It’s basically asking “will you complain if we do anything at all for this holiday?”
It’s basically asking “will you complain if we do anything at all for this holiday?”
My mom used to have a lot of Jehovah’s Witnesses in her classroom, so it’s less weird than you think. (Their answer would be “all of them, and no birthdays or national anthem either”.)
I wondered if you were perhaps becoming a bit Too Online, but my dad called me distraught yesterday, telling me that a friend’s sister was stabbed in Ottawa, at the Loblaws with a kosher section. Here’s the Facebook of the guy arrested: www.facebook.com/jsrooke1/
Ditto for voice memos, which I will never listen to.
“…as they navigate this trying time”??? They aren’t coping with a natural disaster. The family is dealing with the fact that he caused them physical harm and endangered their lives. They need protection from him, not for him to “focus on his family.”
I remember having my mind blown when I first read the Feisal-Weizmann agreement of 1919. It fell apart, but there was a moment in time where a shared vision of mutual liberation and cooperative development existed. muqtafi.birzeit.edu/InterDocs/im...
This just happened in Ottawa, to someone from a family I know. Nothing wrong with not believing in God, but a militant anti-theist can be radicalized to antisemitic violence. nationalpost.com/news/canada/...
Parents influence how kids see themselves. “You are old enough to sit nicely and be quiet during the show” vs “don’t whine and disturb others”: 1st shows child that you see them as capable, 2nd shows you expect the worst from them.
To be honest, I’m not sure what everyone means by “inauthentic”. But the Jews in my area include far more immigrants and children of immigrants than you have in typical U.S. Jewish communities, and the experience is more similar to other immigrant communities here including those that can’t return.
I know it’s important to you. This was me being puzzled at the claim that American Jews feel “inauthentic”, and realizing that my Canadian experience may not reflect typical American experience.
This just happened to a friend’s sister: nationalpost.com/news/canada/...
Yes. Multiple branches exist: Labour, Religious and Revisionist, with subdivisions within each of those. Bibi is Revisionist, but he doesn’t define the everyone. Lots of Israelis aren’t particularly ideological, just focus on their safety.
Why is the fact that so many got pregnant by significantly older men buried so far down in the article?
There are more members of Christians United for Israel (CUFI) - 10 million - than there are total number of Jews in the United States.
Just found out this happened to a friend’s sister in Ottawa. Earlier today, my mom’s friend mentioned attacks on Jews in Montreal. Hard to convey just how angry the community is about all the hate. www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/artic...
I keep hearing that last line as an argument, but it seems problematic. How does someone else declaring they are acting on your behalf obligate you, if it isn’t true and you have no control over them? As a non-American, does the U.S. speak for me if it says it is the leader of the free world?
One difference is that a greater % of Canadian Jews arrived more recently. Another is that the country as a whole, especially the biggest cities, has more recent immigrants and there’s an official embrace of multiculturalism, instead of being a melting pot.
I was questioning this since it didn’t seem to reflect my experience, and discovered that the stats for Canadian Jews are quite different from American Jews, see www.environicsinstitute.org/docs/default.... 64% of Canadian Jews say Jewish identity is important to them vs 46% of US Jews. 1/
I remember the Jewish General Hospital taking a very public stand against the previous version of the secularism law that would have affected healthcare workers. The current law is still awful, but doesn’t affect healthcare the same way. www.jta.org/2013/11/15/g...
OMG that’s nuts! We use their veggie turkey slices all the time. I really hope they don’t just close, but make some effort to find a buyer or let someone take over the brand.
I read The Handmaid’s Tale in high school in the 1980s.
It was the "we don't want to wait!" line from the song that caused the earworm.
They are demonstrating the harm: abusive patterns got imprinted as a normal, expected response. People can change as adults, but it's harder because they have to undo that conditioning and learn new methods from scratch.
That IS gentle parenting, except that you also need to do a whole lot of parenting in between that "now and again" discipline.
Girl1 got married, Girl2 and The Boy are back at university, and it’s just us and The Dog. Miss having everyone around, the kids grew into cool people to talk to.
Great, now I have “we want Moshaich now” as an earworm. And flashbacks to high school English class and the most boring play ever.
Yes. As part of that, religion was also tied up with empire and therefore authority and social order. That made dissent dangerous. Judaism after the Roman exile just had local religious authority at most, so more emphasis on communal structures and education.
There no “might”, it’s not avoda zara. My Chabad rabbi was able to go to a mosque no problem (friendly Ahmadiyyah community near us), but he speaks to Catholic groups in ways to avoid actual church sanctuaries.
