The is a crisis among young men. We would be wise to pay attention. My latest adamkinzinger.substack.com/p/young-men-...
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That is so disturbing and sad to think they believe he is the answer, he should come with a warning label
aug 28, 2025, 12:53 pm • 0 0 • view
Oh cry me a river! Women have truly pulled themselves by their bootstraps as they gain agency over themselves (remember they couldn’t have a credit card till 1974). Young men just don’t want to apply themselves. Nobody owes them. They need to wake up.
aug 28, 2025, 1:32 pm • 5 0 • view
Bah.
aug 28, 2025, 6:59 pm • 1 0 • view
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aug 29, 2025, 9:55 am • 0 0 • view
Really, trump is the answer? How's that going for them so far? No lessons learned, they are lonely because they are the bottom of the evolution barrel. They're lonely because nature says they need to be.
aug 28, 2025, 12:26 pm • 5 0 • view
Growing glorification, acceptance, and popularity of MMA isn’t helping.
aug 28, 2025, 4:04 pm • 2 0 • view
This is complete baloney. It’s a crisis for American children. American culture is In crisis and has been for decades. The growth of sectarianism & social media fuels the growth of communities based on hate It’s blamed on left and right wing politics but it’s really about identity @aoc.bsky.social
aug 28, 2025, 1:49 pm • 1 1 • view
Too bad these young men aren't as strong as young women have had to be over the decades to: * Get educated * Work harder than men * Carry the majority of household responsibilities * Learn financial responsibilities (AND the right priorities!) * Suck it up and carry on, while working for change.
aug 28, 2025, 3:03 pm • 1 0 • view
If they never want to have sex in their lives, going down the Trump highway is a perfect way to get there...
aug 28, 2025, 3:43 pm • 0 0 • view
The hard part is that they are preying on a prviliged group by telling them they are victims & encouraging them to do the very things that make them lonely. The crisis of our time is that equity looks like victimization to the privileged ones having to relinquish just a little undue power.
aug 28, 2025, 4:39 pm • 2 0 • view
Free or cheap third spaces and intramural sports for adults would do a lot
aug 28, 2025, 12:35 pm • 0 0 • view
Can men learn? Do they want to? The Four Core Components of Emotional Intelligence 1. Self-Awareness 2. Self-Management 3. Social Awareness 4. Relationship Management
aug 29, 2025, 5:47 pm • 1 0 • view
I give thanks every day that my nephew tells his sons that this is not the way you act.
aug 28, 2025, 5:33 pm • 2 0 • view
That’s the crisis. Being maga.
aug 29, 2025, 10:24 am • 0 0 • view
This is a self created problem that could be solved by not being an asshole. I don’t have sympathy for them.
aug 28, 2025, 11:10 pm • 1 0 • view
I'm sorry, but "be a giant NFL himbo chosen to marry a Democratic billionaire Satanic priestess" isn't a realistic solution to the male youth crisis. You are not a serious person and you do not have serious solutions to our serious national problems.
aug 29, 2025, 9:24 am • 1 1 • view
Ah, the "male loneliness epidemic" A situation created entirely by young men incapable of self-reflection/improvement because social media influencers tell them empathy is "woke" & not masculine. It never ceases to amaze me. The lengths people will go to help young men blame everyone but themselves
aug 28, 2025, 12:27 pm • 137 7 • view
Exactly. Suck it up, young dudes...as women have had to do for centuries.
aug 28, 2025, 3:04 pm • 4 1 • view
Nailed it!
aug 28, 2025, 1:11 pm • 1 0 • view
Anything but therapy 😵💫🙃😵💫
aug 28, 2025, 2:50 pm • 2 0 • view
In this case, the real cruelty is to let them continue this path of blaming the world for their problems.
aug 28, 2025, 6:07 pm • 1 0 • view
Changing Boy Scouts to scouts, suppressing college fraternities and eliminating men’s college teams in the name of equity are all examples of adult society eliminating boys’ activities.
aug 28, 2025, 1:37 pm • 0 0 • view
Nope, just being all-inclusive and moving beyond the old ways. Your resistance to inclusiveness and change is the real problem. Stop blaming the world for YOUR unhappiness.
aug 28, 2025, 1:47 pm • 3 0 • view
I assume you want to abolish brownies, Girl Scouts, and girl only sports teams too.
aug 28, 2025, 2:22 pm • 0 0 • view
To be clear, no boys' activities are being taken away. We're simply acknowledging that some things never needed to be separated by gender for children or adults. Your strawman and what-if arguments are no good here. Sounds like you'd be more at home on truth social or twitter. 🤷🏽
aug 28, 2025, 2:27 pm • 5 0 • view
So you do support eliminating brownies, Girl Scouts, and separate girls’ sports?
aug 28, 2025, 5:06 pm • 0 0 • view
Or are you saying you support opening them up to boys on an equal basis?
aug 28, 2025, 5:07 pm • 0 0 • view
Their crisis is their own making no one gets their perfect life handed to them on a silver platter it takes hard work and sacrifice something they do not want to understand
aug 28, 2025, 1:29 pm • 6 0 • view
All betas, and mostly dumb... Sorry to say that, but these people are so stupid. It freaking hurts to listen to them comment on anything...
aug 28, 2025, 1:37 pm • 1 0 • view
Trumps christo fascist regime offers young men the same things ISIS does: power and retribution in the short term poverty and death in the long term
aug 28, 2025, 12:29 pm • 3 1 • view
I want to care. What stands in the way is knowing their level of concern for me, my daughter, and all the daughters of this world is a negative number. History and decades of observation: it’s always women who care about them, and they NEVER grow a single good gosh darn about us.
aug 28, 2025, 12:28 pm • 33 0 • view
substack.com/home/post/p-... This essay may add depth to the issue.
aug 28, 2025, 2:29 pm • 0 0 • view
We are still in a crisis among young women. Try calling attention to that before the young men.
aug 28, 2025, 7:54 pm • 3 0 • view
Young women aren’t shooting up schools and joining ICE so they can beat up minorities
aug 28, 2025, 8:28 pm • 1 0 • view
If they think Trump is the answer, they really are in crisis. There should be programs devoted to teaching young men how to attract women and form relationships. They should stop watching porn and stop listening to some of these podcasters that are misogynistic jerks.
aug 28, 2025, 1:48 pm • 8 0 • view
I hope you’re wrong 😑
aug 28, 2025, 2:11 pm • 0 0 • view
I'm just smh over how white males all of sudden feel like a minority class. It's BS, while capable women still struggle on the the career/salary ladder, in the private sector, and the military. How about they just realize they aren't better just because they are a man? 😭 Women fight. Men pout.
aug 28, 2025, 6:59 pm • 5 0 • view
Yet, in European countries, where men aren’t taught that they’re superior or sacred, they don’t become entitled like they do in theocratic states, including the US. “Absence of fathers” and other similar bullshit rationalizing isn’t helping, either. Teach them to be gentlemen, not that they’re owed.
aug 28, 2025, 7:13 pm • 6 1 • view
That’s on Joe Rogan
aug 28, 2025, 1:29 pm • 0 0 • view
The thing about some young men is they can’t seem to accept mediocrity from females whilst often being mediocre at best. Their sense of entitlement stems from entrenched patriarchal expectations. They are often quite uninteresting in conversation and boring in that only seem to care for themselves.
aug 28, 2025, 3:19 pm • 3 0 • view
We’re at this stage of the quote… “good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times”
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 1 0 • view
It’s kinda like mom wasn’t able to set them up with girlfriends so they’re grown up and now want society to do it.
aug 28, 2025, 12:35 pm • 2 0 • view
Don’t these “men” have bootstraps?
aug 28, 2025, 12:32 pm • 7 0 • view
Seriously!? 🤣
aug 28, 2025, 7:09 pm • 1 0 • view
Holy shit… get outside… put the phone down. Males struggling to find a mate (partner, wife, girlfriend, etc) is as old as life itself.
aug 28, 2025, 12:31 pm • 5 0 • view
That's sad...Trump will lead them right off the cliff
aug 28, 2025, 12:21 pm • 27 0 • view
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aug 28, 2025, 12:41 pm • 2 0 • view
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aug 29, 2025, 1:38 pm • 0 0 • view
Hmm. Maybe a decent wage like $66 minimum wage like supposed to be, wouldn’t leave them chained at home! We need a wage for single people to live freely without forming a financial partnership. That never happened in my whole fkin life!! The stolen wages contributed social infection nationwide! Duh!
aug 28, 2025, 8:45 pm • 0 0 • view
Get them all AI girlfriends as long as they stop murdering women and girls. They are not entitled to female companionship for crying out loud. All of us, when we were kids, were lonely and didn’t have girlfriends at some time or other. We didn’t grow up to be toxic and violent toward women.
aug 29, 2025, 5:27 pm • 1 0 • view
I know too many young guys who follow their parents' lead on the political side of things. Their dad is a Trumper, and so are they.
aug 28, 2025, 12:43 pm • 2 0 • view
Get out of your giant pick up truck and get out into the world.
