WOW. It's great to see this resonating with so many people! If you liked bronxite1910's comment, you also might like this piece I wrote about Zohran Mamdani's walk across Manhattan. www.mindthemoss.com/p/putting-th...
WOW. It's great to see this resonating with so many people! If you liked bronxite1910's comment, you also might like this piece I wrote about Zohran Mamdani's walk across Manhattan. www.mindthemoss.com/p/putting-th...
Old white guy that’s NOT afraid of his own shadow? Rare specimen!
Like a young Walt Whitman.
I taught in this neighborhood for 11 years and always felt the same!
Smiling reading this while shooting a scene set in the Bronx with a very diverse group of actors. I’ve never been to that borough but now I want to go.
Hell yeah, Papi.
Humanity at its best ❤️
Not only were those pilots allowed to justifiably refuse the illegal orders to drop bombs on a sovereign nation that didn't attack the US, they were actually required to!!!
We all should calm down and smile more. GO NYC!!!!!
I lived in El Paso, Texas for many years while my Dad was stationed at Ft. Bliss. As a white woman, I was a minority. I never had any problems. And when my neighbor brought over homemade enchiladas? I took the dish and said mucho gracias! Or tamales at Christmas. Never turned those down.
I was at my local farm market and buying a cantaloupe. A Spanish worker saw me and selected a cantaloupe for me. She said in a heavy accent, good one. I smiled and said gracias. It was the sweetest and most delicious cantaloupe I have eaten. But it was her help and smile that made it taste good.
“Papi, take my seat!” Absolutely love it …
👏👏
Lol NW Bronx represent 🙅♀️
I love this.
If there's to be a king of America, I'm voting for this guy.
I support any effort or action where people go around telling white men they need to smile more.
Needs ALT TEXT!
Say as it all or in a nicer way than Relax, tight ass. Smile 😁
I wish I could like this post a million times.
Archival footage of Cuomo smiling.
This is the nicest, sickest burn ever.
"Papi take my seat" ❤️ just defrosted my heart a little. What a sweet man and wonderful community.
London recently on the bus both my daughter & I were offered seats by gentlemen travelling with their wives (neither of the couples knew each other nor same ethnicity as us or other couple). They did this all the journey, if anyone was standing they immediately jumped up 💖 - can only speak as find.
Beautifully put. I felt the same way as the only white guy on my all-black block in Philly.
Chef's kiss!
This is the city I know 💕
I’m crying all the through these stories
I’m a middle-aged white man. I’ve now realized that immigrants, and the prosperity and diversity they bring, were things I took for granted.
I just want to buy this guy all the drinks
Where can we read the op-ed?
The Bronx will always be the Bronx. Love it.
I grew up in Chicago in the 50’s - there are neighborhoods were the dominant language was Italian, Polish, Ukrainian, German. As a kid you learnt to point a lot. Now, it is Russian. It was not always glorious - bad things happened. But it was our neighborhoods.
Most Americans in the 1850s did NOT speak English as their first language.
“Americans” have since first settlement for closed doors after they have become “Americans”. Our history is not the quote on the Liberty Statue. But, a history of discrimination of even English settlers if not the right religion. Nothing Party (1820-1860) hated everyone & almost won a President.
Also not mentioned is the Union army was supported by enlistments from German provinces (German did not exist as a Country til @1872). Italians and Irish Catholics. Often Europeans the reprisals of the failure of 1848. Many of that served returned Europe-to fight for -the right to vote.
I do not about 51% - definitely if you add the caveat that English was not the first language for the household. We tend to think that the immigrant story is urban. Drive around Iowa, Wisconsin Michigan (Grand Rapids) the dairy farms particularly- there remained 2 language families.
Made me smile like an idiot , love is love .
One of the only times a man could ever say you should smile more and I'd just agree tbh.
Too real
People always bring their prejudices into the decisions they make. Frankly, that’s why we’re in this mess.
When people in public office spew lies/hate, the sane people know it's not true, but the insecure weak people will swallow it whole. Every sane person needs to push back. No matter your age, race, gender or religion. We are each able to influence at least one other person with the truth. Do it!
So when I was very pregnant I asked someone (prob 30ish white male) for his seat. He smirked and said no. I could focus on that one guy being an ass, or the entire subway car of people that had my back and and rolled their eyes in solidarity at him and called him an asshole. I choose the latter.
How many of those other people didnt give up a seat?
Fair question but my fellow standers. It was rush hour so we were packed in
I love this so much.
My white step-aunt asked me about the rising crime in my neighborhood. I told her not to worry about my wonderful neighborhood and what lies her trashy American-owned rag wrote. Then I asked her to book my flight. Did I mention she works for my family company? The audacity of these people.
