradicts the premise of adoption. Unimaginable consequences are my day-to-day lived experience. ๐ฅ #AdoptionAbolition
Love the prints! Stunning.
@adopteeson.bsky.socialโs interview with @kit-myers.bsky.social is so good. Kit discusses what he calls the โemotional violenceโ of #adoption with such sensitivity. I highly recommend it.
The snort returns the baby bird to the nest. The snort is a caretaking hero ๐ ๐ฅ
I read this book to my daughters many, many, many times. My oldest just picked up a copy as a gift for her boss, who is due tomorrow. ๐ ๐ฅ
#Adoptee here. The very idea of a registry of infant suppliersโof breeders for baby buyersโis fascism. Coercing people to relinquish to strangers the children they were forced to give birth to does not redress the injustice of forcing births; it compounds the injustice.
While not a new denomination or sect, anti-vax/anti-science beliefs incurred a significant increase in the Church in direct correlation to COVID-19 public health measures. Bums in seats equals dollars in the collection plate. Political pushback motivated by threat to revenue.
Valuing adopters "feelings" over the health & well-being (mental&physical) of the adoptee, the sacrifice of the heart donor, and the lives of others on the transplant wait list is unfortunately very on brand for adopters.
Unfortunately, while masking & vaccines decrease health risks in church, supporting public health & science now is to admit the Church prioritized revenue over lives (limiting the spread of contagious disease) during the pandemic. Instead, previously eradicated diseases are returning.
The financial impact of the science-based response to COVID-19 (limit infection thru distancing) on the Church (attendance=collection plate revenue) created a new sect of anti-science Christianity.
Their selective belief in science (transplants, yes; vaccines, no) while expecting to receive an extremely limited resource (human heart donation) without limiting possible infection (and therefore organ rejection) is shocking.
Introducing a powerful adoptee writer ๐ฅ@mirellastoyanova.bsky.social โ a moving sample of more to come. writeordiemag.com/elliptical-l...
โFascism begins the moment a ruling class, fearing the people may use their political democracy to gain economic democracy, begins to destroy political democracy in order to retain its power of exploitation and special privilege.โ โ Tommy Douglas
Some of us pro-choice adoptees warned people they wanted to bring back a new Baby Scoop Era (google if you don't know) and that means only white Christian cishet married people get to adopt the forced birth babies.
If thereโs anything we learn from the history of authoritarianism, itโs that once the authoritarian achieves small goals like purging the civil service & installing loyalists, they always just stop there and donโt go any further. Wait, hang on, I may not have read that book the whole way to the end.
a slideshow on surrogacy policy from the always ๐ฅ @moonjoo.bsky.social ๐ฅ 1/8
โA power-mad president possessed of radical theories of executive authority and convinced of his own royal prerogative has given de facto control of most of the federal govt to one of the richest men on the planetโฆwhoseโฆinterests are tangled up in those of rival govts and foreign autocraciesโ
Well. I did it. I submitted my book on the history of how the US government has removed Indigenous children from their families. From colonization to removal to boarding schools to today. For middle schoolers. I think it's the first book of its kind. I can't believe I got to do it.
My birth mother died prior to my reunion with her extended family. Photos of her short circuit my brain. I find myself thinking, "I don't remember this photo being taken" because my brain can't tell the difference between us. It breaks my heart into a million pieces. ๐ ๐ฅ
Season 4 is live! โ๐พ https://buff.ly/4hqWBW8 #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopted
๐ I'm sorry you had to navigate this. ๐ซ
Are any other adoptees irritated by pet parents, dog dads, or cat moms? I love animals, but casting yourself as the parent for a purchased pet is triggering. ๐ฅ
I spent years trying to navigate to a place/feeling of family & contentment (?) with AM & AB. I realized the foundation is faulty and beyond my power or ability to rectify. I don't wish ill on either, but now I limit access due to the huge emotional bandwidth required to spend time together. ๐ฅ
What are the mediocrities going to do when they find out that โDEIโ isnโt their problem? Iโm curious.
I can't fill the void adoption & mother-loss caused AB. While I have empathy, his trauma is not my fault (or my spouse or our daughters) nor my responsibility to rectify. Also, while I have empathy for all genetic outsiders, I intend to *somehow* tell AM to stop with the 3-copies comments. ๐ฅ
Also, I see AM's comment, "How did you create three copies of yourself?" as a conscious or subconscious recognition of genetic mirroring. I grew up a genetic outsider; all our extended family was AM's bio-family. Years later, the majority is now my bio-family (my daughters). Roles reversed. ๐ฅ
AB criticism, passive aggressive comments & constant need for attention/affirmation are exhausting. We are not leaving him out. We're just being ourselves. I now understand the problem isn't our behavior. He's excluded from genetic mirroring & loving relationships spouse & I share with our girls. ๐ฅ
AB uses the left-out narrative to guilt & manipulate. When my spouse, our daughters, and I donโt meet his needs (laughing at unfunny jokes or giving attention when we're content being quiet), AB is vocal that we are the problem. "You guys don't get it. You guys aren't morning people," etc...๐ฅ