aug 28, 2025, 5:53 pm • 1 0 • view
Maybe they could try not being whiney little bitches.
aug 28, 2025, 12:47 pm • 1 0 • view
They'll be getting a lot lonelier if they don't get their fragile little heads out of trump shitty ass. No one likes shitty little boys. 💩💩
aug 28, 2025, 12:55 pm • 5 0 • view
🤣🤣🤣
aug 28, 2025, 7:18 pm • 0 0 • view
One of the sources of the issue is that most rural and small city high schools only recognize success in sports as a marker of achievement. Many young men have interests and capacities which have no recognition. Celebration and recognition of personal capacity is lacking.
aug 28, 2025, 12:43 pm • 11 2 • view
Truth! We need to promote and celebrate many diverse paths to accomplishment and success defined by individual expression. No one just inherently knows what turns them on. But we cut music, arts, and trades from school, so they fall down online rabbit holes thinking they have no place in society
aug 28, 2025, 4:35 pm • 2 1 • view
Adam I completely understand what you’re saying and the young men are struggling BUT I’m also in the camp of when people show you who they are, believe them. Most men simply want to be assholes🤷🏻♀️ that’s my personal experience with them.
aug 28, 2025, 12:35 pm • 7 0 • view
counseling would be a good option. But the GOP would not consider it manly, because it implies weakness. And the dear leader would never encourage counsel other than himself.
aug 28, 2025, 9:44 pm • 0 0 • view
We need to learn from parts of the world that have moved ahead of the US on this issue. Education as early as possible on how social media works & how it can be used to manipulate populations. Finland's media literacy is a program worth learning from. Denmark & Sweden have similar ones, I believe.
aug 29, 2025, 5:24 pm • 26 2 • view
Perhaps we need to stop destroying the programs(DEI,women's studies)put in place that can help these young straight white men(cuz that's who we're really talking about here, isn't it?)realize that they are not, and should not be, the center of the universe, and help them ✌️fully acclimate to reality
aug 28, 2025, 12:53 pm • 1 0 • view
Also-it could be argued that much of what your article spells out is the inevitable direct result of GOP's(your party Adam and possibly your votes)complete unwillingness to support programs that actually invest in people and their well being,in favor of corporations,NRA,lining their own pockets
aug 28, 2025, 2:33 pm • 0 0 • view
As much as I want to dismiss this as an excuse for pathetic young men who think they are alphas, I do think it should be addressed.
aug 28, 2025, 12:24 pm • 3 0 • view
How do you address this without either telling men to get out of the basement and work at life like the rest of us, or giving them favored status again?
aug 28, 2025, 1:24 pm • 1 0 • view
I really do not know. As a straight, white man I am embarrassed by what has happened to young straight, white men. What we really need is more regulation on what these podcasters are allowed to say on their shows because these young men have been lied to.
aug 28, 2025, 1:41 pm • 2 0 • view
Absolutely there is a MAJOR Crisis! There is a need, RIGHT NOW, for a "detoxification from trump syndrome" therapy. "GROUP SESSIONS", a must." ALL of maga must get a strong dose of detoxifying. Be re-trained on HOW TO THINK for THEMSELVES & LIVE in REALITY. Now, sooner rather than later!
aug 28, 2025, 1:42 pm • 0 0 • view
Get off the internet, touch grass, read, get a hobby, a little physically active, respect women, don't look up to billionaires and child rapists, don't be a dick, stop blaming other people unlike you for your failures, become interesting, and you'll touch boobs. It's really that simple.
aug 28, 2025, 12:38 pm • 27 2 • view
Except these guys don't have anyone telling them this. Instead their influencers are pushing them toward incel groups who radicalize them to hate.
aug 28, 2025, 4:11 pm • 2 0 • view
Exactly, that's the get off the internet part. The most masculine things you can be are gentle, intelligent, accepting, interested, interesting, and caring of yourself and others. Those things may take work. Being a "man" takes work. Being macho and giving in to your primitive brain is lazy AF.
aug 28, 2025, 4:29 pm • 11 0 • view
But we cut opportunities from schools for kids who aren't sporty to find community and confidence in other things like art, music, trades, stem, etc. … so all they have are the online algorithms which lead them from gaming to toxic masculinity and alt right entitlement.
aug 28, 2025, 4:46 pm • 3 0 • view
Turning to trump just made their issues worse. Admiring trump shows absolutely no morals or judgement.
aug 28, 2025, 4:28 pm • 4 0 • view
Trump is never the answer... always the cause of ANY problem...
aug 28, 2025, 1:40 pm • 2 0 • view
When you have young men cheering on Nick Fuentes saying “Your body, my choice”, sexually objectifying females, calling them the “weaker” sex, telling them to submit to their male partner, threatening their right to vote, then maybe they need to reflect on why they are alone. Females are not property
aug 28, 2025, 3:17 pm • 12 1 • view
Adam, we are all in crisis and it would be wise of you to pay attention and maybe scan the room to see if maybe you are not paying attention to all humans. Adults need to step up and act like adults, no matter their gender, nationality, socioeconomic position, religion, political leaning...
aug 28, 2025, 1:39 pm • 1 0 • view
These 'men' are lonely because they've been raised that it's cool to be a toxic pile of shit. And they like Trump because he tells them what they want to hear. That they don't need to better themselves, the world should just cater to them. These 'men' need a harsh wake-up call.
aug 28, 2025, 3:16 pm • 1 0 • view
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sep 1, 2025, 12:07 pm • 0 0 • view
About those lost factory jobs that allowed men to support families: reminder that big corporations sent those jobs overseas and big tech now promotes AI to replace workers. It is corporate greed over need, paid for by donors to the GOP. Dems: shout your support of unions & labor for young workers!
aug 28, 2025, 3:40 pm • 1 0 • view
I think the real crisis is that there aren't positive male figures for them to look for. The attention is 100% on shit bags and the good examples are shut down. Look at news, TV shows, movies, etc. The Pitt was so successful because people were hungry for Noah's character
aug 28, 2025, 12:32 pm • 1 0 • view
Hyper-aggressive toxic masculine bros thinking women owe them attention, and when they don't get it, they become even more hateful toward women. Trump symbolizes that misogyny and they love him for it.
aug 28, 2025, 3:17 pm • 2 0 • view
Loneliness is much more lethal when it's carrying a gun.
aug 28, 2025, 12:27 pm • 5 0 • view
Growing up in the ‘70’s there was a real outreach to young boys. Football player Rosey Grier sang about it, and shows like Mr. Rogers Neighborhood (song: What Do You Do With The Mad You Feel) and Sesame Street helped little boys understand their feelings and develop empathy.
aug 28, 2025, 3:55 pm • 2 0 • view
When equality feels like oppression, it’s because someone had privilege. Your article mentions male role models. Females have always been taught to look up to males. How about mentioning some female role models men can look up to (gasp!) besides someone’s mom? There are plenty out there.
aug 28, 2025, 3:32 pm • 3 0 • view
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aug 28, 2025, 8:30 pm • 2 0 • view
I've had a bit of experience with this and my son. They Do Not want to hear it. It's a challenge, he's an adult, but I see it screwing up his life
aug 28, 2025, 12:52 pm • 1 0 • view
Tired of hearing this. I have two boys both veterans of OIF/OEF (Navy/USMC), college graduates (BS/MS). Well adjusted with good jobs, spouses & cute kids. Had the usual high school & college hijinks but were always considerate of others etc. What happened over the past 20+ yrs?
aug 28, 2025, 1:43 pm • 2 0 • view
My thoughts exactly. As someone raising 3 boys all I want to know is where are their parents? Where are their fathers? Passing off parenting to the internet is a problem. Values start at home. Learning respect starts at home. I can’t change the world, but I can certainly teach my boys.
aug 29, 2025, 1:53 am • 0 0 • view
I know a lot of young men who don't think Trump is the answer to anything they care about.
aug 28, 2025, 2:35 pm • 3 0 • view
Where I live (a full-bore redneck county in a blue state), the 20-something men are probably 90% MAGAt.
aug 28, 2025, 1:48 pm • 0 0 • view
We should probably just limit h1bs to women - that would solve the problem
aug 29, 2025, 2:13 pm • 0 0 • view
males have historically been given status just because they are men. that makes for a lazy mindset and an expectation of a handout. perhaps they need to look at how women have earned their rights and status over the past 100 years.
aug 28, 2025, 12:45 pm • 32 1 • view
💯%!
aug 28, 2025, 1:42 pm • 0 0 • view
This!!!!💯
aug 28, 2025, 6:48 pm • 3 0 • view
BINGO!
aug 28, 2025, 3:41 pm • 0 0 • view
You guys remember how the town's economy was driven by the shoe factory? The problem is simply that these kinds of business decisions ARE NOT being made anymore. No corporate board is saying, "we need to keep wages high and sustain the town" or country. Use govt. to make business responsible.
aug 28, 2025, 1:29 pm • 1 0 • view
Look at on-air news peeps. Women. Fabulous. Super smart. Women. Men are stupid. Have been for 300,000 yrs. Men are good for killing mastodons, mowing the lawn, shoveling the driveway. Killing one another. That's it. Dear my fellow man, Get over it. Listen to women. Do as they say. Promptly..!
