I was just asked why someone would want to encourage others to believe you were dating them when you aren’t. I know my thoughts, curious what other’s might be.
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Person 1 doesn't see it this way while Person 2 likes the idea of dating Person 1, but cannot have it in reality. Person 2 is okay with "the way things are" for the sake of being close to Person 1 and is entertained by the idea of everyone around them mistaking them as dating; doesn't correct. weird
aug 18, 2025, 8:04 pm • 1 0 • view
this is speaking as the uncomfortable bystander who had to tell Person 1 what was happening ;_;
aug 18, 2025, 8:04 pm • 1 0 • view
The biggest ones are likely clout and control. Making themselves seem more desirable by being affiliated with someone who is desirable and limiting that person's ability to independence. It's gross and I'm sorry you experienced it.
aug 19, 2025, 4:36 am • 1 0 • view
Jealousy and wanting power over someone would be my best guess, fed by a lack of confidence in themselves; bigging themselves up by association.
aug 23, 2025, 4:34 am • 0 0 • view
I think it's because some people view power as an entirely gendered thing, and feel diminished by believing that everyone else does too, so that if they are seen to be somehow not in command it is surely because they're getting sex out of the deal and are therefore the true "winner".
aug 23, 2025, 4:02 am • 0 0 • view
Especially if you are in any way confident, professional, successful, and not a cis man. As someone who has gone through this, I'm so sorry. It's astonishingly shitty 💜
aug 23, 2025, 4:04 am • 0 0 • view
To be clear - i dont think there are ANY good or valid reasons for this. I just want other perspectives. Processing this as it has happened to me and i find myself seeking reasons. Men are trash just isn’t enough.
aug 18, 2025, 7:46 pm • 9 0 • view
o_0 uhhhhh- Freaky, unless it's like...you're pulling some rouse so a persistent person will leave you alone if they think you're taken???...and that's about the only version that isn't weird.
aug 18, 2025, 7:32 pm • 0 0 • view