I ought to send something like this to my neighbor across the street who really doesn't like my Hispanic next door neighbors..... Things get a little tense sometimes during the summer time weekends.
Alt text: I: As an elderly white male that has lived in the Bronx for 35 years I do not recognize the New York City you inhabit. My congressional district is about 91 percent "minority"and 9 percent "white". I have never been mugged or even assaulted in all those years.
II: When I am standing in a crowded bus, a younger person often says: "Papi, take my seat". I say: "Thank you" and sit down, to smiles all around. Mine (Kingsbridge) is a great neighborhood even for a non-Spanish-speaker like me. I am not bothered that I cannot
III: understand most conversations of my neighbors. We nod and smile at each other as we pass in the street. Maybe you would feel better about your city if you relaxed a bit and smiled more.
(me again): this reflects my own experience as a (now older) white woman having lived in various parts of Los Angeles most of my life. I can't even imagine WANTING to live in a town of people who only look like me, or who have never experienced real hardship.
I grew up in Marin, which HAS to be the official NIMBY HQ—way, way worse shit happened there than my tenure in Echo Park
I hear that!!
I live in a suburban area that seems to have more BIPOC folks than whites. The only problem I ever had was with the downstairs neighbors, who were white people and illegally squatting. 🙄
That was me growing up. I hate it so much that I've told my family that if they try to spread my ashes there when I'm gone I will come back and haunt them until they scrape me up and put me anywhere else.
My brother went to graduate school in the midwest, and every time he came home to Houston, he sought out malls and parks and festivals and any other place ordinary people gather, because he missed diversity so much. It BAFFLES me when see this is as a bad thing rather than an amazing strength.
After living in Oakland, SF, and LA my mom was shocked I would walk a mile to the Walgreen’s in her suburban town. But that’s part of it. I wanted to get out, move around, and have time think. It wasn’t just about going to the store and coming home. It was about existing within a place.
I grew up in a town that looks like me and never knew hardship and it straight up sucked they're all just fucking rancid there
god literally same, I grew up in white upper middle class conservative christian suburbia in the Midwest and it was HORRID. Everyone was rude and terrible neighbors, judgmental, racist, Karens screaming if you threw a toy on their lawn and they all had kids too! got out as fast as I could
Fucking same
My small and very white town definitely doesn't suck and isn't rancid, but it absolutely lacks the life that animates more diverse cities and neighborhoods. Sameness breeds stagnation and narrows horizons.
Sameness breeds people who look like cottage cheese and only have one good pizza place
Considering striking "good." Maybe only one place to get something marketed as "pizza."
Denmark is like 106% identical and they have an excellent food culture, the second best beer in the world, and everyone looks like they hopped out of a monochrome Vogue ad You're funny and that's a good bleet but you're also just wrong. Appearance and food are not the problem with homogeneity.
"Bleet"?
Idk seems better than "skeet"
Denmark has a fair amount of people from across Europe and around the World. But I don't recall the food or beer there being particularly amazing. Granted, I only was in Copenhagen for a week but I did eat food and drank a lot of beer. And met a lot of people who were not Scandinavian.
I had a fantastic Móle in Copenhagen once.
They are, however, the problem with England
Ha!
ohhh.....i am wounded...but...its true 😞
If all white towns in America were as good as some of these great replacement weirdos claim, heroin use wouldn’t be 106% in all of them.
I remember being ~14 and reading in our (then not-yet-defunct) town paper about kids at my school buying heroin for $20, and thinking (a) which 15yo in this shockingly dull town is selling drugs? And (b) where are my child classmates getting $20 when they don't have jobs? These mysteries remain.
I love Denmark for various reasons, but ... food culture? LOL.
Similarly, I grew up in a nearly all-white suburb. I feel cheated.
Same. But I returned home after grad school to be close to my dying father. Do you know the glee with which I watch my hometown turn into one of the most diverse suburbs of Connecticut? God it’s wonderful
Shared suffering always teaches empathy. Not all choose to learn that lesson. But most do.
My family moved from Brooklyn to a very white small town when I was 4. I hated it and couldn't wait to become an adult so I could get out of that hellhole
I live in a rural white county in CA, the kids have all seen what they're missing on the internet and either get out while they can, or create what diversity they can! It's truly amazing how backward in their thinking the older folks are. I had a customer BAFFLED to see Spanish on a 7UP label 😆
Yes, yes, yes. Los Angeles is *amazing* because of how many different groups call this town home. No, I don't understand everything going on. But -- that's *their* business. The culture, the food, and the creativity make Los Angeles dynamic.
Same!
Sure we outnumber the haters!
The really sad part is that it's so EASY. Just be casually friendly and sociable with your neighbors! That's it! You don't even need to be friends with them! Just don't completely isolate yourself as a white person in a majority Black or Hispanic neighborhood and you'll be way ahead of the whiners.