aug 28, 2025, 12:25 pm • 1 0 • view
men are creating their own crisis - tantrums - every time they don't get what they want, which is everything
aug 28, 2025, 1:32 pm • 2 0 • view
Less fortnite, more camp nights
aug 28, 2025, 12:22 pm • 12 0 • view
Less progressives, more MAGA.
aug 28, 2025, 1:02 pm • 0 0 • view
Tell your idiotic game playing young men if they want a woman in their lives, they need to get their act together. I have no interest in raising them up. They are LOSERS.
aug 28, 2025, 12:23 pm • 32 1 • view
Hate to tell you, there’s almost as many women gamers as there are men. Gaming isn’t the problem 🙄
aug 28, 2025, 12:30 pm • 11 1 • view
Well it definitely doesn’t make them more interesting. And as far as I know, it doesn’t have the same deleterious effect on women.
aug 28, 2025, 12:31 pm • 9 0 • view
Then you don’t know what you’re talking about. I think you’d be surprised at the gamers on here like Popehat and RadioFreeTom. People have a skewed and incorrect vision of what a gamer is. Gamers are the same as everyone else with a hobby. Good, bad and otherwise
aug 28, 2025, 1:14 pm • 6 1 • view
Not gaming, no. I game and I have empathy toward others. It's doing nothing but gaming and expecting women to come to them.
aug 28, 2025, 12:33 pm • 0 0 • view
Agree
aug 28, 2025, 1:11 pm • 1 0 • view
You are correct, gaming is a symptom of a greater problem.
aug 28, 2025, 12:35 pm • 0 0 • view
You are idiotic if you think gaming is a greater problem. Gaming is no different than watching TV or going to the movies or watching sports or any other hobby.
aug 28, 2025, 1:11 pm • 2 0 • view
It’s not the problem but the algorithms for male gamers seeking connection can most definitely lead them to red pill and black pill groups who are deeply misogynistic, white supremacist, and extreme in their false narratives and conspiracies. Parents need to know.
aug 28, 2025, 4:04 pm • 0 0 • view
I can see that, but if you (gosh you) were part of the gaming world you’d find that the gaming community is no different than any other community. The gaming community isn’t predominantly mysoginistic white supremacists though those people are certainly out there.
aug 28, 2025, 4:08 pm • 0 0 • view
The gaming world is different because it’s predominantly online. Online connections don't eliminate the needs and benefits of IRL connection. When girls decided to create games that weren't celebrating sexist stereotypes, there was a backlash that spawned an alt right pipeline that still exists.
aug 28, 2025, 5:14 pm • 0 0 • view
I’ve been part of the gaming community for 50 years and I’m also a lesbian. Absolutely everyone needs real life connections whether you’re a gamer or not. The vast majority of games aren’t sexist stereotypes, but I know the group you’re talking about. They are disgusting, but they aren’t t/majority
aug 28, 2025, 5:20 pm • 1 0 • view
We don't need them to be a majority for them to be a problem. When I listened to the podcast Boys Like Me, one expert they interviewed explained that its only 10% of the guys participating in incep groups who actually get caught perpetrating violence in the real world, but as the group grows, …
aug 28, 2025, 5:23 pm • 0 0 • view
I agree, it’s a problem. However, too many people present it as the problem is video games, and present the viewpoint that every gamer is a lazy loser who doesn’t work and lives in their mom’s basement.
aug 28, 2025, 5:28 pm • 0 0 • view
Also, they vote. Their vote is misogynistic and racist.
aug 28, 2025, 5:26 pm • 0 0 • view
*incel
aug 28, 2025, 5:25 pm • 0 0 • view
Exhibit A en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gamergate
aug 28, 2025, 12:33 pm • 1 0 • view
I remember it well.
aug 28, 2025, 1:07 pm • 1 0 • view
You need to care. Birth rates have been dropping. Women can't find men who want to raise families. I blame the trans movement, social media and progressives.
aug 28, 2025, 1:01 pm • 0 0 • view
I managed just fine on my own without marrying. It’s not a sentence. It’s a choice. And if the population declines, that would be fine too. The planet would be grateful.
aug 28, 2025, 2:40 pm • 1 0 • view
Well, everyone is different and there will always be exceptions, but statistically people who get a job, marry and raise a family are happier in general with their lives.
aug 28, 2025, 3:10 pm • 0 0 • view
Blame whomever you wish but I’ll be damned if I’m going to help a bunch of lazy men who will then go on to earn 25% more than I. You help them, brokebattery. But you’ll never make me give a shit.
aug 28, 2025, 1:06 pm • 0 0 • view
Helping men helps women too. Most women want strong men to marry and help raise families. We need to bring back traditional family values. The prescription for happiness is simple: get a job, marry and raise a family. Statistics prove it.
aug 28, 2025, 1:13 pm • 0 0 • view
One question for them (in my best pre-crazy Dr. Phil voice): "How's that workin' for ya?"
aug 28, 2025, 2:46 pm • 1 0 • view
Surely, supporting a rapist is going to make those lads more desirable indeed 🙄
aug 30, 2025, 11:53 am • 0 0 • view
Adam, read your policy suggestions. Whether you realize it or not, you've just described the policies of the Democrats. 50 years ago, Ronald Reagan's trickle-down economics put us on our current path. Clinton, Obama, Biden, all tried to reverse course but were stymied. #VoteBlue
aug 28, 2025, 7:48 pm • 0 0 • view
From my friend Linda Falcao - lindafalcao.medium.com/the-man-prob...
aug 28, 2025, 2:21 pm • 1 0 • view
Guys …. Just ask any female in your life how young she was when she realized she was prey. Then ask another, because I know you won’t believe her. Ask all of the women you know. Go ahead. I dare you.
aug 28, 2025, 1:18 pm • 6 0 • view
I learned early about male fragility (aka masculinity). The boys made a long jump pit in a field. I jumped the farthest & turned around for my high fives, but they filled in the pit and excluded me from any further fun.
aug 28, 2025, 1:08 pm • 5 0 • view
aug 28, 2025, 1:00 pm • 35 3 • view
I was born in a time when a husband's favorite saying was " I keep my wife home barefoot and pregnant!" Those days are gone; women have come a long way, baby. And fought long and hard to get there! Women are their own person, no man's chief cook and bottle washer! Successful in our own right now!!
aug 28, 2025, 5:31 pm • 11 0 • view
The left would do good by acknowledging this and seeing what they can do to help these young men. But I see many on the left, especially women, just say its the fault of the men and showing zero empathy. Continuing to victim blame the men is not good for the democratic party.
aug 28, 2025, 2:08 pm • 3 0 • view
Victims of what?
aug 28, 2025, 2:48 pm • 5 0 • view
Poor babies.
aug 28, 2025, 1:46 pm • 1 0 • view
Without happiness there is not much reason to live .
aug 28, 2025, 12:23 pm • 5 0 • view
God, family, friends, neighbors, community, state and country in that order will bring happiness.
aug 28, 2025, 1:03 pm • 1 0 • view
All kinds of love makes us happy . Because if we know how to love and if we feel that we are loved , we are wanted and safe . If people are not loved , they feel lonely . Nobody cares about them . Then it is quite hard for a young man to learn to care and love . Love is caring , hate is destroying.
aug 28, 2025, 1:15 pm • 3 0 • view
I've always found men difficult to understand. But I do encourage the men that I'm friends with to feel. Unfortunately finding male role models is difficult since society needs an enemy to function in the minds of powerful men.
aug 28, 2025, 3:18 pm • 2 0 • view
We get not enough guidance to understand men . And men get not enough guidance to understand women . And we women are quite egoistic and selective, too difficult and narrow minded . There is lot to explore in this simple circle; boys and girls, men and women . We had at school traditional folk dance
aug 28, 2025, 3:31 pm • 0 0 • view
You still have pit falls. Like male influencers that encourage men to be the worst of themselves. Like Andrew Tate and then you have influencers who encourage women who were disadvantaged to become less and less tolerant of men.
aug 28, 2025, 3:55 pm • 1 0 • view
In Kenia , lives Maasai tribe . They have ancient traditions . Boys and girls . They teach everyone to treat each other with equal respect, but clearly boys and girls have different role and characteristics. No baby gets lots to the lions . But no tribe or society is perfect . It is really complex
aug 28, 2025, 3:28 pm • 0 0 • view
Then you throw in money and it gets worse. Like how do you make equality a focus when most of our society is built generations of inequality?
aug 28, 2025, 3:48 pm • 0 0 • view
Men need to understand they are loved by God. Find people who feel the same way. Statistically, men and women who have a job, marry and raise a family are happy and consider themselves successful. It doesn't matter if you're gay, lesbian or straight. It is a formula for success.
aug 28, 2025, 1:26 pm • 1 0 • view
God doesn’t exist
aug 28, 2025, 1:28 pm • 1 0 • view
That is a bit of a problem , if our happiness hangs on God , as there is no sign nor prove of it’s existence. Too hard for sceptic and intelligent people to be happy from love of God or Jeesus that never comes for a real visit .