Stuff like multiple daily prayer services, dietary rules, mandatory percentage to charity, some rules on ritual impurity and washing. The details are different, but the concepts are similar, and in many cases don’t have a counterpart in Christianity.
The emphasis shifted from formless God with a Do/Don’t list for humans to faith in Jesus as a means to salvation. The Quran includes Jesus, but as a human, not someone who was also divine. There are some similar commandments in Judaism and Islam.
I’m not an expert. I recall a passage where the Quran includes a reference to the Mishna “he who saves a life is as if he has saved the entire world”. The big theological difference is that Christianity shifted to focus on Jesus being not just Messiah but God in human form.
In terms of basic theology and structure, I agree. Both are strictly monotheistic, no physical form to God, there’s a list of do’s and don’ts. The social context is different: Judaism had 2,000 years of development as a minority diaspora religion, without political power.
I understand pointing out that people who follow a book have decided to act like the villain. The problem is that the book villainized a real group of people for religious/political purposes, and it’s hard to make a point about book characters without hurting the real people, unless you clarify.
Same here. So many talk about really wanting/needing to go back to see sick parents and love the country, but they are also terrified of getting arrested or other problems.
I think it’s also that belief is seen as a reason to do mitzvot, rather than an independent goal.
I’ve seen a lot of Problem of Evil arguments basically use a Christian idea of God, even while insisting it was “Abrahamic”, and take a Person-God approach.
There’s often a strong belief that we don’t and CAN’T know much about God, so any description is inadequate and likely wrong in some way. Almost a flip side of atheism: admits contradictions but says the concept of God is so big that our assumptions are too limited. 1/
You know Jews are a tiny percentage of the population of western countries, right? Less than 3% of the US, lower everywhere else. Far outnumbered by Christian Zionists in the United States, who often take more extreme positions than most Jews do.
Also a wedge by place of origin and citizenship. We are shaped by our history, surroundings and circumstances.
When I was born in Ontario, Canada, only 5% of lawyers were women. Yet I was raised watching Free To Be You And Me, being told that I could go to law school, and when I got into law school 20 yrs later, the class was 50% women. That's a stunning increase, culture imagined it and then it came to be.
Encouragement varies widely. My great-grandmother never learned to read, my grandmother had high school, my mom fought with her mom to get a degree and not just a teaching certificate, my sister-in-law was encouraged to get a MSW but not pushed like her brothers, my daughter's in med school.
I told my kids that being Jewish is like being a women deciding what to wear: no matter what you do, someone will declare you are evil, hate you, and possibly take away your rights or try to kill you. The silver lining is that this liberates you to do what you feel is right.
Essential listening on the reasons to fight against “fetal protection” laws. youtu.be/DFdB5Bg3WPw?...
My neighbourhood is pretty cool because we have a mix, and compared to the U.S. more recent Jewish immigration. We have Indian, Yemenite, Egyptian, Moroccan, Libyan, Tunisian, Georgian, Uzbek, Iraqi and Iranian friends/neighbours. We laugh at the Modi sketches on the differences.
So, I know Jews who never really had a specific belief in God who: - work for Jewish organizations that help disabled kids - do Shabbat and holiday dinners - advocate for tolerance and inclusion - study Judaism and Jewish history - have Jewish weddings, funerals, etc. - help start a synagogue
Only 10% of US Jews are Orthodox. The largest denomination is Reform, and it focuses a lot on social action, but has almost nothing in terms of dogma. “At most, one God, and it isn’t Jesus” basically sums it up. Overwhelming focus across all denominations is on actions and community. 1/
Honestly, the far right in Israel is objectively the only potential beneficiary here. Is that by sheer stupidity or design?
Just one skillet, put leftovers in containers in fridge and you have dinner all week. Eat out of containers. Cheap, healthy, quick.
But what has it “resisted”? Basically, the prospect of a peaceful two-state agreement, via empowering Netanyahu, weakening the PA and attacking Israeli civilians esp on the left.
Package of frozen spinach, small can of evaporated milk, can of tomato paste, tofu and either curry 🍛 powder or garlic and Italian seasoning is great, you can add chunks of extra-firm tofu, and eat with rice or pasta. Cheap but healthy and tasty, meal in minutes.
Covered deep skillet is the most versatile. You can do spaghetti with meat sauce: cook noodles first and set aside, then brown some group beef or tofu and use a can of diced tomatoes, can of tomato paste, a diced onion and some Italian seasoning and garlic.