Rule 1: Don't be a dick.
Usually Rules 2 & 3 as well.
Indeed.
That is literally my life motto.
It goes a long way!
And expect other people to be interesting and neighborly!
Yes, a thousand times yes. I have lived in my predominantly black neighborhood for 25 years now. I’m a little old white lady. It’s a poor working class neighborhood. We all look out for each other. Just normal kindness goes a long way. It’s not rocket science. It’s not that hard.
In NYC if you look like you are lost or in trouble someone will try to help, though sometimes whether you want it or not. no shortage of opinions.
💯👍 And so much for those #Rocket scientists who keep blowing up billion dollar rockets #Muskrat
Yeah, Ben Carson ruined brain surgeon for us, and now Elon Muskrat has ruined rocket science. Brain surgeon and rocket scientist used to be our gold standard stand-in to describe our smartest and brightest. What’s left?
Rocket surgery.
As an older, not ready to call myself elderly yet, life long resident of the City of Los Angeles, I wholeheartedly endorse this. Yes, the city is not the same place that it was in days gone by, and, at times, it can be difficult to live here, it is a great and diverse place to live.
I grew up in a small, all white town. I watched Sesame Street & wanted to live there. I eventually moved to Brooklyn for a couple of years. I never want to go back to a monochromatic world. When I moved back to Minnesota I picked a neighborhood that got as close to that as I could.
Grew up in a while small town in PA. We knew what racism was. The justice of the peace called my mom over, “I moved from Harrisburg 25 years ago to get away from “those people”. I don’t need people like you bringing them here”. My mom did her shrug and said,”It’s a free country” and walked out.
Went to school in Philadelphia and fell in love with all that it offered. Hated when I had to leave it. Love to take the grands on city visits. My granddaughter and I found Sesame Street! I was more excited than she was🤣
I'm a white person in a Latino town. This is pretty much how I feel too about things. I don't give a shit if I can't understand someone's conversation unless it's aimed at me lol. Then I say no Spanish
I grew up with half my family speaking a language I never learned, whenever they got together. This has literally never been a problem for me.
The only time I had an issue was when I worked retail. Then after guessing or if someone translated, it worked out. I like where I live because of the diversity after growing up in a white conservative area
Diversity is wonderful. Those who complain about it are not my friends.
It was an adjustment I’ll admit when I first moved at my place, but I’ve grown fond now.
Anything we’re not used to is an adjustment, this is growth!
💘
Thank you
Oh how I love this! 🥰
Wow! I love this!!
they only know hate and misery....and think everyone else you be the same
Misery loves company.
I love that letter 🫶🏼
Worked NYC EMS for 34 years. Never had a problem. If you don’t act like a fool and treat everyone with respect, that respect is reciprocated. Act like a schmuck, get treated like one.
There are a lot of schmucks, to be fair 😂
Unfortunately true. Manners make the person. I treat everyone equally as the way I would hope to be treated. No need for drama or trauma. Just be a human being. I’m no better than anyone else. And we are all trying to survive. Life is too short.
Protect this man. 😭
Thanks for sharing that’s great!!!
King
This guy is who you want as a neighbor
You want all his neighbors, too
👍
This is the kindest way of saying "shut the fuck up" I have ever read. A true king 🤴
…and my ‘better half old fart’ Scottish immigrant that just became a US citizen after living here on a green card since 1994 decided to learn Spanish in his retirement, speaks to everyone in Spanish when he runs into anyone that Spanish is their first language they usually just smile and say,
“I speak English” - what happened to “can’t we all just get along” #wecanallgetalong #hatehasnoplace
Please tell me that op-ed was written by a white guy and Papi over here just "You should smile more"ed a white dude. Jeff's kiss
I concur ❤️
My kind of guy - good heart, sweet soul! What wonderful insight and the way to live a beautiful life!
Mensch vibes.
Smile more! A great motto to live by.
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This is wonderful as I was born and raised in the Bronx myself but left for the military years ago
This is my experience in California too and I’ve posted about it before. I can’t think of another white person for miles and it’s kinda great 😂 everyone welcomed me from my bubble of a small town and the biggest controversy is “I don’t like this tea they gave me, must pretend” 🤣
Completely off-topic but YOU NEED TO READ THIS "Now, five months into a second administration that has shredded the Constitution and launched an illegal war of aggression, the Democrats are functioning not as defenders of democracy but enablers of dictatorship." www.wsws.org/en/articles/...
The establishment dems are terrified of being replaced. And they should be.
Real American
Can we get a link to the op ed?
Love this!
💯 And not a minute too soon!
You put this on a post written by an old man who is teaching you the core values of urban life...respect and kindness. What are you doing?