aug 28, 2025, 1:31 pm • 1 0 • view
Indeed!
aug 28, 2025, 1:34 pm • 0 0 • view
Young men usually need some more tangible love . God is something to believe in , not tangible love .
aug 28, 2025, 1:48 pm • 1 0 • view
Young men also need positive role models as well as a system that is designed not to make them the enemy don't get me wrong positive men exist but they are rare and frustrating to find at times.
aug 28, 2025, 3:32 pm • 1 0 • view
Where I grew up in Finland , all boys and girls were friends and learned to treat each other with equal respect. They are all good men from my village as far as I know . And good girls . But certainly there needs to be good role models . Modern men do not want to carry responsibility for women .
aug 28, 2025, 4:21 pm • 0 0 • view
Or even other men honestly. To honest your village sounds like a paradise that my younger self wish that they had experienced but I now look at that paradise as something that I will die before seeing.
aug 28, 2025, 4:43 pm • 0 0 • view
The Mind Behind It All (God) provides tangible love whether you believe it or not. Traditional families and men have been under attack by progressive, DEI and trans ideology for years. It affects women, too. Men and women are rejecting this narcissistic lifestyle and flocking back to trad values.
aug 28, 2025, 3:03 pm • 1 0 • view
Traditional family , biological mom and dad , that love each other and their children is the best what any child can have. Some tribe around makes it even better . I am myself also traditional family person . Woman needs a strong man . In addition, with current cost of living , it reduces stress.
aug 28, 2025, 3:08 pm • 1 0 • view
People need a strong partner in general but what is strength? Shouldn't we see if our definitions match?
aug 28, 2025, 3:36 pm • 1 0 • view
I try to keep it simple . Too few world allowed . I was referring to myself . I am traditional biological woman . I would not like to be stronger mentally nor physically. I rather have my man as lead . I have bad experience with men that want strong independent women. I am not that .
aug 28, 2025, 4:24 pm • 1 0 • view
God doesn’t exist
aug 28, 2025, 10:22 pm • 0 0 • view
Prove it.
aug 29, 2025, 1:18 am • 0 0 • view
No sympathy for them. It’s always been a crisis for women in this country .. at all ages. . And no one gives a damn.
aug 28, 2025, 4:03 pm • 3 0 • view
This is all complete bullshit. I was always a strikeout king with women. Hardly any luck at all. For the most part my love life has been as barren as the Sahara. And yet I never devolved into a misogynist or a racist or an immigrant basher or an anti-science, conspiracy theory-embracing idiot.
aug 29, 2025, 4:01 am • 1 0 • view
US civil war 2 or WW3 should fix that
aug 28, 2025, 2:16 pm • 0 0 • view
I am sick of hearing this woe is me bullshit about men and their loneliness- so what women don’t get lonely - well yes but they are not whining about it and blaming it on men…
aug 28, 2025, 2:45 pm • 1 0 • view
So weird because in the 70s the loneliness crisis among women got nothing but “mothers little helper” and a pat on the head. Women figured out they don’t need men, they need birth control & equal pay. Perhaps men need to figure it out. Or just take a little Valium.. I hear it works wonders.
aug 28, 2025, 8:29 pm • 4 0 • view
I would very much like to ask one of the young men in in this study just what the hell chump would do for them or has done for them...I'll bet none of them would give a coherent answer or none at all.
aug 29, 2025, 1:28 am • 0 0 • view
Imagine how lonely trans people are. They aren't even allowed to express their identity in some places for fear of rejection and retaliation.
aug 28, 2025, 1:42 pm • 5 0 • view
Absolutely!! Everyone is chatting up empathy... except for people that don't look like them! Part of that patriarchal table that slants absolutely EVERYTHING towards straight white men!! It's infuriating 🤬
aug 28, 2025, 7:06 pm • 1 0 • view
It's really infuriating. Especially because having empathy and letting people live their lives is free. Hate and suppression costs time, energy, and, as we are learning during this regime, heaps of money.
aug 28, 2025, 8:01 pm • 1 0 • view
Not to mention lives 😕
aug 28, 2025, 8:04 pm • 1 0 • view
Read the article. It tries to have it both ways. It both acknowledges (rightfully) that women deserve a place at the table in a career, but, it also implicitly blames them for these men's woes and extols "traditional masculinity", which needs to go away as a cultural concept.
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 17 2 • view
Don't get me wrong, it's fine to have a masculine culture and a feminine culture. People will always want an identity. But, the idea that a man should make the money and the woman should be secondary needs to die. It's a breeding ground for rewarding mediocrity and punishing women for being women.
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 15 2 • view
Here's the difference...you know it smacks of patriarchy when there must be someone to blame,control,overcome-and it's ALWAYS women.It's always women that have to pick up the slack (men call it the "glue")it's F-ing exhausting and women are no longer standing for it!
aug 28, 2025, 4:46 pm • 1 0 • view
Come to think of it ...it's probably the loss of free labor that women have always provided..and are now refusing to...that piss off men like trump the most.
aug 28, 2025, 4:52 pm • 1 0 • view
Yup. And the fact that women are identifying toxic traits and avoiding them now. Some men simply don't want to change. They want the world to continue to cater to their mediocrity. They'd rather find a dictator to retire them to power than to improve themselves.
aug 28, 2025, 4:56 pm • 1 0 • view
Well said...and it's a shame...cuz there are many of us out here that really like men..well...many aspects of them. But you know you have a problem when women feel safer being alone in the woods with a bear than a man 😬
aug 28, 2025, 5:06 pm • 1 0 • view
Yup. And the fact that so many men reacted not with "shit, then we gotta make it so women feel safer around men" but with "what the hell is wrong with women" proves the point perfectly.
aug 28, 2025, 5:30 pm • 1 0 • view
And also....I never thought I'd say this..but..what can women do if Republicans make it easier to arm yourself than find mental healthcare? 🤷Just sayin'...it might, sadly..be getting to that time
aug 28, 2025, 5:50 pm • 1 0 • view
That was super shortsighted of them. Sure, they were probably hedging their bets in case they never got this level of power, but, it could prove to be their downfall.
aug 28, 2025, 5:56 pm • 1 0 • view
I wish I could say turn about would be fair play..and actually happen! ..but some people don't possess that much hate in their hearts.. thankfully...but there's no harm in being prepared 😏🤣💪
aug 28, 2025, 6:00 pm • 1 0 • view
🤦😩
aug 28, 2025, 5:45 pm • 1 0 • view
And women shouldn't stand for it. They should be allowed to be the head of the household and/or primary earner of their skill set is better suited to that than their partner. And men need to be okay with that and not take it as an assault on their honor.
aug 28, 2025, 4:53 pm • 1 0 • view
And men need to stop blaming women when they are lonely or can't compete in their career.
aug 28, 2025, 4:53 pm • 1 0 • view
Boom! The backlash to what maga calls DEI is really just the whining of mediocre (usually yt) men that are po'd now that they have to compete against people that, thanks to racism and sexism,used to have one arm tied behind their back.MAGAts answer to it?..just fire any women or POC in government!
aug 28, 2025, 4:59 pm • 1 0 • view
And erase their accomplishments so, in the future, mediocre yt men can pretend they've always been better than everyone else.
aug 28, 2025, 5:28 pm • 1 0 • view
Exactly!! 💯...so the question is ..has this ever actually worked? Will this bullshit die with trump like it did with Hitler? Next question is how many more people will die as a result..😩
aug 28, 2025, 5:38 pm • 1 0 • view
I can see now that that was a stupid question cuz.. ITS ALWAYS F-ing WORKED!!...Had to zoom out for a minute ..dayum
aug 28, 2025, 5:57 pm • 1 0 • view
It's worked, but, not perfectly. There are always people who bring up the truth even in the most authoritarian countries. There were massive protests in Georgia and there was Arab spring. Eventually, the truth teller win against the oppressive regimes.
aug 28, 2025, 7:57 pm • 1 0 • view
Hmmm...I smell nationwide strike 😏
aug 28, 2025, 5:43 pm • 1 0 • view
It's the best medicine for a capitalist nation. If money is everything, that also becomes the Achilles heel.
aug 28, 2025, 5:55 pm • 1 0 • view
It worked in North Korea. But, trying to erase an entire nation's history is hard to maintain and requires constant use of force. I don't know how many will diw and that scares me.
aug 28, 2025, 5:54 pm • 1 0 • view
It seems we are at the beginning of the "constant use of force" no?... that phrase sends shivers down my spine 😬
aug 28, 2025, 6:10 pm • 1 0 • view
My thoughts went to The Lost Cause and how we've never really gotten rid of that BS...so yeah..I guess it actually has actually has always worked on some people..hence out current spot in history 😩
aug 28, 2025, 6:07 pm • 1 0 • view
Instead, let's head into a new kind of economy where we invest in people and reward them for doing the things they are naturally drawn to. But, that means not just the market but our entire culture has to change.