No freezer in the fridge?
I get that most American Jews are Ashkenazi, and people don’t know what/who they don’t know. I was confused when I met my first Moroccan and Iraqi Jews too! I probably asked stupid questions, and listened. I learned that I didn’t know stuff and not to assume.
I should group the weirdest posts about Mizrahi Jews somewhere. My husband and son-in-law are Mizrahi, spent decades trying to tell people about Iraqi Jews, now find people who discovered they exist 5 min ago and decide to “educate” me because they watch a video clip for 1 min. 1/
Good luck! Can I write an article on that platform, and then post a link here to that article? Can anyone comment on that platform? I might try it out.
What do you have access to? Burner, any type of oven, small appliances or plug/bit of counter? Any mini fridge? Freezer?
Well, it can pretty much put you in a coma, if that’s what you want. (Hmmm…maybe that’s the prediabetes speaking?)
Definitely. My Canadian public high school, which had hippie teachers, suddenly forced a week of sex ed every morning where they would tell us what diseases would kill us. Hippie teacher refused to do it, conservative vice-principal stepped in. School board also forbid us from saying gay.
Less emphasis on Temple sacrifices, and basically created rabbis. It was a shift to focus on learning and interpretation of text.
So far, she genuinely seems to want to do better.
I wasn't thinking of confessing a specific sin, Catholic-style. More like realizing that you are cursed and sinful no matter how good you think you've been, having some sort of breakdown realizing your are utter depraved, and then being saved via faith in the right dogma/leader.
The place that stripped my husband's family of citizenship, where his grandmother dreamed of returning but was never allowed to do so?
I don't think that supporters of Hamas are particularly focused on doing everything possible to save Palestinian lives now.
At this point, there's no daylight between concern for hostages and concern for Palestinians. This protest of 350,000 was happening TODAY. www.timesofisrael.com/some-350000-...
That process isn't seen as a departure from following the law, but rather as a proper application of it. You get LONG debates and discussions about all of the principles involved, how to weigh factors and try to resolve issues. It's like reading Supreme Court of Canada opinions. (🇨🇦 lawyer here)
Judaism frames justice (tzedek) as the careful application of law in a way that is fair and that balances strict law (din) with kindness/mercy (chesed), to achieve righteousness. So, we don't talk about being "legalistic", but rather about seeing the whole picture and not being overly strict. 1/
Exactly. Resolving the conflict only happens if the safety of both can be protected. Otherwise, you get the shit show of fighting to the death.
I followed the link in that article to another survey of both Israelis and Palestinians a year ago: www.pcpsr.org/en/node/989 It echoes my points: dehumanization and fear on each side form a death spiral, and it got worse after Oct. 7. OTOH, tweaks improve compromise.
Pressure is possible if the ask is specific and won't be suicidal. By contrast, when people think their lives are in danger no matter what, they'll fight despite the consequences. This goes for both Israelis and Palestinians.
You mean Yigal Amir? That's not "Israelis", that's a domestic terrorist in a divided country committing an assassination. Many Israelis will oppose Netanyahu, Smotrich and Ben-Gvir. Weekly protests over 100,000 prior to Oct. 7, a protest NOW of 350,000. www.timesofisrael.com/liveblog-aug...
Israel is a country, not a person, and it's filled with people who don't always agree on things. Some have been willing to compromise, particularly in the 1990s. Support for compromise decreased during the Second Intifada.
Now I'm hungry.
But the conflict doesn't end unless you do. Israelis and Palestinians both need to feel that any resolution allows them to live safely. People can compromise on how much land, money, power, etc. they get, but people will fight if they think it's a matter of survival.
While avoiding electronics on Shabbat was widely seen as weird when I was younger, "Tech Shabbat" is now a thing even outside of Jewish circles. Here's one example: medium.com/@idstrat/int...
An example of a modern ruling from 2023 by one denomination about the use of electric cars on Shabbat. There's a lot of technical stuff and some Hebrew terms thrown in even though it's written in English, but you can get the gist of it. www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/defaul...
The surprising connection between your crockpot, and the Pharisees solution for having hot food to eat on Shabbat. jwa.org/blog/love-yo...
A VERY brief overview of how rabbis thought about how to apply this concept to electricity: www.myjewishlearning.com/article/elec...
Here's a quick article on the meaning of "melakha": www.chabad.org/library/arti... "Mitzvot" means commandments.
