People have always been like this, it’s just more obvious now and gives them the opportunity to see it and change for the better.
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It's fascinating to me seeing which behaviors are incentivized on these apps. Even back in the era of message boards, I noticed that an inflammatory post got more engagement than an even-handed one. I fell into that trap a few times. So it's only partly by design.
aug 26, 2025, 12:59 pm • 2 0 • view
People love the drama. They’re just bored, but instead of finding excitement in a positive way they feed off of others.
aug 26, 2025, 1:01 pm • 3 0 • view
I’d like to feed off your cheese!
aug 28, 2025, 9:13 pm • 1 0 • view
I know, M’Lord. I know.
aug 28, 2025, 9:14 pm • 1 0 • view
Thou art the Triscuit of life: a little snack, best with cheese on it.
aug 28, 2025, 9:15 pm • 1 0 • view
You have cheese?
aug 28, 2025, 9:15 pm • 2 0 • view
Always.
aug 28, 2025, 9:16 pm • 2 0 • view
What kind of cheese
aug 28, 2025, 9:17 pm • 1 0 • view
All of them.
aug 28, 2025, 11:06 pm • 2 0 • view
Don't toy with my emotions 😭😭😭
aug 28, 2025, 11:08 pm • 1 0 • view
😭❤️
aug 28, 2025, 11:10 pm • 2 0 • view
Like, I've tried the "even-handed" dating profile. The whole "I am a human being. I am stable, I own my own place, and I pay my bills. Please watch sitcoms with me." But people don't want human beings. They want "partners in crime" who jump out of airplanes.
aug 26, 2025, 1:04 pm • 3 0 • view
No one's looking for a roommate. They're looking for passion, fire, excitement, romance, connection, compatibility, meaning. They want Scott the Super Human!
aug 28, 2025, 9:31 pm • 2 0 • view
That's my alt account.
aug 28, 2025, 9:34 pm • 1 0 • view
This is my alt account ;)
aug 28, 2025, 9:38 pm • 2 0 • view
Oh, I wonder if we know each other in our alternate online life. Maybe we're soulmates.
aug 28, 2025, 9:39 pm • 1 0 • view
See, you do have a romance streak :) Unleash the beast!
aug 28, 2025, 9:41 pm • 2 0 • view
I need to take a breath before I let the bitterness consume me... Remember what my life coach taught me... "Don't hate the player, hate the game."
aug 26, 2025, 1:04 pm • 2 0 • view
You need to meet someone at a farmers market. Seems wholesome.
aug 26, 2025, 1:06 pm • 2 0 • view
Not gonna lie, I have felt drawn to farmers markets lately. The lure of fresh Honeycrisp apples...
aug 26, 2025, 1:07 pm • 1 0 • view
Don’t forget the delicious cheese.
aug 26, 2025, 1:08 pm • 1 0 • view
Maybe I can use women's love of cheese to my advantage. Yes... I have a cunning plan...
aug 26, 2025, 1:12 pm • 1 0 • view
To begin with people like notable gestures. Not expensive. Literally listening and recalling something someone said two weeks later. Multiply it by 100x for planning an evening where her only decision is shawl or no shawl.
aug 26, 2025, 1:09 pm • 3 0 • view
It's the notion that you're special to someone. Even if it doesn't workout, it would be positive. That's all the advice I have.
aug 26, 2025, 1:10 pm • 2 0 • view
*when I say plan an evening, I hope I don't have to specify something mutually enjoyable because you've talked enough to discover that she likes honey ham
aug 26, 2025, 1:12 pm • 4 0 • view
💀
aug 26, 2025, 1:15 pm • 2 0 • view
Please specify all you can. I need all the help I can get.
aug 26, 2025, 1:15 pm • 3 0 • view
Let me say, I've been on way too many last dates where it was apparent that not only did he pick the thing he likes so he could talk at me about his interests the entire time, it actually felt like he didn't listen/care enough to understand very basic things about me like I'm not into ultraviolence
aug 26, 2025, 1:24 pm • 3 0 • view
John Wick* may be the one exception. But I discovered that on Netflix. It's totally different going out on a date for a fun evening and getting traumatized instead.
aug 26, 2025, 1:25 pm • 3 0 • view
That's interesting. My mom will get to a point where she refuses to pick a restaurant when we're deciding. The decision fatigue is real.
aug 26, 2025, 1:14 pm • 2 0 • view