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 8 2 • view
Here here 👏👏👏
aug 28, 2025, 4:38 pm • 1 0 • view
Lonely or not, women don't owe anyone a relationship. It's not the job of women to serve as a man's personal unpaid psychologist and fuck buddy just so these men don't destroy the world. Besides, I've seen how toxic many of these "lonely men" are. They have red flags out the wazoo.
aug 28, 2025, 12:26 pm • 193 15 • view
WELL SAID!!! 👏👏👏👏
aug 28, 2025, 12:55 pm • 1 0 • view
Thank you! 💙 I also thought nobody owing anyone a relationship was fairly uncontroversial. But, I got some strong opinions that decided to reply lol.
aug 28, 2025, 12:58 pm • 3 0 • view
Yeah, my (grown) boys are all single with lots of friends of all genders and not lonely... like I dunno, man. Stop letting fascists raise kids, I guess?
aug 28, 2025, 3:12 pm • 5 0 • view
Amen! And stop tolerating bad behavior in general. Less "boys will be boys" and more expecting empathy and responsible behavior.
aug 28, 2025, 3:42 pm • 3 0 • view
Women are not rehabilitation centers for badly behaved or broken men. Work on yourselves.
aug 28, 2025, 6:23 pm • 4 0 • view
You make it sound like women have their shit together - and it’s some act of kindness to enter into relationship with men. I love and enjoy the women in my life, but let’s not pretend that they don’t have their big problems too. Obv NO to abuse, violence, etc But it takes 2 to make a thing go right.
aug 28, 2025, 12:50 pm • 1 0 • view
They don't. Nobody has their shit together. If you read that into my post, that's on you. Nobody owes anyone a relationship. But, the article was about men. Apparently, nobody cares if women are lonely. Only that men are.
aug 28, 2025, 12:53 pm • 7 0 • view
👏👏👏...boom! That's at the heart of it all, isn't it? The baseline that women are not as valuable or important as men.
aug 28, 2025, 1:00 pm • 4 0 • view
Now who’s reading into things.
aug 28, 2025, 1:03 pm • 0 0 • view
I think that's a fair assessment since I rarely see articles about the women's loneliness epidemic. But, I can't swing a lanyard without finding an article about male loneliness.
aug 28, 2025, 1:07 pm • 2 0 • view
You’re seeing it lately, precisely BC it was neglected for decades. Both can be true: 1) Historically (and ongoing) white male dominated society 2) The worsening of male mental/physical health, identity, education, jobs, cultural vilification, advertising image (incompetent/clueless/lazy), etc
aug 28, 2025, 1:22 pm • 0 0 • view
And 3) That very rarely does anyone write articles about women being lonely. Believe it or not, there are female incel sites. Women, like men, are capable of being lonely and wanting love and, yes, even sex. Yet, I only see articles about male loneliness.
aug 28, 2025, 1:24 pm • 2 0 • view
Like I said, it’s actually been the decade (more like since 2000 ish) of the woman. Tons of articles, books, studies, movies/tv, therapy, healing retreats etc etc. Bc it was playing catchup to decades of male centred society. And as it does, the pendulum swung too far, and boys/men got neglected.
aug 28, 2025, 1:57 pm • 0 0 • view
Also, weird that this is the decade of the woman, yet, we only just started believing sexual assault victims and then stopped. And it resulted in women losing their reproductive rights. If this is the decade of women, I hate to see what a decade of men would look like.
aug 28, 2025, 2:21 pm • 1 0 • view
1) I think your anecdotal expertise in what articles exist over the past 25 years is doing some heavy lifting here. 2) At least until Trump got really dictatorial and misogynistic in this 2nd term, it was a time of progress and attn for women. And pop culture pushed the smart girl / dumb boy thing.
aug 28, 2025, 2:27 pm • 0 0 • view
Weird, men are supposedly neglected, yet, I keep seeing only articles about them being lonely. Are women not lonely? Or, is this more likely a case of a group of people living in privilege so long that not being the center of the universe is seen as oppression?
aug 28, 2025, 2:20 pm • 0 0 • view
No they don’t. There are good ones out there but talk politics right away. Talk values AND don’t have children in red states.
aug 29, 2025, 2:21 pm • 1 0 • view
He doesn't say anything in there about women owing men a relationship. He also doesn't blame women for what's going on. He mentions things that can benefit everyone and even women are lonely. It's about friends, family, community too. People are disconnected.
aug 28, 2025, 12:59 pm • 0 0 • view
He talks about those things, yes. He also talks about how women entering the job force and succeeding there is creating an underclass of men that can't provide for their families. Also, the "loneliness epidemic" is frequently a vehicle to push women to date men.
aug 28, 2025, 1:02 pm • 2 0 • view
But, I do agree that people do need community. And the kind of community people need is one that challenges them to be their best, not one that gives them excuses for why they failed.
aug 28, 2025, 1:04 pm • 1 0 • view
Watching this👇🏼 I came away with 1 point: men should be ashamed of themselves for being such horrible fathers creating weak men who harm others. We’ll be lucky to survive this generation of monsters. Men need to hold themselves & each other accountable. Leave women alone. bsky.app/profile/nort...
aug 28, 2025, 2:39 pm • 6 0 • view
Wazoo is a fun word
aug 28, 2025, 12:48 pm • 3 0 • view
aug 28, 2025, 1:13 pm • 2 0 • view
I think your message is so true and it applies to any relationship regardless of sexuality, sex or gender. I do nice things for my husband not because I owe him anything but because I love him. I’m not everyone though. No one owes anyone a relationship or their words or the time of day
aug 28, 2025, 1:13 pm • 3 1 • view
I'm so happy you have a relationship like that with your husband. I wish everyone had a relationship like that where both partners genuinely care for each other.💙
aug 28, 2025, 1:16 pm • 3 0 • view
Furthermore it's not a woman's job to tell men why they need to have empathy
aug 28, 2025, 12:36 pm • 93 7 • view
Yup. That's supposed to be the job of the parents, schools and society in general. If millions of men made it all the way into adulthood without learning empathy, that's a problem with society and it's not the burden of a potential romantic partner to spend the one life they have fixing it.
aug 28, 2025, 12:49 pm • 60 1 • view
And it is a personal failing if, as an adult, you demand that any one else educate you. You say you are a grown up and want all the benefits of being an adult but continue to expect to be hand fed...nope, just a baby in a big body. All humans are lonely right now. The world is cruel and unsafe.
aug 28, 2025, 1:33 pm • 5 0 • view
This.
aug 28, 2025, 1:41 pm • 1 0 • view
Because that hole is not fixable from the outside. Look at our president
aug 28, 2025, 2:45 pm • 1 0 • view
Republican Party bro culture is as outdated as the Confederacy.
aug 28, 2025, 1:05 pm • 57 1 • view
Sure is
aug 28, 2025, 4:04 pm • 2 0 • view
And it needs to become just as much of a relic of the past.
aug 28, 2025, 1:08 pm • 17 0 • view
But it won’t. Civil War 1 may be in the past, but it’s vibes have never left America.
aug 28, 2025, 1:58 pm • 9 0 • view
None of the treasonous confederate leaders were held accountable for the Civil War. The only person who paid a price was Abraham Lincoln. When folks don’t face consequences they are left thinking that they are morally right, and they regroup “to rise again.”
aug 28, 2025, 4:30 pm • 15 0 • view
We made the exact same mistake with the insurrection. And the payback for that mistake has been much more immediate.
aug 28, 2025, 4:33 pm • 14 1 • view
The fact that it’s in our culture to tell boys to “stop crying” is a big part of it. “Boys don’t cry” is bullshit - they need to allowed to express their emotions as children, otherwise they go looking for validation in women when they’re grown.
aug 28, 2025, 1:17 pm • 3 0 • view
This. Not to mention this better explains the "lonely men" in this article being emotionally stunted than women competing against them for careers. If boys are taught to suppress emotions, why are we surprised some of them grow up emotionally stunted?
aug 28, 2025, 1:20 pm • 3 0 • view
Well that’s why I always make space for my son when he’s upset and hold him when he’s crying.
aug 28, 2025, 1:17 pm • 2 0 • view
You're a great parent!💙
aug 28, 2025, 1:20 pm • 2 0 • view
Aww thank you! I try! 😁🙏
aug 28, 2025, 2:25 pm • 2 0 • view
Society? BS. The job and responsibility belong to the parents. Ultimately, it's up to these young men to LEARN how to change their own lives for the better, not cede that responsibility to others and act like someone owes them something. And emulating Donald Trump is not going to fix anything.
aug 28, 2025, 3:33 pm • 1 0 • view
It's society too. Society allows men to blame a woman for dressing a certain way. Society says "boys will be boys". Society tells them that men are supposed to be in power. Parenting is important and can counteract society's bad messages. But, we can't act like the overall culture has no influence.
aug 28, 2025, 3:46 pm • 1 0 • view
You are correct - everything has an influence - at the end of the day each person gets to choose what they do and don't believe and how they will and will not act. So, to the young men who are struggling: a) grow up; b) get some new experiences and insights; c) take responsibility for yourself.