And you find truth offensive? I, too, am an old man and have lived through the right-wing ideology since the 50s and I and many others want to live in a world where wealth, status & power are not the goals of humanity - and our constitutional government is not owned by corporations & oligarchs.
Ok 🙄
teared up at this, reminds me of the vibe of several older male teachers I had in boston-area public schools. no tolerance for disrespect or bullshit
Simple humanity is all one needs. And he has ab abundance of it. Bless him
This is great. I moved to NYC at age 23 and landed in, I think, the most diverse neighborhood in the world, Elmhurst, Queens, and said hello every day to the elderly Indian man rocking on the porch even though he didn't understand me. I said, okay, I really live in New York now.
I looked around the corner bodega while the owner chatted in Spanish with his buddies. He asked what I was looking for and I said tortillas. His buddies were stumped. He said, "I don't have those, but I know what they are because my wife is Mexican." Now, Mexicans have arrived along with tortillas.
Before Elmhurst & Jackson Heights had lots of Indians, it had lots of Argentines (& Brazilians) among others. Now it is a different version of Spanish I hear around there most of the time, but NYC can’t be NYC without lots of immigrants & all the mixing and cycling in of different immigrant groups.
It had every kind of people. About a year after I moved there, Eddie Murphy moved there in "Coming to America."
And Elmhurst is safer nowadays than it was when Stephen Miller was born.
Basic human decency is not delineated by ones' colour, creed, race or gender but by ones' character traits. The simple acts people do each day reveal their true worth, irrespective of colour etc. It costs absolutely nothing to be kind to people and yet such kindness can be a priceless gesture to 1/
someone who is having a bad day. The inane hatred encapsulated in the racism and bigotry of the regime and its' Supporters is far outweighed by the kindness and compassion of the majority of Americans. Let that be some solace in these dark times for your country. End
Wow, a Hall of Fame reader comment, huh? That's like a badge of honor for being... well, not exactly enlightened.
Who tf disliked that?! Tar and feathering is in order.
That gentleman has the right idea!
Is this the root? Has this guy the wisdom to show us? Other cultures respect elders and prioritize family? And politicians hate that because it is inherently selfless? Am I the first to demand a People’s Party? A party with nothing to gain other than the betterment of society. It’s not hard.
@alttext.bsky.social
And I bet he's had a few abuelas say "Here you try" while handing him plates lol
That's how you wind up cursing the fates. Had a little abuela on a job site give me some sort of garlic rice dish one time and I've been chasing that recipe since. Nothing I've made has come close to the perfection that woman casually threw at me.
Similar experience - I had possibly the best bread I have ever tasted in a wee roadside place in Afghanistan, somewhere on the Shomali plain. Guy running the place described it as "Uzbek bread". I have tried and tried and never been able to replicate it.
Yes. Yes, yes. Well said. ❤️
People actually living in NY vs. people living 1000 miles away and watching Fox News all day long
My brain switched to reading this in the most stereotypical NYC accent by the last sentence
I have 5 sisters, raised & still residents of So Dakota. They all visited NYC for 1st time 3 weeks ago. Every one of them expressed surprise at how friendly the people are. Ya done good, folks.
I’ve literally never had anybody be rude to me… when I didn’t deserve it. 😂😂😂
I was just there and once again laughing at how New Yorkers will, in fact, talk to you at the bus stop BUT Bostonians have started thanking their bus drivers en masse as they get off, and this is not happening in NYC from my sample size of five bus rides
I always thank my bus driver and see other New Yorkers do it all the time.
I brought the habit back from London and always give a hearty "thank you driver," as I step off. I see it about 20% of the time? But I'm not a regular.
I detest shopping, but it's a necessary thing because I like to eat. I try to give strangers in stores a smile & a friendly nod. Especially folks who appear to have been dealt a tough hand in the world. I hope it makes them feel "seen", but I know it makes me feel a little bit happier.
Even just childhood standard manners...I am the "may I please have" lady, and it always gets people in the feels. 🥹 These are either friction or fruition moments in cities - either you find the way to make it pleasant, thus building something better about life, or are increasingly miserable.
I feel like it’s on the increase in Boston which I like, because we are famously a bunch of grumpy f^%s
I was able to visit Bean Town 3 years ago. I felt I was treated warmly. The difference between me going to Boston and my sisters to NYC was expectations. I moved to Maryland 30 years ago & am used to urban settings. My sisters are all corn & wheat fields & "Eww big cities are dangerous".
This is gold, and so are you, Miles. Glad I saw this, following you now.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Oh man, all ferklempt.
Adjacent point- I love when other people are speaking to each other in anything besides English. Saves me the trouble of trying not to listen in. Much easier to tune out and stay in my own thoughts.
