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Yumeijin @yumeijin.bsky.social

I'm all for respecting boundaries, but those boundaries need to be respectful of others. Il this feels excessive, like putting the responsibility of emotional regulation on everyone else. Comparisons are a part of life and if we don't want people to engage in them we can choose not to engage

aug 18, 2025, 7:57 pm • 1 0

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Travissimo @tmunreal.bsky.social

Responses like this always feel weird to me. No one is asking you to change what you think or feel, or to anticipate what the artist feels. They're asking you to understand when they tell you they didn't appreciate something you did to them specifically and not continue to do it to them.

aug 18, 2025, 10:44 pm • 5 0 • view
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Yumeijin @yumeijin.bsky.social

They're not asking you to change what you think or feel, just your actions. Because the thing they don't appreciate is a foundational element of sharing anything with people, including a platform designed for sharing things. It's not really reasonable to this reaction and expectation

aug 22, 2025, 9:34 pm • 0 0 • view
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Travissimo @tmunreal.bsky.social

They are asking you to not do the action out loud to them, it's not that difficult. It's not everyone, and as with genders and even deadnames, the first mistake is always free. Just once they tell you, stop and don't try to justify continuing to cross a boundary.

aug 22, 2025, 9:39 pm • 0 0 • view
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Yumeijin @yumeijin.bsky.social

I know what they're asking, that doesn't make it any more reasonable to ask it of people.

aug 22, 2025, 9:41 pm • 1 0 • view
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Travissimo @tmunreal.bsky.social

You knowing doesn't change it but you're right, it's already the most reasonable thing in the world for someone to stop doing something to you when you ask them not to. No matter what it is.

aug 22, 2025, 9:57 pm • 0 0 • view
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Travissimo @tmunreal.bsky.social

Like if you asked me to stop responding to you, then it would be perfectly reasonable, and I would think, "okay," and then just stop responding to you. It would be easy because I respect you as a person.

aug 22, 2025, 10:04 pm • 0 0 • view
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Phoenix A. H. @phoenixah.bsky.social

Not to mention this response is coming after YEARS of asking it to stop. I don't get it either why some people get so defensive about people being upset that their boundaries are getting stomped on

aug 19, 2025, 3:52 am • 3 0 • view