aug 28, 2025, 7:39 pm • 1 0 • view
Exactly. Little disappointed in Adam’s opinion piece.
aug 28, 2025, 3:38 pm • 1 0 • view
Adam, stick with this. Whether people here agree or not this is the perception of the men we need to change their minds and votes
aug 29, 2025, 4:22 am • 0 0 • view
Aren't you still in the party that is stealing women's rights? Sorry guys today have no game but a lot of them have no business breeding in the first place. A lot of them are walking red flags.
aug 28, 2025, 2:18 pm • 1 0 • view
and gee whiz wasn’t Facebook created by men to Rate women.. The crisis among males seems to me to be mostly self inflicted
aug 28, 2025, 1:11 pm • 10 0 • view
While I agree with a few of your comments the fact remains that a good portion of the male population does not will not accept the fact that women are actual human beings
aug 28, 2025, 1:04 pm • 2 0 • view
aug 28, 2025, 3:53 pm • 0 0 • view
The idea of any young person thinking that Trump is some ideal of what it means to be a man, is comically stupid. They also seem to think Rogan is an intellectual, so I have no answers. DJT is a draft dodger, repeat sexual abuser, insurrectionist, felon, and likely pedophile.
aug 28, 2025, 12:39 pm • 6 0 • view
Why the fuck do they always get the coddling, while the rest of us are told to be stronger? This is no “crisis” at all. It’s men “finally” being just a little bit less happier/but still way more privileged. This was never considered a crisis for women or minorities. Toughen up, men.
aug 28, 2025, 8:20 pm • 8 2 • view
Maybe it’d help if the young lost dudes look up from their phones now and then. 🙋♂️ #LostInPhones
aug 28, 2025, 1:45 pm • 0 0 • view
I would say raise the voting age to 50, but I blame my Generation X more than any other for Donald Trump They’re old enough to know better
aug 28, 2025, 12:23 pm • 5 0 • view
manufactured crisis, bunch of snowflakes don't even realize THEY are the snowflakes as they call out the progressives
aug 28, 2025, 4:31 pm • 3 0 • view
Or we could just, ya know, *control ourselves* and cut the race/gender identity fluff…. I’m a PERSON. I’m ME. Live and let live.
aug 28, 2025, 7:54 pm • 0 0 • view
Perhaps these young men should shut off computers go down & volunteer to meet people. How about fathers step up to get them engage with the community with different climbing groups, sports groups, computer groups. Dads must step up not the women. This is a male thing to solve
aug 28, 2025, 12:54 pm • 1 0 • view
The loneliness epidemic is because of their shitty personalities. The idea that women are people isn't "woke" or "leftist". They chose Trump because women chose the bear.
aug 28, 2025, 12:39 pm • 11 1 • view
And the connections they make in online incel red/black pill groups celebrate the shitty, toxic personalities. They go from being mommy’s sweet little man without a prom date, to women hating, white supremacists who want to go back to the past where women were the slaves of their husbands.
aug 28, 2025, 4:29 pm • 0 1 • view
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aug 28, 2025, 2:55 pm • 2 0 • view
Don’t his followers ever take offense?
aug 28, 2025, 10:37 pm • 0 0 • view
They think a malignant (sociopathic) narcissist is the answer to loneliness?
aug 28, 2025, 7:38 pm • 1 0 • view
Trump is not the answer to anything, if you want to be a toxic male you will find yourself even lonelier than you are now.
aug 28, 2025, 12:51 pm • 1 0 • view
As a former teacher of information literacy and an RN, I can say that this article is one of the best I have read. Thx
aug 28, 2025, 12:50 pm • 1 0 • view
Too much time, energy and money has been spent on entertaining young men. They need to understand things like the benefit of hard work, ethical behavior and duty to family. A shovel, a rake and a broom make great teachers.
aug 28, 2025, 12:32 pm • 8 0 • view
Oh brother. What a bunch of babies.
aug 28, 2025, 10:26 pm • 0 0 • view
Young men only need to look to you as a prime example of what not to be. Your only worth as a human being these days.
aug 28, 2025, 5:17 pm • 1 0 • view
It happens all over the world: young men are embracing fascism.
aug 28, 2025, 1:53 pm • 1 0 • view
So many elections, even latest states elections, are disproving this. Currently Canada is the Global leader, embraced by most Countries as such & anything but. America has a black & woman issue that needs to be dealt with. The boys need to get out from under the Christian male entitlement rock.
aug 28, 2025, 8:47 pm • 2 0 • view
The sense of entitlement and perceived victimhood has to stop. The demographic that has had the advantage for so long now cannot cope? Women and people of color have dealt with real oppression for ages and didn't turn into monsters like these men. Time for a reality check.
aug 28, 2025, 1:58 pm • 2 0 • view
American males own their own testicles. American ladies, however, are NOT allowed to own their own ovaries.
aug 28, 2025, 10:01 pm • 2 0 • view
Not very bright of them if they think a serial rapist of children is the answer to their personal crises.
aug 28, 2025, 12:25 pm • 15 0 • view
Yes - try hard to reach them. But if they insist on backing fascism: 2) Save them from themselves by whooping their asses in the Midterms and Generals. Show them what is possible with functional Gov that actually delivers on wages, jobs, health, immigration reform, taxes, law & order, etc.
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 3 0 • view
But Trump is an old fart
aug 28, 2025, 12:22 pm • 2 0 • view
The whole goddamn country is in crisis right now thanks to the Trump administration. But all the pussies that are working in the white house right now are unbelievable.
aug 28, 2025, 1:43 pm • 2 0 • view
Maybe they can look to Travis as a role model of how to attract women who aren’t losers.
aug 28, 2025, 4:01 pm • 2 0 • view
Excuse me. I’m old enough to remember when all women could be were secretaries, teachers or nurses. Fuck the entitlement attitude of the males. Let them work hard and compete. And where the fuck are the parents in all this? Get them to a shrink
aug 28, 2025, 3:59 pm • 2 0 • view
Excellent - thank you
aug 28, 2025, 1:15 pm • 0 0 • view
WASH YOUR ASSES
aug 28, 2025, 12:50 pm • 0 0 • view
They have every god damn advantage. The entire world is set up for them. They are pathetic and evil.
aug 28, 2025, 1:14 pm • 7 3 • view
Exactly!
aug 28, 2025, 2:14 pm • 2 0 • view
As someone who grew up isolated, and alone. I didn't crater into an incel, neo nazi, death spiral. No, actually I GREW UP around incels, and neo nazis in a small rural town. Felt isolated an alone. Then I did become radicalized. Just in the FAR opposite direction then these morons.
aug 28, 2025, 12:52 pm • 0 0 • view
Perhaps the Draft should be reinstated. Two years in the Army can work wonders.
aug 28, 2025, 1:58 pm • 1 0 • view
Society has abandoned a whole generation of young men. Good blue-collar jobs vanished, friendships collapsed after high school, and all they’re left with is toxic propaganda about what a ‘real man’ should be. No wonder they’re adrift.
aug 28, 2025, 12:37 pm • 1 0 • view
Yes, young white boys have it so bad. It's the fucking internet and Social Media algorithms training them to be angry, small-mined assholes.
aug 28, 2025, 4:04 pm • 2 0 • view
Do any of these young men recognize how unhappy Trump is? He has all the money and power that anyone could ever want, and he is miserable. He is a cautionary tale.
aug 28, 2025, 12:27 pm • 64 8 • view
They don't. Toxic people don't recognize others' emotions. That's why they are toxic people. All they see is a guy getting his way and succeeding because of his evil ways.
aug 28, 2025, 12:34 pm • 40 2 • view
White Maga INCELs are essential to the republican PSYOP . GOP worship of white male privilege to visit violence upon the rest of us.
aug 28, 2025, 1:11 pm • 0 0 • view
Racist, pathological society with ingrained rape culture that is being flamed by social media. It’s not just a “young men” problem. The utter failure of American Reconstruction and the handling of the Southern states just created a bad seed going forward.
aug 28, 2025, 12:59 pm • 1 0 • view
Don’t forget their idolizing the Tate Brothers, etc.
aug 28, 2025, 2:13 pm • 2 0 • view
Go help someone. You'll feel better about yourself. We need boy scouts again.
aug 29, 2025, 5:27 am • 1 0 • view
I’m really tired of whiney little men who think society owes them happiness. Parents need to do better at raising them to be empathetic to others including women, black and brown people and other cultures. That’s why it makes it so hard to be empathetic towards them
aug 28, 2025, 2:47 pm • 3 0 • view
For all those with negative reactions, I suggest you take a moment and consider the subject more deeply. There are real issues that need to be addressed, and doing so does not have to come at the expense of women and women's issues. Look into the work of Richard Reeves: ofboysandmen.substack.com
aug 28, 2025, 2:35 pm • 0 0 • view
Doesn’t it boil down to: Why own the lack of opportunities you have because you were “too cool” to study in high school, when you can blame those who did?