Alternately, I like listening in and trying to understand, because I can tell myself I'm not *eavesdropping*, I'm *learning a language*.
This is me when my Lyft driver assumes I don't know Spanish and apologizes profusely to his girlfriend on the phone. It is also me learning to keep a straight face better than I currently can.
i like listening to a canadian punjabi radio station. i like their music and can't understand the commercials
I agree, I have a mother in law that doesn’t speak English- highly recommend
One crazy guy on a subway stabs someone and it plays on media loops as if it is an everyday occurrence. Crime is down in urban areas but the media doesn't want to lose the "clicks." Meanwhile law enforcement crime is climbing.
That's what we get when the profit motive dictates what the media is supposed to prioritize
This is why crime per capita matters. But Missouri doesn’t want to own their truth.
I don’t live in NYC. Both of my adult kids do. I was hatched on Amsterdam/97th in what was a Mitchell Lama building that is now a co-op. My parents grew up in NYC. I have lived in Queens, Brooklyn and Manhattan. I would have probably voted for someone other than Mandami.
My dad was a Socialist. He was a registered Dem as was my mom as am I. London has had a Muslim Mayor since 2016. The Jewish population of London and 🇬🇧 is far smaller than NYC and 🇺🇸 Lets see how Mandami does. If he isn’t up to snuff then he’ll serve one term like Adams who should never be elected
I want that sweet neighbor 💙💙💙
That's the NY we love.
You mean NYC isn't the hellscape warzone maga has been proclaiming for years?
Love it! Right on! 💙
I shared this with my mother in Bedford Park and she agrees.
Outstanding. While I am not elderly yet, this is largely my experience living in a very heterogeneous neighborhood with a lot of Central American immigrants. You couldn't ask for better neighbors. I do not understand the hatred one bit, which must be borne of lack of actual exposure to them.
That is exactly the problem! No actual exposure, criticism from ivory towers
Recent mostly peaceful ICE protests in LA,Trump ordered National Guard and Marines that inflamed and worsened the situation. The press aided him by repeatedly focusing on the violence in one small area. Yet most of LA was calm and peaceful. We really are so blessed with our mixed ethnic communities.
I lived 43 years in LA County in neighborhoods where my white skin was the minority. Amazing how many great recipes I learned, fun parties attended, and my kids educated on other cultures while making many long lasting friendships. It was the norm.
I just walked across Lexington Ave in the Bronx today, and even though my skin is pale and I'm not Black or Latino, I had no problems. It's just a normal part of NYC.
The way Americans fear cities is wild. Rurals think they're gangland warzones with constant pitched battles for control of the mall parking lots. Even people in the suburbs think the closer they get to downtown, the more they need to keep a lookout for roving packs of feral urbanites.
So true. I live in the center of a small city in MD. So many I socialize with say they love it but act like the city is scary as hell. They want to give me a lift to a restaurant 2 blocks away. A visiting suburbanite friend asked: “Do you feel safe here?” Gawd …
Lived in NYC for 20 years. My sister couldnt wrap her head around me living in a building *where other people also lived.* People I didn’t know. People I wasn’t related to. Maybe even Black or Latin people! She thought I was literally insane. I loved it and miss it. Can’t afford it tho
Sounds expensive as shit. People talk about tiny, closet-sized apartments with rent as high as my entire monthly salary. idk how anybody can afford to live there.
It's racism. It's always just racism.
And simultaneously they think everyone who lives there is a little wimpy baby. Wimpy babies living in a war zone 🙄
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I think "eat my shorts" is pithier.
That sounds like every old white person in my office. They will not go to Baltimore/Annapolis/DC because they think it’s the OK corral.
It's just the parking, for me. An easy way in, out, and around is the only real reason I avoid cities. My loss, I know.
I did see a lot of Chicago with my mil once. She definitely knew her way around. It was amazing. I couldn't go up the Sears Tower because I'm a chicken, but the rest was great.
...Annapolis too???
Yeah. They will do anything to not go over the bridge. If cost of living wasn’t an arm or a leg I’d still be living over there.
I guess Marylanders know their own cities about as well as they can drive. And calling it a city implies a lot of things it isn't. It can really only be called a city because the capital is there.
Exactly Annapolis is just an old rich people retirement community. Sprinkled with cultural charm.
I know people aged 20-40 who grew up less than 20 mins from Philly who believe wild shit about how dangerous it is. I moved to Philly as an adult for work, in my late 20s, been here 12 years, have no desire what so ever to move to the suburbs.
My boomer parents visited last summer. Both grew up in Detroit and now live just outside the border, both acted like visiting Philly was entering a war zone. It’s ridiculous, but they’re conservative and conservative media wants them scared.
