My Daughter started back at Uni today, first day of her PGCE, she hasn't officially finished her Masters yet but that didn't stop her. She's autistic with anxiety but she doesn't let it rule her. I am incredibly proud of her. Fuck you RFK.
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That's great I hope she enjoys it, is she going Primary or Secondary?
sep 1, 2025, 9:44 am • 3 0 • view
I hope she does too, she was very nervous. She's doing secondary, she doesn't intend to do in person teaching in the future, rather online tutoring work but she still has to do the training in person. Who knows maybe she'll change her mind after the course.
sep 1, 2025, 9:53 am • 3 0 • view
It's good she has a plan that way if she finds in school tough there will be an end goal to it. Can't deny it's bloomin hard and nearly did me in but that was after 15 years of dealing with all the ridiculous changes. But I loved being in the classroom and still miss the kids.
sep 1, 2025, 10:05 am • 3 0 • view
Yes, she envisages burn out in the future so she's making provision I think. I was a nursery nurse in a Primary school and I loved it, although it was exhausting 😂
sep 1, 2025, 10:08 am • 2 0 • view
I’ve never mentioned it on here but my son , now 37, was diagnosed with Asperger’s 25 years ago and you’d hardly know it. The trouble is that he has denied it since he was a teenager and this has caused work issues his whole life. So no adjustments have ever happened.
sep 1, 2025, 9:59 am • 4 0 • view
Its a shame he can't embrace it and understand how and why his brain is wired, its liberating. The more of us that speak up, the more likely change is to happen. 😘
sep 1, 2025, 10:03 am • 4 0 • view
Yes it’s so difficult. We can see the struggle and can’t help. He lives away from home and coped pretty well.
sep 1, 2025, 10:05 am • 3 0 • view
That must be so hard Alan, I don't envy you . My Daughter doesn't ever plan on moving out, my Son however is my real worry too, he thinks he'll cope but Im not so sure 😬
sep 1, 2025, 10:11 am • 3 0 • view
The Bank of Mum & Dad, are there for bailouts and he’ll inherit from us.
sep 1, 2025, 10:16 am • 2 0 • view
Yes, we've prepared ourselves too. Hope for the best but be there just in case 😉
sep 1, 2025, 10:22 am • 1 0 • view
We always a few months from unemployment, I’m afraid.
sep 1, 2025, 10:26 am • 2 0 • view
Thats a burden you just don't need Al 😢 But there's no way forward until he accepts his autism.
sep 1, 2025, 10:31 am • 2 0 • view
I never really like talking about this outside very close family. Perhaps, we need some support.
sep 1, 2025, 10:36 am • 2 0 • view
Its taken me years to discuss it openly, it gets much easier the more you do it. I think you do need support but I'm not in a position to point you in the right direction, maybe others on here will have some ideas 👍
sep 1, 2025, 10:40 am • 2 0 • view
Credit goes to you and your partner because parenting a child that has its own challenges as well. Autism doesn’t define you - it’s just an aspect of who you are. Also a lot of boys/men try and mask it so being able to talk about it so much easier these days, hopefully. 👊🏻
sep 1, 2025, 10:08 am • 2 0 • view
With the greatest of respect JD I beg to differ, autism absolutely defines who you are but that definition can be positive.
sep 1, 2025, 10:13 am • 2 0 • view
I accept that. But I work with many people who are either diagnosed or undiagnosed as being on the spectrum and I try not to define them by their diagnosis but trying to understand them as people. But I realise there are other ways of looking at this. That’s we’re talking about it is a good thing.
sep 1, 2025, 10:41 am • 1 0 • view
Exactly this JD. He denies that he has Asperger’s and plainly his challenges are caused by it. I can’t see a way out of this at present.
sep 1, 2025, 10:14 am • 1 0 • view
He needs to see autism as a positive thing instead of a stigma. Maybe he'll come to terms with it as more and more people speak up.
sep 1, 2025, 10:20 am • 0 0 • view
It’s not even that Kercle, it’s flat out denial. He has also get a lovely autistic friend , so it’s not stigma. It feels more like a daft blokeish thing as JD said.
sep 1, 2025, 10:24 am • 1 0 • view
Interesting that he has an autistic friend, its very often the case that like goes to like. Autistic people can recognise other autistic people with ease. He's masking but that is incredibly tiring and he will burn out. Shame his openly autistic friend can't get him to accept himself as he is.
sep 1, 2025, 10:29 am • 1 0 • view
Yes. I really don’t know how that dynamic works, in truth. We don’t often see the friend.
sep 1, 2025, 10:38 am • 1 0 • view
Maybe your Son is able to be authentic without judgement with another autistic person, he just hasn't realised it yet.
sep 1, 2025, 10:43 am • 0 0 • view
That’s kind of my point - if you can be accepted for who you are rather than being predefined by some universal characteristics that, at the end of the day, don’t apply to everybody then that’s a wonderful thing.
sep 1, 2025, 10:49 am • 1 0 • view
Unmasking is very difficult and practically impossible if you haven't accepted that you're autistic.
sep 1, 2025, 10:55 am • 1 0 • view
Well put JD. Thank you.👍🏼
sep 1, 2025, 10:52 am • 0 0 • view
That’s a good way of looking at it👍🏼
sep 1, 2025, 10:45 am • 1 0 • view
Massive support to your daughter! 💜💜👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻💪🏻🫂🫂
sep 1, 2025, 9:46 am • 1 0 • view
Thank you lovely 😘
sep 1, 2025, 9:53 am • 1 0 • view
She sounds amazing. All the very best to her. 😊
sep 1, 2025, 10:00 am • 2 0 • view
She's a lovely girl and she's worked her socks off. Thank you Hettie 🤗😘
sep 1, 2025, 10:05 am • 2 0 • view
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sep 1, 2025, 10:09 am • 2 0 • view
We make the best teachers. She'll be perfect. Wishing her every success 😊 I didn't think I could overcome my anxiety/shyness (as I always thought it was) to be a classroom teacher but then I did it for 36 years.
sep 1, 2025, 1:20 pm • 2 0 • view
Thank you Jago, I shall pass that message on to her 🤗😘
sep 1, 2025, 1:53 pm • 2 0 • view
All the best for your daughter👍💪🍀
sep 1, 2025, 9:41 am • 1 0 • view
Thank you Ray 😘
sep 1, 2025, 9:42 am • 1 0 • view
That’s brilliant 🤩
sep 1, 2025, 9:43 am • 1 0 • view
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sep 1, 2025, 9:49 am • 0 0 • view