aug 28, 2025, 12:29 pm • 1 0 • view
I have a solution...mandatory 2yr conscription in our armed forces. The benefits would be multiple. Military service would build skills & character. We wouldn't have 5-time draft dodger. Right now, 1% of our population serves. I could go on... #proudmilitarydaughter
aug 28, 2025, 11:46 pm • 1 0 • view
Very well written. You have a great perspective on the situation. Young men need more role models like you.
aug 28, 2025, 3:31 pm • 1 0 • view
What an excellent read, Adam. Thank you for writing it. It’s honest and informative without blaming or excusing. Very insightful.
aug 28, 2025, 12:25 pm • 3 0 • view
Stop listening to Joe Rogan and his ilk.
aug 28, 2025, 12:30 pm • 0 0 • view
The crisis in young men is the result of shitty old men. Instead of teaching empathy,emotional intelligence, and humility, generations have been brought up with a bullshit patriarchy that is literally killing them.
aug 28, 2025, 12:33 pm • 94 4 • view
You've hit the nail on the head with your reply-lots to unpack there.The absent father is a big one. If we really took a close look at how society has changed and contorted families/relationships-it's not too hard to see how they were/are merely reacting to policies that no longer invest in people
aug 28, 2025, 5:32 pm • 1 0 • view
And before MAGAts think I'm one of them here...I am not talking about the acceptance of different types of families-I'm speaking of GOPs refusal to support any policies that would actually help! Like a living wage, universal health and childcare, gun control etc proven to make everyone's life better
aug 28, 2025, 7:38 pm • 0 0 • view
aug 28, 2025, 3:47 pm • 1 0 • view
And us
aug 28, 2025, 8:15 pm • 0 0 • view
Exactly 👍
aug 28, 2025, 12:59 pm • 0 0 • view
Speaking as some with empathy, emotional intelligence, and humility, it’s not just young men. I’m 55 years old and completely alone, mostly to disability, but also because of how our society has changed. Narcissistic tendencies are increasing. Both men and women, in all age groups.
aug 28, 2025, 1:01 pm • 16 2 • view
Yes absolutely and it’s tragic that when these men do find the human connection they need it’s online in these incel groups who celebrate shooters, hype false narratives, and hatred of ppl (especially women) so that they seek glory in revenge. I'm autustic, so I know loneliness but women don't have
aug 28, 2025, 3:47 pm • 0 0 • view
these types of online hate groups. Something about the way we are raised and the expectations on us make men more likely to feel drawn to this method of dealing. We’ve got to figure it out.
aug 28, 2025, 3:50 pm • 0 0 • view
I think it’s pretty straightforward. Society has changed in saying women are equal to men. But society also needs to go through a change saying men are equal to women. There’s still a lot of stereotypes that are applied to men; protector, money earner, strong, etc.
aug 28, 2025, 4:10 pm • 0 0 • view
And unfortunately we've only cut off opportunities for men to feel they can enter spaces formerly reserved for girls by cutting school programs that explore creative pursuits as well as avenues men traditionally had in trades. I took shop and home ec. Definitely were gender divided but shouldn't be.
aug 28, 2025, 5:11 pm • 0 0 • view
We need to remove the stigma for men in some roles. Better yet, remove gender from all roles. Then men can be who they are and still be respected. The quiet man who just wants to be a homemaker isn’t ridiculed by peers or told to “man-up” by women. Great strides for women has left men behind.
aug 28, 2025, 4:10 pm • 1 0 • view
Truely. Women are trying to embrace all the options while men still feel limited and even more so as if they are ceding ground to women who want to expand.
aug 28, 2025, 5:08 pm • 0 0 • view
Social media, selfies, and FOMO are all considered connected, but I don’t think there’s “proof” yet. People are shown “the beautiful people”, with their “perfect” lives, and want that for themselves. At one point that only came from advertising, but with monetizing social media every is making ads
aug 28, 2025, 1:01 pm • 4 0 • view
This is truly a world wide epidemic. It’s seen on all continents (not sure how they measured Antartica), cultures, and peoples. As long as they have smart phones.
aug 28, 2025, 1:01 pm • 3 0 • view
Democrats and their faltering progressive culture offer only ambiguity. What even is a man? Progressivism reduces manhood to a lack of boobs and a fake phallus.
aug 28, 2025, 7:11 pm • 1 0 • view
MAGA offers young men a clear script. Be strong, be competent, be a provider. In return, get admiration, feminine warmth, loyalty, and—yes—sex. It offers them an attractive, romantic vision: Wife, kids, hearths, hearts, legacy, respect, and love. Purpose and pleasure. Yin and yang.
aug 28, 2025, 7:10 pm • 0 0 • view
Clue to incels… if you want a partner, try being a friend first. First… not as an afterthought.
aug 28, 2025, 2:02 pm • 1 0 • view
Sad that they are unaware that they'll never have enough money to buy women, hookers and gold diggers, like 47 has done.
aug 28, 2025, 3:20 pm • 3 0 • view
🎯
aug 28, 2025, 2:56 pm • 1 0 • view
Trump encourages them to hate the other and there are so many others. They somehow feel better about themselves when they can blame others for their own short comings. Too much TOXIC social media streaming into their fragile brains.
aug 28, 2025, 12:45 pm • 5 0 • view
When they finally figure out that trump is making it impossible for them to get laid-maybe they'll wake up-or maybe when it dawns on them that thanks to Republican policies-if they actually do get laidthey now have a baby or two to support along with their starving grandma..ya think they saving up?
aug 28, 2025, 6:57 pm • 0 0 • view
...and it doesn't seem their podcasters are doing them much good either. The "Joe Rogan's" of their podcast world certainly didn't do young men any favors in this last election. Steering them toward Trump hurt them more than helping them.
aug 28, 2025, 12:26 pm • 1 0 • view
fnck, I'm 47 married, and feel lonely. I'm curious if we were to talk about it, if we'd find men of all ages feel dysphoric.
aug 28, 2025, 12:37 pm • 0 0 • view
You nailed it with “without having to go outside their comfort zone.” Men’s inability to be flexible and pivot is their problem. Not loneliness. Their inability to analyze what is happening in their lives, communities, the world, is the problem, not loneliness. Teach those skills.
aug 28, 2025, 3:40 pm • 2 0 • view
Loneliness among young men is definitely part of the problem.
aug 28, 2025, 5:29 pm • 2 0 • view
Given our American history since Reagan, this crisis among our young men was inevitable. Trickle Down my ass.
aug 28, 2025, 7:01 pm • 1 0 • view
They gave up unions jobs and a path toward retirement in trade for mean words about blacks women and gays. But were raised in the everybody gets a trophy era and are not capable of self reflection. This is why they are so easily radicalized
aug 28, 2025, 12:28 pm • 18 0 • view
And I was happily giving out those trophies. Oh Ugh 😩
aug 28, 2025, 12:57 pm • 3 0 • view
🤣🤣🤣..stop it..🤣🤣🤣
aug 28, 2025, 4:32 pm • 1 0 • view
When everyone gets a trophy, the trophy becomes meaningless. People need the boost of confidence real accomplishment gives us.
aug 28, 2025, 4:13 pm • 1 0 • view
Young people are experiencing a crisis of being able to find a good-paying job. This affects men and women, but “women must be blamed.”
aug 28, 2025, 1:03 pm • 5 0 • view
So sad.
aug 28, 2025, 12:32 pm • 1 0 • view
A thoughtful and extremely well-written piece. Thank you, Adam.
aug 29, 2025, 4:36 pm • 0 0 • view
Very well-written and thorough. Please keep speaking truth to power, Adam; you're a good American.
aug 28, 2025, 2:13 pm • 2 0 • view
All good thoughts. Thanks. For the Tuckers of the world: if someone has to lose for you to win, you've chosen to bring about misery instead of joy. Sadly there's no shortage of misery. And it will make you far less of a man.
aug 28, 2025, 2:14 pm • 2 0 • view
I don't want to unfollow you, Adam, but you've been making it easier to do so.
aug 28, 2025, 2:19 pm • 2 0 • view
When we lose empathy we lose humanity. It’s the age of the social media world and many youth are plugged in and incapable of viewing reality.
aug 28, 2025, 12:35 pm • 3 0 • view
Oh for goodness´ sake! There is precisely NO excuse for voting fascist. Unless you are one yourself.
aug 28, 2025, 12:33 pm • 7 0 • view
Same goes for pedophiles
aug 28, 2025, 6:59 pm • 0 0 • view
BINGO ! …. …. and ignorant …. 😉
aug 28, 2025, 2:05 pm • 0 0 • view
Ah yes, incels. However, their emotional stuntedness is a fault of the parents, and trying to be a "traditional" male. Whatever the fuq that actually means. Where is the role model for that? And why would females want anything to do with them? A lot goes into this.
aug 28, 2025, 12:47 pm • 4 0 • view
"It is only fair that women are beginning to experience some equality in the workplace." Gosh, thanks.
aug 28, 2025, 2:55 pm • 1 0 • view
There is a podcast called Boys Like Me from a Canadian journalist which is very enlightening yet horrible. It’s scary knowing the depth of hate being targeted at women by these boys/men in their groups online. There needs to be outreach from guys who are confident like a big brother program.