My parents who are from Cleveland are the same way when they visit me in California. It’s absurd how well these people been brainwashed atp
They fear hustle and bustle and too many food options with walking distances.
Honestly it's black/brown people. Which is wild to me as I grew up in a pretty diverse area and went to school with kids from all kinds of different backgrounds. But I guess I shouldn't be surprised since they were definitely a part of the white flight out of Detroit in the late 70s/early 80s.
My parents are pretty willing to walk & try different foods for people from their demographic, and especially compared to my partner's parents. But they are racist and homophobic, and weirdly classist for people who are definitely solidly working class (teacher and mail carrier prior to retirement).
did you never see the movies gotti, god father, warriors or west side story????
Beautiful
Surely replied to with screams of ‘virtue signaling race betrayer’
I've lived in DC itself for 24 of the past 36 years (rest were in the MD suburbs). I've been the target of violent crime twice and both times a "rainbow coalition" of my neighbors swooped into help me, both in the immediate aftermath and through the recovery. Cities really aren't that scary.
I lived in DC proper for a decade. In that time, my car was broken into 4 times, my home robbed, & I was mugged on my (very nice) doorstep. I’d move back there in a heartbeat. Bad things happen everywhere. I’d rather live in a bustling, diverse city than a homogeneous suburb any day.
I’m frankly more afraid of my gun-toting, GOP-voting, rural Massachusetts neighbors, if we’re being honest. That said, I love a lot of aspects of living here in the Berkshires, too.
I'm a skinny White Florida woman whose favorite thing to do is wander aimlessly around NYC. I never ask help from White ppl, cuz they tend to jump out of their skin if approached by a stranger, but the REAL NYers will always take time to help me out.
when i was one of only 2 white people for a few blocks around, my neighbor chased away a meter maid trying to ticket me for my (totally legal) parking i treated everybody with respect and got treated with respect right back p sure it's the respect part that gets a lot of white people in trouble
I am a dumpy white man and somehow I've had to explain to an odd amount of people that beyond initial impressions, if someone who is a different race, culture, gender etc is still being standoffish towards you, it's probably a sign that you're just being an ass or being really weird about it.
but also… we’re not owed people being into us. not everybody likes everybody for all kinds of reasons. if you’ve done your best to be respectful then the next respectful thing is to let it go
that is another thing lol. also very similarly, "other people are allowed to dislike you on a personal level for whatever random reason regardless of whatever group you/they are" is another lesson that took me a while to learn, turns out you can be a people pleaser to the point of annoyance lol
“if you meet one asshole in a day, you met one asshole. if you meet several… you’re the asshole”
My elderly Black neighbors proved to be far more effective than a security system. When I was on the road nearly full time in the early 00s, one even explained how she could accurately predict how long I'd be gone by which suitcase I took, so she'd know how long to watch my house.
omg, gladys kravitz but for good 🥹
"ABNER!!!"
That's exactly how we do. We watch folks' houses all the time. We do not play with people we don't recognize on our neighbors' porches.
When I first moved into the neighborhood, a young couple had taken over a grandfather's house (he was in assisted living) and were selling drugs out of it. Those ladies appeared on their porches every time a buyer came by and took pics of their license plates. Three months later the family sold.
I know that's right. Aunties don't play. My mom and I lived together and the young guys living next door looked out for her almost better than I did. One evening we were coming home and they told us someone was lurking on our porch at like 1 a.m. and we wouldn't have to worry about that ever again.
💯💯💯 to that last sentence. Sadly, a lot of white folk don’t even see how disrespectful they are.
so true. i never understood why some people i knew had such different & worse experiences than me in the same places til i went around with them and saw they acted. nobody feels like being nice to someone who won’t treat them like a person. that’s just basic psychology!
My experience of 10 years in DC, during the mid 80’s-mid 90’s, is similar, never had a violent confrontation. I do have street smarts, which helped me ‘read the room’, but, by and large, I loved it and the people I met and got close to. It’s the only place i would move back to!
bronxite1910 sounds like a good neighbor and human
Lmao what if he was really born in 1910
He would be the oldest man in the world and the either the third or fourth oldest man ever depending on his birthday.
Statistically unlikely but theoretically possible!
He'd have... escaped the attention of people who keep track of such things; only one person born in 1910 is known to be living in the US, and she's in New Jersey. www.cnbc.com/2024/11/06/1...
I would give him my bus seat
Can I buy him a beer???
What paper? Where can I read the op Ed?
Made my day! What a great guy!
Love!
He could easily learn a few Spanish words
💙💙💙 Love this.
Now that’s America.
At the very least, his comment has me smiling. 🥰
Papi for the win. I miss the Bx.
That is epic, love it! 👏 💙
If you embrace your community, they'll embrace back.
