When we say "Kink belongs at Pride", we mean Kink expression, not Kink activities. Anyone conflating the two is misinformed or throwing disingenuous arguments out there "Think of the children" ..where, at separate, adult only events? Trans and Kink communities stand with each other now, as always.
When it was illegal to be Trans and we were considered to be nothing but a kink, the Kink community gave us space in which to be ourselves.. And we're rehashing this old argument on gay/black/trans. We're at a pivotal moment in history where we can't be divided as they're stripping our rights away.
Absolutely agree with where you’re coming from, but I do think the expression/activities line is not particularly sharp. Is walking your partner on a leash activity or expression? What about calling your partner “sir” or “ma’am” or barking in greeting at people?
I think ultimately we are stuck getting into what people have a legitimate objection to seeing/children seeing (e.g. others in pain, sex) and just deviant behavior.
*I* think ultimately, Pride is as much for the Kink community as it is for every other person who identifies as Queer. THEY made Pride. THEY have fought for their right to be a part-of Pride ever since. Fuck your pearl-clutching moral panic, you don't get a say in this.
You realize I’m defending kink, here, right? My point is that we can’t really create a distinction with “kink activities” either because it’s over broad. The actual limits on activity at pride are vastly more limited to those which are actually harmful.
My point is that expression and activity is not a viable distinction for “what actions are harmful to observe,” we need a tighter and clearer distinction. I think all of the examples I provided are entirely harmless and should be permissible in all public spaces (but especially pride).
But… also… I’m gay and in a lifestyle 24/7 TPE Dom/sub relationship with my non-binary spouse and wear my collar openly in my professional work place daily. I literally cannot IMAGINE who gets a say in this if not me.
Well said!
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