They are young adults now, so this would be an "advice to my younger self" sort of thing where they can be honest about whether it was good or not. Like "we really liked traveling with you!" or "no, do NOT tell little kids that the cortisol monster will come out if they don't nap!"
Thanks. It seems free, fairly easy to use and good for what I'd want to use it for (keeping articles in one spot, with easy links and possibility of comments, not monetized now but maybe one day, control my content). I have an idea for posts as advice to my kids, and allowing them to comment back.
I read that and thought of a trip we took with the kids to NYC years ago where we stayed in an apartment near Central Park and Museum of Natural History. I would totally have written a post like that. Also discovered VRBO asking how to stay in Rome with 3 kids on an online forum years ago.
Shouldn’t “buy chicken, gefilte fish and apples” be on there too? Because that’s what his season means when you do the cooking.
THIS. It’s like previously progressive people never heard the term “dog-whistle”. Or of the idea that discrimination on the basis of national origin is also a civil rights violation.
I don’t expect non-Jews to follow our rules. I do find the concept of dedicated time to literally unplug, reflect, and have significant time in community without pressures and schedules to be really valuable. Emergencies happen and we respond, but overall it’s a great recharge and way to bond.
I don’t know if you’re interested, but there’s also a whole discussion in Judaism on what exactly “melekha” often translated as work, means. Much of it relates to somehow creating or altering stuff, and Shabbat becomes a day not to do that, but to reflect. Not just about physical exertion. 1/
The quote about Sabbath from the book of Mark reminds me of the line that we are to live by the mitzvot, not die by them, which gets used in the pikuach nefesh rule to allow breaking laws to save a life.
My guess would be realizing that GOP voters rejected her perfectly normal candidacy in favor of this, so she’s quietly waiting out the chaos and maybe going to walk back in when it’s over/implodes/Trump isn’t running.
Yes, minorities who HAD to work harder often end up outperforming as long as things aren’t stacked too much against them. Very common to see kids of immigrants really excel, then things fall off in later generations that are less driven.
There’s a whole tradition going back to the various prophets, of talking about how religious rules intersect with treatment of others. We know Hillel and Shammai represented different schools of thought. The Jesus comments fit into drawing on that context to embrace one POV in a debate.
I get what the original author was trying to do, and don’t really want to to barge into a Christian religious discussion. What struck me was that there’s a missing context-she may literally have no idea that there was active debate over Jewish law among Pharisees. This wasn’t something new. 1/
You also had panic over cholesterol and saturated fat…which led to avoiding eggs (eating cereal for breakfast instead), and replacing butter and other animal fat with partially hydrogenated oils, only to discover they caused more heart disease.
As someone married to a Jewish healthcare worker, I feel this. My husband doesn’t want congregants ambushing him at shul with questions and lab results. He’s fine with being known as the guy to get if someone has a medical emergency though, and has helped many times.
My point was that number of girls increased as active barriers and discouragement decreased. It wasn’t anti-boy discrimination, just absence of anti-girl discrimination. bsky.app/profile/chay...
Yes, most likely we are reading parts of an internal debate, written down many years later as religious and political changes were happening, translated into different languages, and transmitted to people living elsewhere who weren’t part of the original group.
To be clear, “on average” doesn’t mean that every boy develops verbal skills later than every girl. There’s a huge, overlapping range, and the difference generally amounts to a matter of months. Doesn’t affect long-term outcomes unless kids who are slower don’t get the chance to catch up.
There was an old Canadian show, “What’s For Dinner?”, where they did EVERYTHING in 30 minutes flat, usually with a lot of last minute running around. It was as fairly low budget and practical, taught me the basics. (Co-host’s ex ran off with Tori Spelling.)
Not got more encouragement than boys, just got more encouragement than before. It wasn’t that long ago that it was normal to push boys into higher ed and careers, but assume it was an optional frill for girls. That thinking had to be actively reversed in the 1970s and 80s.
Some do well! My experience with my son was that the language developed a bit more slowly than his sisters, and he also didn’t pick up reading in kindergarten. This became a problem the next year, so I basically forced him to read with me every night. He caught up, reads constantly now.
Tweaking kindergarten would fix this, and things should rebalance fairly quickly. Later on, it appears that many boys just stop trying as hard (based on what my kids tell me). There are more girls making huge efforts.
I did notice some slight disadvantage for boys when my son was in kindergarten. Boys, on average, develop verbal skills slightly later and have a bit more energy. If you require more academics earlier and expect more sitting still, they can be affected more. 2/