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If they had their way only whites would get elected to any office.
Love the “you should smile more” but being thrown back at them lol
Beautiful
That’s my neighborhood he’s talking about, can attest to his veracity.
Also my experience in the rural South. This is truth.
Beautiful sentiment 😎
💙🫶🏼
@alt-text.bsky.social
The WORLD 🌎 lives in New York City. 🗽 AND I LOVE EVERY FREAKING PART OF IT. 😊 Every Borough. Every neighborhood. Every park. Every culture. Every street fair. Every shopping district. Even the subway. Even the warts.
It is 100% true: New York is the greatest city in the world.
NYC is just the US, in so many ways. My son lived there for 20 yrs. In all my visits, everyone has been kind, friendly, open & helpful. There is truly no place like it. I ❤️ NYC is still true.
I live in a very diverse but small city, too, and I LOVE listening to other languages being spoken….
Smile more is a hell of a way to end it 😄
💖 kingsbridge
What the world needs now is love sweet love ❤️ 🎶 youtu.be/YUaxVQPohlU?...
That's lovely. Thank you for sharing it.
Typical of the dislike in that pic. But the message itself is quite clear. Need more of this, without the dislike.
I wanna buy that guy a drink
My kid had been in B'lyn a couple of days she got locked out of her apt in her robe. She knocked on a door, and a Spanish-speaking woman answered and my took my daughter inside. My kid only speaks English, but the woman let her crawl thru a window and use her fire escape to get back into place.
Sorry, I wrote that while I was watching a lamb gamboling in a field. It's garbled, but the drift is in there.
I've only ever been hurt by White ppl who say they love me.
Same. I'm not afraid of any person of color. I'm afraid of white males. Statistically, I'm correct to be too.
I'd more trust a grizzly. I just moved to a neighborhood of about 30 humans. And that's 29 too many sometimes. Well, my closest neighbor is gay, so I like him. The lesbians down the road are Trumpists, so no go there. This cuntry sux.
Lol MAGA lesbians is....truly they have no brains.
I've only ever been abused and harassed by white dudes, most of them relatives.
Last sentence is brutal. Perfect.
I live in a small city in the middle of a very rural area in the reddest state imagineable. We have 400+ churches. Our murder rate is nearly TWICE New York City’s.
And more drug addicts too, I'd imagine. I grew up in a small town, and everyone was doing drugs because there's nothing to do there
In my tiny high school, you had three futures: get out of town, get pregnant, or get high.
There’s a country song about that: Mama’s hooked on Mary K, Brother’s hooked on Mary Jane, and Daddy’s hooked on Mary two doors down.
*Mary Kay You'll never use that again in your life, but I couldn't resist lol
LOL!
I don’t live there, but do visit often. This describes my typical experience when I’m there. NYC gets such a bad rap.
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This is a man deserving of a Nobel Peace Prize, a thousand times more than the orange clown in the WH.
Bravo Sir! Bravo!
I lived in the Bronx in my early 20s. I walked all over the place and used public transit. I was the one giving up my seat, because I was young, but had a VERY similar experience. Reading this brings that all back. :)
I was immersed in a series of experiences through the MTA and living in Germany in my first 18 years that made me [glancing at notes] not an asshole. At this point in my life I found the relative lack of diversity in the most diverse corner of Dallas very strange. My MIL asked what Boba Tea is.
2/ I remember standing in line at the Jewel and counting 6 languages being spoken in line. I didn’t understand any of them. When given the opportunity to move to NYC, I jumped on it. NYC is truly the beautiful melting pot of opportunity. Diversity is what makes us great. ❤️NYC.
1/ Just when you thought we were unredeemable as a city. I feel the same. I was raised in majority white suburb Wisconsin. I learned about diversity at a small state school, many foreign students. Took my first real job in Chicago and was impressed by the beautiful diversity.
I want to buy that man a pizza! What a kindhearted person!
Love this!!!🩷🩷🩷
Reaffirming that reply while straight-middle-aged-white-lady repping Wakefield here in the Bronx
Great neighbor
Life's so much easier without fear. Ignorance is a lot easier to overcome when you quit being scared over "Other". Why else would it be stoked so feverishly by those who benefit from the #StatusCuomo That reader's comment is the future I want.
#StatusCuomo 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you !! <3 I liked it. We're being steadily *****d by Old White Perverts. We can stop it at any time. They're from the Cosby school of consent. They prefer it when we're asleep.
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This! A nice white parent from park slope called into Brian Lehrer Tuesday talking about how she’s afraid for her children’s safety. I’ve lived in this city for 10 years and police presence has never been so robust. Lehrer commented that hope and fear are voting drivers, and maybe we should try hope
Fear has been easy to stoke since 9/11. New Yorkers are way too smart to fall for the same crap for decades. Glad they overcame. Thrilled for Ramdani and the very real chance of some monumental change.