aug 28, 2025, 3:32 pm • 1 0 • view
And we need to bring back options of exploration for self expression and confidence through accomplishment beyond athletics in school. Art, music, shop trades, working with hands, etc. We need more males teachers too. Positive role models. IRL community building ASAP for lonely, non sporty types
aug 28, 2025, 4:39 pm • 0 0 • view
The crisis is parents who are raising men to believe they are better than women and brown or black people and are entitled to things they have not worked for or deserve. The YouTube algorithm is also drawing them deeper into these beliefs.
aug 29, 2025, 3:24 am • 0 0 • view
Young women know Trump is the problem. Ergo their loneliness (other than residual covid damage).
aug 28, 2025, 12:29 pm • 1 0 • view
I stopped reading when you claimed D. Johnson and W. Smith were positive role models. What a load of sh!t. Do better research before you award your accolades.
aug 28, 2025, 1:14 pm • 0 0 • view
Truth. Very well stated truth. Thank you.
aug 28, 2025, 12:31 pm • 0 0 • view
They can have him.
aug 28, 2025, 2:49 pm • 0 0 • view
No. I’m not buying this.
aug 28, 2025, 12:44 pm • 4 0 • view
Not every child will be parented nor loved. FACTS are it affects the child for their entire lives, it affects those around them, society as a whole. There's so much need in our world, we're going backward on most things. How to address this? Parents need to be more involved, society needs to help.
aug 28, 2025, 12:31 pm • 1 0 • view
Maybe they should try not being easily led losers.
aug 28, 2025, 12:40 pm • 7 0 • view
Another “young men are in crisis” moment. As a woman in the US for 72 years my advice is that all y’all men need to work on yourselves. Suck it up. Sort it out. Do some self reflection. Pull yourselves up by your bootstraps. Take some classes. Get some therapy. And, do shut up.
aug 28, 2025, 2:05 pm • 3 0 • view
Donald Trump and his policies are not going to make these weaklings acceptable to us. Ever. Trump supporters are genuinely horrible human beings.
aug 28, 2025, 1:38 pm • 2 0 • view
Unfortunately, many young men have been getting their sense of "macho" relevance via Donald Trump. They have been receiving info from the wrong sources. It's so twisted! Then, some of the young men start to realize that they look ridiculous. It's sad. Someone😉 needs to show some true strength.
aug 29, 2025, 2:47 am • 0 0 • view
🤣🤣🤣
aug 28, 2025, 6:59 pm • 0 0 • view
Young WHITE men.
aug 29, 2025, 7:20 am • 0 0 • view
If they think Trump is the answer they should be euthanized. They're beyond hope of ever getting better.
aug 28, 2025, 12:55 pm • 0 0 • view
Poor men. I mean it’s not like they have to be taught to have their car keys in hand to pop in their cars real fast, then immediately lock their doors to make sure they aren’t attacked in parking lots. Or walk in pairs so they aren’t vulnerable being by themselves at night. Poor, poor men.
aug 29, 2025, 1:04 am • 1 0 • view
I was skeptical as I started reading this substance. However, your points are valid and thought out. Your improvements are as well. My belief is that this has to start on the local levels. These children need strong role mentors who have shared experiences so they can have shared outcomes.
aug 28, 2025, 2:50 pm • 1 0 • view
The crisis is all the podcasters telling them they are the victims of women, libs, brown people & the LGBT community.
aug 28, 2025, 12:55 pm • 2 0 • view
If they weren't nasty entitled jerks, they wouldn't be so lonely.
aug 28, 2025, 2:00 pm • 2 0 • view
Trump is a lonely man also. Raping women and paying for sex with children for much of his life.
aug 28, 2025, 3:11 pm • 4 0 • view
Some young men, not all young men but nevertheless the matter should be explored.
aug 31, 2025, 9:56 pm • 0 0 • view
They need to pull their heads out of their phones and butts, stop expecting that they are entitled bc their demographic has always come out on top, and start trying to be more likable, humane, and empathetic. Maybe smile more.
aug 29, 2025, 1:55 am • 1 0 • view
Nobody wants to hang out with assholes, so clearly assholes are the real victim here. /s
aug 28, 2025, 8:31 pm • 0 0 • view
i wanted to read this but it is still full of the excuses of expectations
aug 28, 2025, 1:31 pm • 0 0 • view
Adam, imo, some of these parents, teachers, people of authority in these young people’s lives have lied to them. They have been raised believing they are better than their black, brown, etc., counterparts. They believe they are superior. When reality hits these young men, they lose it. My opinion.
aug 28, 2025, 12:45 pm • 8 1 • view
Jesus Christ, men are lonely so they think the guy who forces himself on women and girls is their god???
aug 28, 2025, 6:50 pm • 3 0 • view
Why don't other countries have the same issues? Young men have similar issues, some much worse, all over the world. Is it our obsession with looking tough? Obsession with guns? Young women have many issues they are dealing with, and yet, they aren't as violent or angry.
aug 28, 2025, 4:50 pm • 6 0 • view
It's the "Make my Day" syndrome that is a peculiarly American affliction.
aug 28, 2025, 9:34 pm • 2 0 • view
Good analogy.
aug 29, 2025, 2:54 pm • 1 0 • view
Why is this only a USA problem?
aug 28, 2025, 6:02 pm • 2 0 • view
How are young women not affected then? When they have to also deal with being sexualized, harassed, and constantly judged too.
aug 28, 2025, 12:47 pm • 22 2 • view
I think it might go back to the differences in how we are raised because the lonely guys are falling down online rabbit holes that turn most lonely girls off due to the extreme language of misogyny. The girls have groups that embrace shame and self harm butt men’s groups are about entitlement rage.
aug 28, 2025, 4:21 pm • 3 1 • view
I wonder if girls are just better at critical thinking. As a survival thing.
aug 28, 2025, 8:35 pm • 1 1 • view
It is a “crisis” of their own making. No woman owes a man attention. What these people want are essentially sex slaves. They can do the work, improve themselves, and make themselves dateable. We should not reward them for being horrible people.
aug 28, 2025, 12:34 pm • 11 1 • view
No, but we do need to solve the problem with empathy rather than apathy. It’s growing because the online web of connection to spread their rageful bad ideas is vast.
aug 28, 2025, 4:31 pm • 1 0 • view
There used to be other men that helped them with that...they were called fathers! Maybe men should get to fixing that.
aug 28, 2025, 6:50 pm • 1 0 • view
Democrats need to address this. 10,000,000 young men no longer looking for work, or companionship. We lost the young male minority vote in 2024, we must do better and provide an answer to the toxic masculinity online space.
aug 28, 2025, 12:25 pm • 3 0 • view
Agreed...men had better hurry and fix this!
aug 28, 2025, 7:19 pm • 0 0 • view
Courting ineptitude helps no one. They need the consequences their behavior deserved. That's how children learn.
aug 28, 2025, 12:30 pm • 2 0 • view
I understand wanting to hurt the voters who elected these MAGA facist. However you can’t win a national election without the male aged 18-30 vote. I want to win, and use that power to dismantle the facist power grab of MAGA.
aug 28, 2025, 12:52 pm • 2 0 • view
A bandaid slapped on without washing with soap and water first, often leads to infection. Go back to the beginning, wash properly and the results will be a good outcome.
aug 28, 2025, 12:59 pm • 1 0 • view
I can agree with that. The time to start washing and cleaning the wound and a now.
aug 28, 2025, 1:13 pm • 1 0 • view
Now it's not that easy and you need antibiotics and to pay for Cipro. And if you don't do that, you'll need surgical debridement. We're damn close to debridement.
aug 28, 2025, 2:18 pm • 0 0 • view
And the cause of this problem is teaching men that they have a golden phallus that takes care of all their problems. So maybe the antibiotic is to force them to adult.
aug 28, 2025, 2:18 pm • 2 0 • view
They are choosing this lifestyle, no one is rejecting them. These incels and lazy asses are not victims.
aug 28, 2025, 12:39 pm • 3 0 • view
That’s probably true, but demeaning malting them won’t help get their vote. If you want to win and get rid of the facist in the White House, you need their vote.
aug 28, 2025, 12:56 pm • 0 0 • view
Just democrats? Republicans have no stake? Hmmm.
aug 28, 2025, 12:37 pm • 0 0 • view
They’re running towards Republicans because they’re telling them what they want to hear. We can move slightly to the center and get their votes. We can’t win an election without the male aged 18-30 vote.
aug 28, 2025, 12:54 pm • 0 0 • view
We need to keep trolling and ridiculing trump-make him so absurd and toxic that these man-babies will step away when they see trump is actually a hindrance to getting laid. And also start talking to them about how much money they'll need to support the baby they'll be forced to have if do get laid!
aug 28, 2025, 7:27 pm • 0 0 • view
Yes I’ve been saying this! As a mother of 18 and 22 year old sons, I’ve heard from them that they see this amongst their peers! I can speak from months of protesting in our community we see these young men drive by, they are ragingly angry! Spewing vile profanity and hate while cheering for Trump!
aug 28, 2025, 12:29 pm • 1 1 • view