@alt-text.bsky.social #alt4you #alt4me
Pappi has it right.
Nothing like asking people who live there what a place is like.
Maybe they should move Fox News Channel to New York City so they could… [presses ear] I’m sorry, my producer is telling me… they have? From the get go? But then… huh, back to my colleagues at the studio, I guess.
Except, Fox *is* in NYC! maps.app.goo.gl/H3qfwfWuBa6y...
Umm
¯\_(☯෴☯)_/¯
Turns out just going out and telling lies isn’t limited to the internet. You can also do it on TV!
Imagine clicking "dislike" on something so wholesome. Reactionaries are so miserable
Yes. And they want the rest of us to be miserable with them
Imagine what that one dislike person is like. "I HATE GOOD THINGS" *stabs dislike button*
Good advice, too.
@thelouvreof.bsky.social
When do you think the fascists will finally figure out that it just ain't workin' no mo'? That when you go all-out Stephen Miller-xenophobic, you're not exactly catching flies with the majority of the American public? I dread what they will have to come up with for their next act!
Beautifully put.
Best advice right there.
That vile bitch Marjorie Taylor Greene posted this on her facebook page today
Are you fuckin kidding me? This is disgusting.
I wish I was. You should see the comments. Disgusting
I hate her and every terrible thing that she stands for.
It’s just irresponsible and unacceptable especially from a member of Congress. just feeds into the negativity and it encourages violence, which always gets taken out on the wrong people. She NEVER chooses to do good…she’s a sociopath
She's definitely that. And if anyone with with sense ran Twitter, she'd be banned for racism, violence, and ugliness by now. Its just terrible.
Legend
Thank GOD
Wonderful!
Yup. NYC is a patchwork of vibrant communities filled with generous and kind people with roots from all over the country and the planet, interspersed here and there with stupid overpriced housing and boutiques from gentrification.
You can disagree with Zohran's positions without being racist.
Dudes rock
This is NY really with the exception of pockets of wealth. Seriously, working class neighborhoods
White fear is toxic
Thank you for this. Short, simple, succinct and incredibly impactful.
And given what we have seen throughout history, deadly too
Thank you sir ...thank for holding that line ever so quietly but boldly
Love this! I live in ca and feel the same!
What a wonderful comment!
Hey, rich NY slobs: STOP RESISTING!
Papi take my seat. 💜
As someone who lives next to a bunch of Spanish speaking people, I could not agree more and I wouldn't have it any other way.
This took a lovely and unexpected turn; they embrace each other in his neighborhood, look out for each other, what a concept. 💛
Love this!! ❤️
God bless this sweet person
This was SUCH a bad op-ed, it was wild to me that they published it.
Excellent response!! Former NYC resident 1993 thru post-9/11. SWF. Never a problem, never felt uncomfortable or threatened in any part of the City or outer boroughs, which I explored on my own via the [crowded but clean] subway. Ignore the lies & propaganda.
It's true...I too lived in the Bronx...off GunHill Rd and Jerome Ave and never once got hassled ...same thing in Queens both Forest Hills and Jamaica. It's how you act towards others that makes the difference. Want to be an asshole? Be prepared for an asskicking
What he described is the New York I love. Opportunistic leeches like Trump and Kushner try to bleed the city of humanity but New York must always remain true to its roots.
I feel the same way when people describe Minneapolis as a hellish smoldering pile of rubble.
Ditto with living in Chicago
I love Chicago.
What a great response. Papi is one cool dude.
My kinda guy. True. Travel is the best education if you can’t visit ethnic neighborhoods. Their festivities showcase their culture & try their food. It will be a great experience
When you walk into a Panera here, you see customers of every background, language, and color. If some think that is an objectionable environment, loosening up is good advice.
"Maybe you'd feel better about 'X' if you relaxed a bit and smiled more" and something a lot of us should take to heart.
Epic. Legendary. Right the FUCK on the nose. How many other(s) of us have similar stories? I do. All I can pretty much say is SAME and the rest of you PLEASE sound off like you got a pair. "A changed world starts with one changed individual."
I love this!
smile? not scowl? I can't image Justice Alito every deigning to do such a thing!
Republicans only smile for the camera and the smile never reaches their eyes
Great post although im wondering why he doesn't learn a bit if spanish
This is when it gets annoying again, doesn’t matter from which side. Because he doesn’t have to. He also doesn’t have to explain anything. He minds his own business and is happy like this, all up to him. Just stop telling people how to live.
I know he doesn't have to. I guess because I'm British and curious, I'd want to be able to communicate better, so I'd learn a bit of Spanish. Suppose that's the difference between being European or American.